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Dom,

 

Age doesn't matter. It really doesn't. Not once you hit 17 anyway. So what's wrong with getting to know this guy and having a relationship? Maybe he'll be "the one", or maybe he'll just end up being a friend.

 

That said, I think it's different to decide to be with someone based on their age BEFORE the relationship than after it starts. I mean, if you know how old someone is before dating, and that's part of the criterion, you can focus on making the guy into a friend. If it happens AFTER, then you're kind of stuck in a mental/ethical dilemma.

 

Why? Because if it happens after you start dating then if you break it off because of age difference, it makes you look, in my opinion, kind of shallow. Like you don't like the guy for his personality, his sexual prowess, his appearance...just because he's a little older.

 

But hey...as an old guy I'm biased.

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Umm, yeah.

 

So, I was just about to do my blog and I decided to read yours. Not a slut, huh? Okay. :P

 

Anyway, where were you last night? Did you get my thingy? I haven't heard from you in over 24 hrs.

 

Take your nap and then let me know, mkay kid?

 

Matt

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Dom isn't the shallow type. there's also nothing wrong with so and so's appearance, or his personality... gee Dom, I hope it

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34 is a great age to be, young enough to still have fun, old enough to know when to quit.

 

 

Yes, I'm 34 as well.

 

When I was twenty-one I dated a guy who was 34 for a few weeks. The reason it didn't work out really had nothing to do with the age difference (he was a multi-millionaire and wanted an arm-trophy, not a partner). Dom, the trick is going to be to communicate well. That doesn't mean always agreeing (Just ask Robert), but it means sharing what you're thinking/feeling and listening to him when he shares his thoughts/feeling.

 

Do that, and just about any relationship can work...

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When I first saw your forum post, I didn't respond even though I've been there too. My first "long-term" relationship was with me 24 and him 37. And in retrospect, I don't think the actual age was as big of a problem as where we were in life. I was still in college (don't ask - it took me a while) and he had been married, divorced and owned a townhouse. Ie - very settled and wanted something exciting, where as I was wanting some settling. So at the beginning it worked out good but after six months, he was viewing me as too settled and not exciting enough (lots of other issues but that was a big part).

 

Others have said it and I agree - if it feels good, go for it. Down the line, the age should have less impact. But talk now, talk then... talk. And enjoy :)

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Gee, should I mention that when she passed away, my mom was 48 and dating a guy who was 27 (funny thing was...I was 27 at the time).

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Dom,

if you enjoy his company then go for it hun, age really isnt that big a factor. believe me, you'll no sooner blink your eyes and you'll be 30ish yourself (i dont wanna turn 29 :( but i suppose it beats the alternatives :P )

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you're 21? :blink:

no kidding! and i was thinking, this guy writes so well, he has to be AT LEAST in his thirties. you're just 21. I'M 22!!!!!

 

sorry, that probably wasn't what i should be responding to; i agree the rest of the gang, as long as you're feeling good in the relationship, i don't think age should be a problem. the way i see it, based on your stories, you're probably more mature than a normal 21 y.o.; and maybe the guy you're seeing is just a young 34 y.o. WITHOUT being a cradle robber.

 

i still can't believe you're 21. did i read that right? you're younger than me. and probably a whole lot more mature than me, too. i confess, i'm such a big kid.

by the way, i wanted to post a message ages ago to tell you how great your stories are. i started with "the log way" because a friend told me i would like it -- and i did. i visited your website and read all the chapters that you hadn't posted on nifty; then proceded to read "desert droppings" and "the ordinary us" the same night. i thought i should post a comment to tell you how much i enjoyed them, but i'm shy... and since everyone seemed to know every one when i read their comments, i got even shyer... but 21! damn, i had to respond to that. suddenly, being "older", i grew a pair of balls, like it seems. B)

 

well, i'll be waiting like the others for "tou" 17... i think we're all vvveeerrrryyy impatient. but i guess the wait is part of the fun too. you keep us always wanting more!

 

take care,

tommy.

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you're 21? :blink:

no kidding!  and i was thinking, this guy writes so well, he has to be AT LEAST in his thirties.  you're just 21.  I'M 22!!!!!

 

sorry, that probably wasn't what i should be responding to; i agree the rest of the gang, as long as you're feeling good in the relationship, i don't think age should be a problem.  the way i see it, based on your stories, you're probably more mature than a normal 21 y.o.; and maybe the guy you're seeing is just a young 34 y.o. WITHOUT being a cradle robber.

 

i still can't believe you're 21.  did i read that right?  you're younger than me.  and probably a whole lot more mature than me, too.  i confess, i'm such a big kid.

by the way, i wanted to post a message ages ago to tell you how great your stories are.  i started with "the log way" because a friend told me i would like it -- and i did.  i visited your website and read all the chapters that you hadn't posted on nifty; then proceded to read "desert droppings" and "the ordinary us" the same night.  i thought i should post a comment to tell you how much i enjoyed them, but i'm shy... and since everyone seemed to know every one when i read their comments, i got even shyer... but 21!  damn, i had to respond to that.  suddenly, being "older", i grew a pair of balls, like it seems. B)

 

well, i'll be waiting like the others for "tou" 17... i think we're all vvveeerrrryyy impatient.  but i guess the wait is part of the fun too.  you keep us always wanting more!

 

take care,

tommy.

tommy, the only reason we all seem to know everyone is because at some point we joined and started posting. New blood is critical to keeping a place here for authors like Dom to have a nice home. Now if you think about it, if you were a member and participated in all the forums, you not only would have known how old Dom is, but you would also know exactly where he is pierced and what he wants to pierce next.

 

Think about it, we don't bite very hard, and only in the places that you like. [note that this may sound like flirting, but 1. he is not in his teens, and 2. I am trying to entice him into becoming a member ]

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Dom....I agree with Val..don't become an "ageist"...it is a number..some people I have dated are older then me and acted like children with no sense..I have dated younger guys who are mature and well balanced. Age is a number....how about instead you look at the person and the qualities you like in them and how much you enjoy being with them. The rest, with communication, and mutual chemistry, takes care of itself. You seem to like each other (geez, even your Dad likes your guy) and so go with it...you both will learn lots from each other, enjoy each other's company and its part of love, life and living....enjoy it....all the best, always:)

 

Michael

 

P.S. Pastor Snow Dog, that is just you being your own welcome Wagon....relax, the unregistered guest, will hopefully become a Member and join in the fun....he will learn soon enough your playful puppy dog sense of humor...its all good:)

 

Michael

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Guest fayevalentine

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um... hi I'm super shy... no thats not true... I'm slow to warm up... so once comfortable you can't shut me up LOL. Thats why I have't posted b4. But you alll seem really nice here, and hopefully will warm up and post more.

 

I love Dom's stories ^.^

I recommend them to all my friends, especially those who write.

I discovered them through nifty and even spent 50$ on my phone bill, reading TLW on my cellphone while on vaccation. ^^;;

I couldn't put it down. and my family was thinking I was a bit rude cuz i spend my whole vaccation with my cell in front of my face.

And about 3/4 of the way through I was thinking, "I wish there was a story from Denise's POV." LOL, so YAY I can't wait for it. And I eagerly await the next ch of TOU.

 

About the age thing, Age shouldn't matter. My bf's parents are 20 years apart and have been together for 26 years. Besides, life is too short to worry about it, just do what feels right.

Besides, I have a thing for japanese rockstars who are almost twice my age, but look younger than me <.<;;

(but can you blame me) *hides* So ya I'm not one to judge.

 

ttyl^^,

FAYE

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Well, I know a guy who's partner is 17 years younger than he is, and they've been together for five year so far. It seems to work out for them, and that's all that really matters.

 

If you're going to be in a serious relationship, communication will a big thing, given the difference in experience that you two have. If this is casual, well... have fun. :)

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Hi Dom!

 

First of all, I LOVE your stories and I will be expecting to see an update soon...got that mister?

 

As far as your dilemma, I say go for it! Life is too short to spend it wondering if something stupid like age is important if you really like the guy. I mean, if you didn't know his age would you still be hesitating? Other people have already stated that they have family members who were far apart in age and I will add mine. My grandparents met when my grandma was 14 and my grandpa was 22 and married to another woman. Six children, 9 grandchildren, and 1 great grandchild later, they are still together and happy. Age has very little to do with the success of a relationship. If you are wondering what others will think about the age gap, don't. If others have a problem with it and you don't, then they just have too much time on their hands.

 

I think it rather funny that you posted this when you did. I am in a similar situation...sorta. Only I am the older woman. Its a much smaller age gap but he's still in high school. We're best friends but he does think I'm too old for him and it kills me. If you have the chance Dom, go for it. Then you will never have to wonder.

 

Regards,

Zarcie

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um.  hmmm.  aaa.  :devil: so does thet mean I can like date Unka Dom if I want 2?

 

Only if you want to get Unka Dom arrested.

 

Hi Mike. :)

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I agree with the billion other people who've all said the exact same thing- Age doesn't matter(cradle-robbers aside). Hey, if they're hot and interesting, why not?(LOL) Seriously though, if you like him, forget about numbers. They absolutely don't matter once you're eighteen or so(i love how i say numbers don't matter and then use one all in the same sentence).

 

Side note- Hello, fellow new people! Tommy, I know exactly how you felt, everybody kinda knows everybody on here, kinda psychs you out a lil bit. But I've been on the Other Side of this type of thing too, they really aren't blackstoning(ha, i just made that word up. sounds impressive don't it?) us... I hope :P

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tommy, the only reason we all seem to know everyone is because at some point we joined and started posting.  New blood is critical to keeping a place here for authors like Dom to have a nice home.  Now if you think about it, if you were a member and participated in all the forums, you not only would have known how old Dom is, but you would also know exactly where he is pierced and what he wants to pierce next.

 

Think about it, we don't bite very hard, and only in the places that you like.  [note that this may sound like flirting, but 1. he is not in his teens, and 2.  I am trying to entice him into becoming a member ]

 

and 3. i may not be in my teens anymore but i look like i'm 16 -- what am i saying, that's in my good days, the rest of the time, i pass for a 14 y.o. -- no kidding! no wonder i don't act my age and tend to be juvenile: people expect >that< from me, *laughs*. anyway, i meant to say, you're looking like you want to go to jail, snowdog, when you flirt around with a guy who looks like he's 14 :P

and 4. who sayz i want to know where dom is pierced and what he what he wants to pierce next?

(>where< are you pierced, dom? and what do you want to pierce next??? -- just kidding, i don't really need to know, *chuckles*)

 

anyway, just like faye, i tend to be shy, but once you got me going, you can't stop me (have you noticed, yet?)!

by the way, faye, i did the same thing as you once except on my computer, until my mom got fed up with me being in my room >all< the time!

 

take care peops,

tommy, the unregistered guest :P

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"desert droppings"

 

hahahahaha! I'm glad I'm not the only one who keeps adding an s to the title.

Welcome to the board, Tommy!

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:unsure: ok

Now I realize we have discussed this topic ad infinitim. However, now I am thinking that if Dom brought it up, it has to bother him. Therefore, what we say must be taken with his perspective into account.

He said that he did not know the guys age at first and was surprised. Second, he said he has dated older men in the past-correct? Therfore, there may be something in the guys personality that is niggling him.

This may be the part that adds to the "relationship" to make the age more than a number.

Once there are two consenting adults, then I think age seems to matter less. But thinking back to the fact that you said you are not into relationships, and this is just a time passer, do not spend the time passing with you in turmoil.

You may be 21 now but soon you will see time passes quickly and you will be 34 soon enough and giggling as you will be in the similar predicament.

ok i think I rattled enough here. :blink::whistle:

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tommy, the only reason we all seem to know everyone is because at some point we joined and started posting.  New blood is critical to keeping a place here for authors like Dom to have a nice home.  Now if you think about it, if you were a member and participated in all the forums, you not only would have known how old Dom is, but you would also know exactly where he is pierced and what he wants to pierce next.

 

Think about it, we don't bite very hard, and only in the places that you like.  [note that this may sound like flirting, but 1. he is not in his teens, and 2.  I am trying to entice him into becoming a member ]

 

and 3. i may not be in my teens anymore but i look like i'm 16 -- what am i saying, that's in my good days, the rest of the time, i pass for a 14 y.o. -- no kidding! no wonder i don't act my age and tend to be juvenile: people expect >that< from me, *laughs*. anyway, i meant to say, you're looking like you want to go to jail, snowdog, when you flirt around with a guy who looks like he's 14 :P

and 4. who sayz i want to know where dom is pierced and what he what he wants to pierce next?

(>where< are you pierced, dom? and what do you want to pierce next??? -- just kidding, i don't really need to know, *chuckles*)

 

anyway, just like faye, i tend to be shy, but once you got me going, you can't stop me (have you noticed, yet?)!

by the way, faye, i did the same thing as you once except on my computer, until my mom got fed up with me being in my room >all< the time!

 

take care peops,

tommy, the unregistered guest :P

Why would I go to jail if you are "no longer" a teen, but only look like one?

 

Snowey

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Why would I go to jail if you are "no longer" a teen, but only look like one?

 

Snowey

 

 

um, cause i might lie to the cops and tell them i'm 16?

just kidding, snowdog, i don't want to sound aggressive or anything, but i am fully aware that i can be pest. sorry if i've angered you in any way, i'll try to remember to >think< before i speak *chuckles* i really hope you haven't taken this in a bad way.

take care,

tommy.

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Why would I go to jail if you are "no longer" a teen, but only look like one?

 

Snowey

 

 

um, cause i might lie to the cops and tell them i'm 16?

just kidding, snowdog, i don't want to sound aggressive or anything, but i am fully aware that i can be pest. sorry if i've angered you in any way, i'll try to remember to >think< before i speak *chuckles* i really hope you haven't taken this in a bad way.

take care,

tommy.

ROFLMAO

 

I always find it funny when people are afraid they have made me angry, or if I find them annoying. Most people who anger me don't actually have time to realize it. The sudden loss of blood to their brain when I rip their throat out tends to lessen their congitive abilities.

 

:king: Snow Dog

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