Very important issue to cover. It has happened so many times, separating siblings. Both boys are in loving homes, Pat has had the hardest time and is in a loving, safe home. Even if they are brothers they can explore family options, living with their respective parents, staying close, and nurture the relationship.It won't be easy. I have recently found out 2 different friends are both distant cousins. One I have known for over 30 years and we both ended up at a family reunion. when we ran into each other we figured out her great grandfather was my grandfather's oldest brother. My other friends grandmother was married to another brother of my grandfather. It is great information to have, but in the larger picture it doesn't change anything. Thanks for tackling a difficult subject.