Jack, thanks for keeping in front of us the censorship that is at play in mainstream America. Traveling in Europe, even Central Europe, exposed flesh (particularly female anatomy) is not seen as inappropriately suggestive.
If you are in NYC there are less expensive ways to get tix. Phantom is great. Check out revivals....solid material and part of the fabric of American Musical Theater
The ongoing tragedy is when informed 'men' stand by and do or say nothing. It's not easy to moderate attitude but unwillingness to defend or at least to stand against a homophobic comment is the silence that reinforces the hate.
Sure! Be careful for both yourself and them. When I was coming to grips with my orientation - and it took a long time - I had a friend I'd meet when traveling who was both patient and a great listener. Coming out of the chrysilis is tough for most of us. Be careful. Be kind