Bobby

HeHe, I guess we should have known something was up !!!! Bobby

James you've hit the nail on the head, sounds like you have walked more than a few miles in my shoes. I still feel I need to give this a shot, win, lose or draw, it will be a learning experience. We are going to go at this as roommates for now. David has hit on some rough times, I have a spare bedroom, and this is no more than what I'd do for ANY of my friends that fell on similar circumstances. I am headed back down there the first of next week. I inherited the place from my parents after Mom died last year, going to spend the next few weeks trying to decide what I want to keep and what needs to be sold or just tossed. David's Mom has offered to help me sort through everything (my parents were packrats) I have put that off for long enough, It's time to turn "their" place into "my" place, IF that is even possible. It's going to be a very interesting second half of 2006, I kind of feel like I'm at a fork in the road, I see advantages and disadvantages down both paths. Bobby :wacko:

Thanks for all the input everyone. Couple of things to add to this, It wasn't what I would call a long term marriage, just short of 3 years, no kids involved, They both agree "it just wasn't working". He is in way over his head on his house payments, They were doing OK with the 2 incomes, but I don't see anyway for him to keep it with just his. It's really a shame, He had just about paid for the land (15 years), Then got caught up in one of those Zero-down IF you own the land home deals. He is really neutral about trying to save his place, I offered to loan him the money to bring it current, He said he wouldn't feel right about it. He's really in a funk over all this. Now for the other side, I was over at his place this weekend helping him box things up. I ran across his high school yearbook, I told him, he really shouldn't keep so much "crap" stuffed between the pages, it will ruin the book. When I got to looking, all that "crap" was letters I'd written him, tickets stubs from things we did together, all kinds of stuff like that. I can't even start to describe how that made me feel, he has hung on to this stuff for so long. I really was touched, it was neat to read things I'd wrote 20 years ago. To know, I meant enough to him, that he saved all this. I was overwhelmed. Bobby

I am considering moving back to Tennessee, just wanting to run something by you all, and see what your thoughts are. I got a call a month or so ago from a friend in TN., He wanted me to know his older brother was getting a divorce. Jeff proceeded to tell me how unhappy David was and asked if I would run by and see him next time I was down that way. Jeff told me how he had noticed I could always cheer David up & he had asked about me last time Jeff had talked to him. I guess I should fill you all in on a little history, David and I had a "fling" many years ago, He was in High School and I in College, it lasted a couple of years. We just kind of drifted apart, David always said he was "straight", I was wanting more. I moved away after college, and only saw David at family functions and such, He met a girl & moved in with her. I really started avoiding him, not mad or anything like that, It just hurt to see him doing things with her that I used to enjoy. Now that I look back, I never really got over David, I just put him to the back of my mind, kind of like my "forbidden fruit". Now 20 years later we are talking about him moving in with me or vice-versa. I just don't know what to think, this is all I ever wanted, Can dreams really come true ??? Can this really work?? David says I'm the only guy he has ever been with and is not even sure the Bi label fits him but also admits "feelings" for me. My biggest worry is a couple of years down the road David will meet another girl and want to go "mainstream" again. Bobby

Hey Kurt, I think you've got one of the protest songs from the 1960's there, I've heard it several times, I really like it, Has quite a message to it. Bobby

I don't think it's against the law for a gay guy to have tools and a toolbox, (I'll need to check the handbook we all got) as long as you paint a few pastel flowers on it, maybe some pansies Bobby

I have to wonder if we aren't doing ourselves a disservice by allowing this pond scum to have some form of voice on a forum as beautiful as this one ??? I would hate to think they get some form of demented satisfaction from having a link to that video here. We already see the distance they will go to get their hate filled message out, protesting at funerals. Why??? Because that was the only way to get noticed. I feel the less avenues they have to spread their hate, the better. Bobby

For me, performer would be Elton John and the songs Goodbye Yellow Brick Road & Don't Let The Sun Go Down On Me. All time favorite song................ Queen's Bohemian Rhapsody Bobby

Hi all, I am not very good at expressing myself, but in this case I feel I must try. I've spent the last 6 years of my life taking care of my ailing mother, I finally lost her in March of last year, I have been in a spiraling depression ever since. I grew up in a home steeped in Southern traditions, the several times I tried to come out of the closet, I was tossed back in and a much larger, heavier door was placed on it. Spent my fair share of time on a couch in therapy (total waste of time) I heard that old "We only want what's best for you" more times than I care to count. I realize now, they didn't want what was best for me, they didn't want to face the shame they would surely feel for raising a gay son. I have felt since my early teens that I was living my life from behind a mask. I was unable or unwilling to let people see the true me, now after 30 years or so, when I look behind that mask, I see nothing. For the longest time, told myself I was a loner, only now do I realize, I'm not a loner, just a liar, the worst kind, I lied to myself. I want to thank the creators & authors of this web site. I have spent at least 5 or 6 hours a day reading the stories posted here, It has become my bright light, leading me from a very dark place. This site has for sure saved at least one life, mine !! You should all be very proud. Kind of funny, I just got to thinking, now that I've found this place, I'm just like a can of Budweiser, I have a born on date, APRIL 16, 2006 Thanks Guys Bobby

Your from somewhere south of the Mason/Dixon line, But isn't it only a Belly Wash if your having it with a Moon Pie ????