W_L Posted November 27, 2023 Posted November 27, 2023 @PrivateTim inspired this thread with his question on promiscuity, it made me think about the nature of attachments and relationships. Interesting thing I've noticed over the years, despite the romance novels I read and write, there's a noticeable lack of cuddling among gay/bi guys that I've dated. I haven't had any long-term relationships greater than 6-months, but I wonder if it's a lack of partners or a lack of physical interaction when I think deeper. (Sexual interaction aside, cuddling is a separate pre and post-sexual ritual of intimate embrace.) There was an interesting entry in Psychology Today relating to the efficacy of Cuddling as beneficial to human bonding that relates to this effect: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/close-communication/202204/4-reasons-couples-should-cuddle-more There's no study on the subject of the various kinds of cuddling among various kinds of partners, but the human touch is known to promote chemicals related to pleasure and elation within the body. I am wondering if this actually ties in with cuddling based on personal experience. 3
PrivateTim Posted November 28, 2023 Posted November 28, 2023 Cuddling? Do I LOOK like an Obama pajama boy? 1
ranchered Posted November 28, 2023 Posted November 28, 2023 I cuddle my furry four legged friend many times over the day, and not because it's been 7F for a few mornings... If there was a human male here too, cuddles are good in my romantic book. 1
W_L Posted November 28, 2023 Author Posted November 28, 2023 22 hours ago, PrivateTim said: Cuddling? Do I LOOK like an Obama pajama boy? You'd be surprised at how few people of that persuasion like to cuddle To me good cuddling should not have any pajamas, but maybe I am just too free for certain folks
Popular Post LJCC Posted December 2, 2023 Popular Post Posted December 2, 2023 I cuddle my cat, but he chooses violence. And I'm a masochist, so I choose to cuddle him despite him threatening my life with his claws. I'm like the clingy boyfriend, always following him around, while he sees me as an annoying human he can't get rid of. I'm just a food factory to him. Quote Me: why won't you love me? Cat: scratches face. 1 6
W_L Posted December 2, 2023 Author Posted December 2, 2023 4 hours ago, LJCC said: I cuddle my cat, but he chooses violence. And I'm a masochist, so I choose to cuddle him despite him threatening my life with his claws. I'm like the clingy boyfriend, always following him around, while he sees me as an annoying human he can't get rid of. I'm just a food factory to him. Your cat sounds like tsundere, he probably will get lonely if your lap isn't there to settle his claw on or your face isn't beaming when you cuddle him. If this were any BL/MM gay romance, you just need to give him a few days of the cold shoulder and visit a few friends with other cats to get their scent on you, he'll get jealous and possessive On 11/28/2023 at 4:59 PM, ranchered said: I cuddle my furry four legged friend many times over the day, and not because it's been 7F for a few mornings... If there was a human male here too, cuddles are good in my romantic book. We've seen temp dip below 27F/-2C, I wish I had my old dog, who loved to cuddle. However, he also had an angry and destructive streak, when he didn't get his way. He was timid around other dogs but seemed rather fond of a neighborhood male cat.
PrivateTim Posted December 2, 2023 Posted December 2, 2023 8 hours ago, LJCC said: I cuddle my cat, but he chooses violence. And I'm a masochist, so I choose to cuddle him despite him threatening my life with his claws. I'm like the clingy boyfriend, always following him around, while he sees me as an annoying human he can't get rid of. I'm just a food factory to him. I'd laugh if I didn't know how true that is. 4
W_L Posted December 2, 2023 Author Posted December 2, 2023 16 minutes ago, PrivateTim said: I'd laugh if I didn't know how true that is. I always thought you'd be a tough love sort of pet guy with a bit of denial to balance out the affection. So you do have a soft side? 1
CassieQ Posted December 3, 2023 Posted December 3, 2023 11 hours ago, LJCC said: I cuddle my cat, but he chooses violence. And I'm a masochist, so I choose to cuddle him despite him threatening my life with his claws. I'm like the clingy boyfriend, always following him around, while he sees me as an annoying human he can't get rid of. I'm just a food factory to him. As a fellow cat owner, this is 100% accurate 1 1
Krista Posted December 7, 2023 Posted December 7, 2023 Hmm.. I had to train my husband to be a cuddler... which is odd because he's a severe mother's boy and s'mothers liked to cuddle their children. He's quite good at it when there isn't a game on the television he's really into. I have been dumped out into the floor before. Although, if we're actively having a conversation or something, I don't like to cuddle. I want physical touch, like I'll rest my legs in his lap or something.. but I want to be able to look at him whilst I talk to him. Cuddling to me, is more for a comfortable silence. I wish my children were still cuddly, they are not... they have grown into their full on pre-teen brat phase and I fear for my sanity. 1 1
PrivateTim Posted December 7, 2023 Posted December 7, 2023 On 12/2/2023 at 3:16 PM, W_L said: I always thought you'd be a tough love sort of pet guy with a bit of denial to balance out the affection. You can't play mind games with a cat. You will lose. 2
W_L Posted December 8, 2023 Author Posted December 8, 2023 On 12/6/2023 at 8:19 PM, PrivateTim said: You can't play mind games with a cat. You will lose. It's why I loved my dog. He was manipulative but willing to accept a bitter pill as long as you can give him bacon Plus sleep-wise, dogs are better cuddlers than cats. 1 1
Page Scrawler Posted February 7 Posted February 7 On 12/6/2023 at 8:06 PM, Krista said: I wish my children were still cuddly, they are not... they have grown into their full on pre-teen brat phase and I fear for my sanity. My kid still likes to cuddle when we watch a movie on the weekend. He's nearly twelve now, so I don't know how much longer I have until he becomes the same as your kids. I'll just try to enjoy every moment while it lasts.
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