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Doing a page a day isn't original.

 

Neither is typing it up... maybe I should scribble it all down on a rock and try to send that out over the Internet that way. Could be a challenge. Or, maybe I

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"Neither is typing it up... maybe I should scribble it all down on a rock and try to send that out over the Internet that way. Could be a challenge. Or, maybe I

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Dominic,

 

It appears that this other person would like more positive attention from you than you are giving or have given in the past.

 

By him asking you to call him chopped liver, he wants you to give more. Unfortunately, you may not be able to give him all he truly desires.

 

Sounds like this person is attracted to you and anything short of you throwing yourself at him will be a disappointment (to him).

 

He needs to get over it and be satisfied with the level of friendship you can provide or.....who knows. :blink:

 

But don't let him guilt you.

 

Vic

 

P.S. - I love the blog a day short story idea!

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Well I don't know, but perhaps one explanation for your friends odd behavior is that it had more to do with him and less to do with you. I mean it's just the impression I got but if the conversation was going normally, and he's really not an A** by nature, then perhaps he was more calling himself chopped liver, like for real, and not implying anything about you. Like when people say they are fat, or ugly, or stupid, what they really want is for the other person to say "no you're thin, beautiful, and smart". Is he the kinda guy that's always down on himself? And did he say it in a hostle way, or more of a sad, whiney way? And did he actually say anything about the way you were treating him? I don't know maybe I'm reaching, I just thought perhaps he had self-esteem issues, and was simply looking for some reaffirmation.

 

On the other hand some people can get very hostle very quickly seemingly for no reason at all. Once a couple of years ago I was in the middle of a perfectly normal conversation with two co-workers and we were literally laughing and having a good time when one of them suddenly turned to me and told me that I had really P*** her off the day before. So perhaps the comfortable, causal conversation put the guy at ease enough to tell you something, who knows. But either way I'd try to talk to him about it, if he's someone who matters to you.

 

By the way I loved chapter 18 of TOU and am really enjoying the story, have a great weekend!

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... maybe I should scribble it all down on a rock and try to send that out over the Internet that way. Could be a challenge. Or, maybe I
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I'm no psychologist, but your friend sounds passive aggressive to me. Hidden resentment, unable to express feelings in a rational or any kind of direct way, so it builds up and either comes out in back stabbing/game playing/perverse retribution or else as unexpected and sudden outbursts. You can visit here http://www.nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus/ency/article/000943.htm and see if this sounds like your friend (or not).

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Dom, did the conversation take place in person? over the phone? online via chat? and like A Friendly Face said, what was the tone of the other person (sarcastic, whining, self pitying, pissed, upset, etc.) Maybe it is about their current emotional state...and has nothing to do with you..these things usually do...maybe give it a day or so and go to the person who made the comment and ask him or her what they meant...have them explain it and listen to what is said...that may help you figure it out. Then ask them what they meant by it and what were they feeling when they said it.

 

I bet it has nothing to do with you but maybe how they feel about themselves at the moment.

 

Worth a shot, since you said you like the other person.

 

As you would say, "don't over think it" and tell the person you didn't understand the comment and you aren't asking to be snide or rude but you felt dense and didn't get what they meant and the comment has been on your mind and it would help you out to understand what the comment meant and why the said it and what they were feeling...that should "disarm" the person to speak and examine what they said.....

 

I bet that will help and open up communication....maybe they were having a bad day and reflecting their emotional state by projecting onto you..

 

I am not a therapist either..but who knows maybe that's what its about.....or it could be the person was just having a really bad day....and you got hit with their issues/stuff....

 

Hang in there and hey, a blog entry a day of spooky stuff is cool....(I tend not to like ghoul but in small doses with some intrigue on a blog entry....builds suspense and the final BOO on Halloween....sounds COOL to me:)

 

Michael

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Doing a page a day isn't original.

 

Neither is typing it up... maybe I should scribble it all down on a rock and try to send that out over the Internet that way. Could be a challenge. Or, maybe I

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