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BeaStKid

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....frustrated, angry, broken, sick and tired of all this!hairpull.gif

 

Most of you know of my plans to go abroad for undergrad studies. Some also know that I had set my eyes on either UC Berkeley or SFSU.

 

Well, last night I was discussing this with my Mom and sister. They asked me to find out the total costs. I checked the sites and the estimate the Uni's put up. It turned out to be an annual Rs. 2,000,000 for UC Berkeley and Rs. 1,000,000 for SFSU for the course of my choice. (that makes me wanna go off tangent, but I'll stop myself and talk about that later)

 

Today, we (me and Mom) went for a movie and were joined (coincidently) by Saurabh and some of his friends. I had a swell time sitting with him.......the usual subtle touches included. :wub:

 

On my way back was when things got heated up. I told my mother about the cost. But before I go into that, I must tell what happened the night before when I told them the course of my choice.

 

I have chosen International Relations. While most of you wouldn't even blink an eye over that and just say it is a good course with a lot of prospects.....but no, my Mom and sister aren't like that...They had to go off on their rant about whether it is good or not, ultimately making me shout out that am I a fool so as to select a course that would not give me a career?

 

Well, the topic cropped up again when we were headed home. I told her about the cost and she scoffed. Literally...

 

Agreed that 2,000,000 is too much for a year (and I am going for three years) but what about SFSU? She was shopping for Rs. 250,000 worth of diamonds a few hours before that, and she says that she cannot invest in a boy who is not mature?

 

She says that I am not matured enough to go abroad...that 19 is too young an age to shift there...that the Uni is too god damn expensive (agreed)...that the undergraduate program is not good in US ( :o )... that the course I have chosen is not worth anything...

 

I have been getting this feeling that she wants a puppet rather than a son ever since I was 'manoeuvred' to take Science subjects in grade 11... I had never wanted to take those subjects, but you know the drill...

 

"Other subjects are also great, they also offer a lot of opportunities...BUT..."

 

Yeah..the ever important BUT... this BUT always makes it clear that it's either my way or the highway. And as if that is not enough an indicator of that fact, read on what she has to say when I said that I do not want to do Engineering.

 

"What will you do then? BA? Fine, then. Take up a job and do BA privately. I will not waste money on you doing BA...and you will not get into a full time BA college and go astray."

 

I don't know where I will go from here. I do not want to destroy my life by doing Engineering, a field that I am not in the least interested and where I know that I will not succeed. And she has made it pretty clear that she's not with me for BA (full-time course).

 

I feel so helpless, so frustrated at my situation... I literally feel like crying... or screaming...

 

God help me!

 

BeaStKid

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Perhaps, you should consider a degree in law, specifically a specialty in international law. Then, she might like the idea more. Also, California is really expensive. Just ask some of the members from California. They will tell you. I hope I have given you something to think about.

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Perhaps, you should consider a degree in law, specifically a specialty in international law. Then, she might like the idea more. Also, California is really expensive. Just ask some of the members from California. They will tell you. I hope I have given you something to think about.

:lol: indeed...Mom suggested Law... but I don't want to become a lawyer...I want to be a diplomat... (yeah..I'm getting trained right at home for this job!!)

 

I agree, Cali is expensive... But I can't think of any other place...but now even that is squashed (her comment about Undergrad courses there)

 

SIGH!!

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:( I'm really sorry to hear that! I would be a total wreck if my mom told me she wasn't going to waste money on my education.

 

I'd suggest shopping around and not just fixing your hopes on Cal. Maybe there are other uni's abroad that are less expensive. I don't know what the financial aid policies of US uni's are for international students, but you could always check.

 

Although my mom isn't as much as a Nazi, I know what it's like to have parents pressuring and pressuring you to do science/engineering/math/something-useful. It must be an Asian parent thing. On the other hand, maybe you're actually pretty good at engineering, and doing it wouldn't be half bad. Do you know what a major in international relations would be like? or a major in engineering? If I were in your place, I would have to be very sure of myself, because the tuition would be such an investment that I would feel horrible if it ended up being "wasted." also, I'm a bit slanted, because I ended up deciding to do engineering. But I think it's a good choice. I wanted something more immediate than basic research and more solid than the humanities. I also wanted to do math, because I suck at it. Weird reason, I know. Could be the masochist in me talking. At the same time, engineering isn't my "life aspiration," so to speak. I want to be an author, but the reality is that writing is a bad way of making a living. And I don't think a lot of good authors started off as full time writers.

 

By the way, the whole "go astray" thing makes me want to claw my eyes out. I know exactly what that feels like. Grr. :(:angry::ph34r: :wacko:

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:( I'm really sorry to hear that! I would be a total wreck if my mom told me she wasn't going to waste money on my education.

 

I'd suggest shopping around and not just fixing your hopes on Cal. Maybe there are other uni's abroad that are less expensive. I don't know what the financial aid policies of US uni's are for international students, but you could always check.

 

Although my mom isn't as much as a Nazi, I know what it's like to have parents pressuring and pressuring you to do science/engineering/math/something-useful. It must be an Asian parent thing. On the other hand, maybe you're actually pretty good at engineering, and doing it wouldn't be half bad. Do you know what a major in international relations would be like? or a major in engineering? If I were in your place, I would have to be very sure of myself, because the tuition would be such an investment that I would feel horrible if it ended up being "wasted." also, I'm a bit slanted, because I ended up deciding to do engineering. But I think it's a good choice. I wanted something more immediate than basic research and more solid than the humanities. I also wanted to do math, because I suck at it. Weird reason, I know. Could be the masochist in me talking. At the same time, engineering isn't my "life aspiration," so to speak. I want to be an author, but the reality is that writing is a bad way of making a living. And I don't think a lot of good authors started off as full time writers.

 

By the way, the whole "go astray" thing makes me want to claw my eyes out. I know exactly what that feels like. Grr. :(:angry::ph34r: :wacko:

Corvus... I am not the least interested in Engineering. I hate the God damned subjects. :wacko: I have always wanted to take up a more creative arts type of field and that is why I love to write. I agree that most writers do not start out as that, and that is why I am thinking of doing something, but not engineering.

 

Hey young man :lol:

Take it easy and be

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Are Berkely and San Francisco the only program's you're interested in, or were they the best ones you could find? Because here int he US, I'm sure there are other universities that offer undergrad courses in International Relations, and they're probably located in places that are cheaper to live than California.

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Are Berkely and San Francisco the only program's you're interested in, or were they the best ones you could find? Because here int he US, I'm sure there are other universities that offer undergrad courses in International Relations, and they're probably located in places that are cheaper to live than California.

Yes, I think they are...I am looking at other options for Unis as well...Preferably in US or Australia.

 

Today I went to an overseas counselling institute for guidance on SATs and TOEFL. I am joining their program, affiliated to KAPLAN, from tomorrow itself.

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Hey BSK,

I can imagine the frustration, and the call of the wild that makes you want to study abroad. I've done it, and derived great pleasure and experience from it, so I wouldn't want to refrain you from trying for it. I hope it works out fine and that you don't get into more feuds with your parents over the issue.

Hugs.

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Hey BSK,

I can imagine the frustration, and the call of the wild that makes you want to study abroad. I've done it, and derived great pleasure and experience from it, so I wouldn't want to refrain you from trying for it. I hope it works out fine and that you don't get into more feuds with your parents over the issue.

Hugs.

Thanks Francois,

 

I hope the same. :)

 

There have been latest developments... I'll post them later tonight...

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