I just realized I never came back here and thanked everyone for their wonderful recommendations. So THANK YOU.
I've read through a bunch more stories and am about to finish up With Trust by DomLuka (an absolutely fantastic story that I somehow looked over before because the 5-word synopses had me thinking it was an inter-generational story which I have zero interest in).
Here are some of the stories I've read through and enjoyed recently:
Zac and Kayden stories
Black Star Cross
Are You A Christian by Krista
It Started With Brian
Life's A Grind by Jack Sage
From Behind Those Eyes
Matthew Figures It Out
New to this State
Prom by Cole Parker
Someday Out of the Blue
Tristan's Redemption
It's very difficult to keep track of the stories I've read or what I'm planning on reading since so many of them have literally no synopsis or hit of story besides an author and title.
A few of the stories I've started but stopped for whatever reason:
A Class by Himself by Comicality, Good Guys Finish Last by Krista, From Where I Stand by Kansekji, Love in a Chair, New Kid in School, One Moonlit Night, Perry & Jesse, A Place in my Heart by Bill W., Wes & Toren, Chris and Nigel, Everybody's Wounded, For the Love by C James, Get There by John Doe, Josh Evolving, Just Hit Send by Grasshopper, Max and Josh, Moving On by Jack Frost, Rich Boy by dkstories, Roll Call by Ricky, Roommates by Krista, A Special Place, Turbulence, What We Are – Richie's Story, Here's Looking At You Kid/Triptychs by Douglas
I can't say why I stopped reading these, they're just in my folder for stories I started but haven't gone back to. I usually stop reading a story if:
It's less than 100,000 words long
It's set in a historical era or has extreme science fiction or fantasy elements (Do Over was great cause the only scifi stuff was the time travel)
There is sex in the first chapter (I don't mind some sex scenes but I don't want to read 50% smut)
The character is out to everyone at the start of the story
The side characters (friends and family) aren't well drawn three dimensional characters. In so many stories, it feels like “mom” isn't even given a name. I think this is why DomLuka's stories are so great, I'd probably read a spin off centering on the straight side characters if he wrote it.
The romance in the story doesn't feel genuine, like the boys are declaring their undying love for each other on the night they meet.
I guess I just love living with the characters for a long period of time and reading through their entire process of coming out, becoming comfortable with themselves, and eventually falling in love. Any other suggestions for authors and stories people can suggest would be very welcome. iomfats.org seems to say its story specialty is non sex-heavy coming of age stories, which sounds fantastic, though there are so many authors and no synopsizes so it's hard to know where to start.
Wow I wrote this way too long. Thanks again to everyone!