2019, was really not a good year. There was a lot of pain, some backsliding. i’m not sure that the joys balanced it out. Will going over what happened help it make sense? Probably not. So instead of looking back, i thought i’d look forward.

2020, a new decade.  Well, unless you’re my co-worker who insists that the new decade won’t start until Jan 2021, but i digress. While i’m not one to make “New Year’s Resolutions,” i’ve gotten a head start at a better year.

Phil and i are making more of an effort to have real date nights. Time when we can concentrate on just us. It’s been nice going to dinner and talking about things other than kids, and what needs to be taken care of at home. 

i’ve started taking a supplement again, in order to get better sleep. Life is hard sometimes. It can be harder if you aren't sleeping well.

i’ve renewed my commitment to having breakfast every morning, and eating a real lunch. It makes a difference in my productivity and mood when i'm not hungry.  The hardest part of this, is that when i wasn't eating well, i started snacking again. Now i find that i'm craving the sugar again.

i was given one of those smart watches that can track your movement during the day. It’s been set for moving 55 minutes every day. There’s a feature that reminds me to get up from my desk and move. What makes this one particularly easy is that most everyone in my office gets up to walk several times each day.

i’m learning to leave work, at work. To not go over my to do list once i leave the office, and worry about what i wasn't able to take care of.  Coupled with this is trying to remember that it's important to take a day off now and then. A real day off, not just a day to run errands, and attending to other "adulting" tasks.

i’ve done a lot of work on forgiveness that will continue in the new year. Though i’ll never be able to forget the hurts, i’ve started calling my parents a couple of times a week.

i am making an effort to keep the lines of communication open with my siblings. The events of last fall drove home the fact that life can, and does, change in an instant.. We feel that it’s also important since our parents haven’t been forthcoming with me regarding their health.

i realize that there are going to be things that happen that i will have no control over; but these things, these things i can control.

i hope that 2020 is good for you and yours, that you achieve your goals and never stop reaching for your dreams.

 Happy New Year