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From Reddit: Young men are dropping out of society because it's abundantly clear nobody gives a shit about them



Found the following on Reddit's "Unpopular Opinion" Sub.



The majority of homeless people are men. The majority of suicide deaths are men. Young men graduate college less than young women. Young women are out-earning young men. Single women are more likely to own a home than single men. There are gross discrepancies in the amount of government aid available to men and that available to women.

Yet I've never seen women marching to end male homelessness. I've never heard a radio ad about raising money for prostate cancer. I've never seen a commercial asking men if maybe it's time to give college a second chance. Literally, nobody cares if you live or die. Nobody cares if you're educated or fulfilled. Nobody cares about you.

And you will be openly mocked, belittled, and humiliated if you don't fit into the predefined social mold that exists for men. Homeless? Fuck off. Small dick? Haha. Suicidal? Ew.

Why bother trying to be part of society that at best ignores you, and at worst is openly antagonistic towards you? I've seen so many articles like this: "Why are young men dropping out? It must be because educated women scare them." They always come to the same, obtuse, and illogical conclusions. "Men are just stupid/lazy/useless/onerous in some way, I guess. Women are better anyways."

Young men are dropping out because they are treated by society like actual, literal disposable objects. That's the real reason.


I've seen this happened to friends, I've felt this happened to myself.

I can say with 100% accuracy that the part about less social services for men vrs. women is 100% true. As someone on Disability, and still fighting for it, there is virtually nothing I qualify for. After four years I'm still on a waiting list for an apartment through a transient program. I've been passed over several times now for women and single parents. Thank the gods for a generous Uncle who has allowed me to live on his couch for the past four years, or I'd been on the streets.

Anyways, with some of the responses that the post has garnered has proven the writer's point. For myself, I agree with this Unpopular Opinion, and felt a need to share the post.



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It is very true, and very sad. 

It's funny, my nephew, who is gay, likes women, likes they are educated and able. This generation of young men are more likely to believe more in equal rights for everyone. 

Educated people … all of us … is a good thing. 

One day, I hope this 'them vs us' thing stops. I long for days when we are all people together, no matter your colour, creed, orientation, gender, or nationality. 

To be otherwise is waste of all of our potential. 

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Indicative of the problem: when I first started to answer this, my first thought was this is going to be political and piss someone off. My brain immediately went into self-censorship mode so, I won't say that feminism has gone overboard and completely f*cked men.

I won't say that sex crime laws have been weaponized against men and, it  is entirely too easy to destroy a man's life on the scantest of evidence- even simply one persons word.

I won't say that in scholarships, preference goes to females- even in fields that they aren't all that interested in. Especially in fields they aren't interested in. If you are female, have the math aptitude and pretend you are interested in a STEM career, you will be recruited like a star athlete.

I won't say that men take it in the neck in divorce court and often lose their kids even when the woman is demonstrably unfit.

I won't say that men are getting the shaft in all sort of ways because it simply goes without saying.

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