Well, we used to remember December 7 every year with the same intensity.  Now there are a lot more people who were living and remember September 11.  Give us another 60 years and we will move on to something newer.

Unfortunately, I have a cousin's daughter who celebrates her birthday on September 11th and she hates her birthday.  Her's isn't just a normal September 11th birthday either, she was actually born on THE September 11th.  We remind her every year that she's the one good thing that happened that day.  She still hates her birthday and I can't say as I blame her, because like you said, through her entire birthday she see's all the news coverage, facebook posts, etc. of the September 11th attacks.  The sad part of it is, even some of the birthday wishes she got on facebook, the people just couldn't help but mention the attacks.  Makes it kind of hard to make her want to celebrate her birthday.

To be honest, that's what bothers me the most. I know two people who have September 11th birthdays, and they can't just celebrate their birthdays because everyone always brings out the 9/11 stuff.

I get that it was a huge event that changed America as we knew it, but a part of me thinks maybe it's time to reclaim September 11th as just another day, the 11th day of September, and not have the American media forcefeed the grief and tragedy of the September 11th of 2001 every single year. Especially when it's not a big anniversary year. I mean really, the 13th? Why does the 13th anniversary merit big media coverage?

I'm guessing that the people who lost someone in the attacks probably don't turn on the TV. If I knew that the coverage would be of the memorials only I'd probably watch it--it was a huge historical turning point and deeply significant to us as a country--but I'm too scared to see the footage from the day itself, it was so terrible. I pretty much stopped being able to watch TV news that year though, so I'm probably too much of a wuss to be representative.

I can understand mentioning the major memorials and stuff as a brief story, but I hate it when news media insists on replaying the footage from that morning over and over, even now. I mean, we all saw it as it happened, we all remember watching it, we know what happened. I don't see the point in replaying it 13 years later, especially when there are major news stories from around the currently imploding world right now that are much more urgent. 

The media is dominated by ratings and attention whores.