Aleric

Sexual attraction and how one feels are not entirely correlated. Did you know that most male crossdressers are straight? That means, they feel 'female' but they still hit on females. Aleric

Heya friends, I changed my avatar It's me, a recent picture, as you can see. I just thought it would be cool if you guys could see me when I posted something. Aleric

Xander, although others are right if they want to spare you a heartache, I believe it didn't answer your real question. The fact alone that he is dating a girl doesn't say much, after all, you are dating a girl too now right? What are you going to do when she kisses you? My advise would be, don't tell her that you are gay - that would hurt her feelings and she might get, as a result, so mad at you that she will tell everyone else too. Well, unless you want that of course . Instead, if you don't feel for her, take the responsibility for that on a per-relationship basis. That is, it didn't work out, but it could have been as far as you were concerned. That is, act as if you think that you are straight or bi-sexual, just don't mention it. So, follow your heart and do what you like, but don't do what you don't like (trying to hurt her feelings as little as possible). Don't use the "excuse" that you are gay towards her, ok? A straight boy can dislike a certain girl too! And a relationship doesn't have to be black and white, you can say: this is ok, that I don't want. No need to explain. Then about your friend. Try not to get sad. Being sad won't help at ALL. People like happy people. Now that is easier said then done... how to stop yourself from being sad? Well,.. by putting yourself over it I am afraid. You can tell yourself that he is straight, so you will never have (sexual) relationship with you and he will put a lot of time into his girl friend. If you can accept that, then you can continue to be friends. If that is not acceptable for you, then maybe you should chose to aim your attention on other boys? About 5% of the boys on your school will be gay. Try to make 20 cute friends (just ask them what their name is, and if they like movies too or something , its really that easy - and smile heheh. Who don't have girl friends ... and I am SURE one of them will fall in love with you! When I complained in the past that I had no (boy)friend, a wise friend of me said: that is because you don't have friends. Make more acquaintances. Acquaintances become friends, friends become lovers. That is the way it works. So, don't ignore people because you don't feel the same for them as you feel your current friend! If you do that you will end up lonely. Keep smiling and making new acquaintances, also when they don't look cute ok? Via them you will get to know other boys (their friends) and so on. That is how it works. The secret here is always that you are content (and happy) with yourself. You can only start a friendship without expecting a relationship when you are, in principle, happy all by yourself and with who you are. That is the reason that people always say: figure first our who you are; and then, try to love yourself. Only then you can do the above with a smile, make lots of acquaintances who will all love your happy company, make friends from them, who will also like your company when you are sad, and finally find the lover between those friends. I always say: don't expect. If you don't expect you will be able to enjoy whatever happens to you. If you have expectations, then things can only be different and you will not see what you DO have. Ah, and the advise that I'd give ANY boy your age: find yourself an aikido club and join it; and stick with it for many, many years (forever?). I promise you, it will be the VERY BEST investment you can do with your young life and it will cause your life to change, for the better - a lot better most likely! Just do it, and you'll understand what I mean in a couple of years. Love, Aleric

If you have an otherwise working bittorrent client (I recommend azureus, see http://azureus.sourceforge.net/), then you will have to register with http://www.filelist.org first probably. Also, don't forget to change the default port of bittorrent (see http://www.filelist.org/blacklist.php) Good luck!

... 'k ... But, hmm. Let me give an example right out of my current story . I decided deliberately NOT to place a comma in front of 'Victor' in this case: "Please come back soon, will ya Victor?" In most case I do add a comma. But in this case I want it pronounced without a pause: I just place a comma where I want a pause, not somewhere else How can I recognize this exception? Is it only because of the word 'said'? I suppose also when you'd use 'whisper', or 'shouted'? Are there other cases? Aleric

Wow. I just saw the movie "I am David". To be clear, there is nothing gay or erotic about this movie at all, but... I haven't been crying this much since I saw the Green Mile. If you have a bittorrent client, this link should work for another 383 hours after I post this. You might need to 'register' first, but it's worth it (good site anyway, this filelist.org). Movie description: http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0327919/ *Myr Edit - Removed illegal file sharing link.

Dear authors, can someone give me rules of thumb of how to format dialogues in my stories? The questions that I have are: When to start a new paragraph, when to use a comma and when to use a period. By reading your stories I came up with the following guidelines myself, but I am not sure it works in all cases... 1) A sentence, whether spoken by a character or the telling person, starts with an uppercase when the previous sentence ended with a period. 2) The punctuation of spoken sentences (in between quotes) is independent of the story line sentences. 3) When a different character than the last one that spoke starts to speak, a new paragraph is started unless the immedeate preceding story line sentence did not end on a period. In that case a new paragraph should have been started earlier, like at the beginning of said line. Examples Rule 1 makes things like this: I said "I want to hug you.' And then I blushed. Note that according to rule 2 the sentence that is spoken has its own punctuation: it starts with an uppercase and ends with a period. The quotes go around that. The word 'And' starts with an uppercase because the last sentence (the sentence between the quotes) did end on a period. Even while normally a sentence doesn't start with 'And'. Ie, it's more like 'I said something and then blushed.' Also according to rule 1 we might have: "You are so cute," he said "more cute than anyone I've known before." Note again that according to rule 2, the punction of the spoken sentence is independent and reads 'You are so cute, more cute than anyone I've known before.' The word 'he' however doesn't start with an uppercase now because the last sentence (You are so cute) didn't end on a period. Also, in this example no new paragraph is started because it is still the same person talking. Rule 3 leads us to things like: I said "Come over here, now!' He looked at me and but didn't move. "I said, NOW!" "Don't sweat it. I am not coming over." He replied. "You are not to tell me what to do, anymore." "I wouldn't be so sure about that." I said with a wicked smile. But he didn't give in at all, softly whispering "But I am. Try to change my mind without coming over to ME!" The things that I am confused about here are the following things: 1) Are my rules still correct in sentences like: "I love you." He said. Or should that be: "I love you", he said. "I love you." he said. "I love you," he said. Also do we use a comma before a quote starts, or not? Ie, is it: He said "I am going to kiss you while you are asleep." or is it: He said, "I am going to kiss you while you are asleep." Any help would be greatly appreciated! Aleric

It would be better not to link the word "victim' with 'paedophile' like that. You may link 'victim' with 'rape' or 'sexual abuse', but not with with 'paedophile' (which refers to someone attracted to kids, not even to someone actually having sex with kids (read: playing erotic tinted games with kids). Also, the stories on this site show that we ALL think that 'gay' should be linked with ROMANCE and true LOVE. Let that count for every relationship, independent of age. Hence, no 'victim' as prejustice here, please. There are no victims in our stories, even though there might be a paedophile here and there. Aleric

Dear authors, Of course I do NOT mean that everyone should be telling their sexuality to everyone they meet in real life. I am not doing that either, not at all! Only when I feel comfortable with it I might. No, I was solely and only talking about the profile field of the authors on this site. Even then I don't need to know what the exact sexuality is, but - reading the stories you write and the fact that you are an author on the site gayauthors.org might give a MAJOR clue heheh. My concern is the use of the words "Not telling" by someone KNOWN to be gay (being an author on gayauthors) which signals that they are ashamed of saying it outloud. The reason I thought that is because I looked at the profile of my God-author Comicality and was shocked to see that he said he didn't want to come out for his sexuality! My world tumbled down, I ran to close my curtains and hide in shame.. If even The Great Comicality stamps his gayness as "something that you can't come out for" then then... But surely Myr is right. He probably just didn't update it. So, then a request to Myr - perhaps you can change the *default* value to 'not updated' or something like that. I tell you, I was really shocked - so it's not unthinkable that many other young readers get a mental kick down too, by this default. No need to remove it - everyone has the right to take that as their answer. Aleric PS There are many many different kinds of sexuality. Perhaps some will be shocked if I say it bluntly outloud here... but concluding from the type of stories on this site, this is NOT just another 'gay' site. Absolutely not We, or at least most of us, clearly, are the kind that know how to appreciate the beauty of youth over masculine muscle power and huge cocks. THAT is why I like this site, and that is why I hope to make friends here. We should understand eachother a whole lot better than the average 'gay' would. ... However (moral)... I am not saying that the list of 'sexuality' in the profile is to be extended with too much detail. I, too, would feel uncomfortable with that, even -just- on a site like this.

Thanks everyone for the replies! I went for the long-chapter in which I attempt (I am still attempting) to actually straight-forward end up where I wanted to endup. Fortunately I am a Physics PhD and a computer expert :graduated: So, the only problem left is whether or not readers will be able to follow it * * * * * * * * The astriks separation is very useful though, I might use it, thanks! Sorry for the late reply, but I wasn't notified by email when you guys added replies to my post; I had forgotten to click the ''Enable email notification" checkbox. Regards, Aleric

As you can see I am an emoticon newbie and loving them heheh. Where is the blushing emoticon smiley though? I usually use this: I also miss an emoticon for the smiley Now for the emoticon with a bare bottom! Aleric

To my amazement I see that some authors, even hosted ones, have selected the "Not telling" for their sexuality. I think that gives a very wrong signal to the young gays/bi's that might visit this site. I SCREAMS that you are ashamed of your sexuality and it should be something to hide!? I hereby call for all authors to reconsider! Be 'proud' about your capability to love. Don't be afraid to tell the world! Aleric

Hiya all again, I am running into a few problems while writing. Two things are really getting annoying heheh. First of all, I am heading for a milestone that I set, as end of the first chapter... only to realize that I don't know how to get there! Its impossible! Yeah, that sounds weird - but you'll understand it when you read my story... I'll just have to think of SOMETHING. I don't want to give away too much already though. Let's just say that my main character is inventing something and doing so takes his whole life. That means that I often have to skip large amounts of time - like weeks, months and even years. At the same time however I started to weave in a relationship, a coming-of-age type of relationship even UGH! Suddenly I can't jump through time anymore! I've put myself check-mate :sword: But ok, that is just my problem. Here is my question: I am writing in a style were dialogus are an essential part of the story: it's how a building relationship is described. That's a style where every minute is described thus, almost in real-time. But every now and then I get to a point where the whole situation would get boring and I need to introduce new fuel - so, then I need a jump in time. Very often I feel that this would only "feel" right when at the same time I started a new heh chapter... not the 5000-word kind of chapter, the release-and-wait-for-feedback chapters, the one-html-page chapters that make a nice print-job to read before going to sleep. No, just a new little heading you know. Like this. On with the show Once upon a time there was an author who had written so many stories that he couldn't remember anymore how many. You see? It is *acceptable* when I start something (seemingly) TOTALLY different - provided that it is at the start of a new chapter. And that seems what is needed when I make a jump into time, like ... to the next time "they" meet. I've read a lot of stories of you guys, though from a limited number of authors I must admit (when I like an author I first read EVERYTHING they wrote before moving on to the next . And it appeared to me that you guys never use little headers inside the (big) chapters. Only new alineas Damn. I can't even formulate my question satisfactory. How can I expect an answer to this rambling? Aleric :wacko:

Hello everyone. I am writing my first (gay) story. Its science fiction, my favourite genre I am doing about 1000 words per day I noticed. When should I consider it a 'chapter'? What is a good size of one chapter? Hope to hear from people here and get to get to know you all. I'd like to make many friends here Aleric

Hi, I am very new to this site. I mean, I was a reader - but never posted anything on the forum before. I didn't even read the forum. The reason for that is clear: one finds gayauthors.com because some author refers to it somewhere. You go to the home page, search for the STORIES - and then start reading. That is, you end up here: https://www.gayauthors.org/archive/archive.php?s=2 Which is perfect I came back every once in a while, looking for new stories and that is that. I don't like forums because they are new to me: I never used them before and iI think that web based forums are unclear; there is no overview. However - yesterday i decided that I wanted to write a story myself.. but only when people would read it. And I couldn't think of a better way than to put it on this site. So, I had the question: what to do when I want to publish my story on this site (and then I mean the archive, the page of the url that I gave above, of course - not the forum, that I never had looked at myself before and therefore assumed that by far most people never look at). I could not find this information - not until after looking very, very hard (in some post on some forum). I had a very hard time registering too. At one moment I wanted to vote for a story, so I clicked on 'vote'. I got a page that said that I had to login and that I could register by clicking 'here'. That 'here' brought me back to the home page (www.gayauthors.com) and there is no way to register there! After trying many things, and being WAY more persistent then I think 99% of other people might ever be, I went to the 'forums' section and registered there (to ask there). Only later I found out that I could use the same email address and password as that I had used for the forum to 'login' for the whole site - and now I could vote. That is certainly unclear. Even now, it is still unclear to me which forum exists and which I should read and especially which NOT, cause I don't have that much time ! So - if you ask what could be improved, then from my point of view that is information about how to 'register' from the homepage. And a clear overview for clueless newbies about exists in the forums and where to go/look for what. That overview should be very small of course - as with everything, you can always find everything if you have the time to simply read 1000 pages: then you just read everything and find it. But, since nobody has time to read 1000 pages and it is never clear if a page with 1000 words on it will contain the information needed - I, at least, never read pages that contain 1000 words. Unless I know what it is about - or when it iis addressed to me personally of course :king: . But when I am looking for information, then I want a page with ONE word that proves to me that it is worth to read the next 10 words, which make it crystal clear that this page will contain the data that I am looking for and that all I have to do is read the next 100 words to find out where exactly that information is. Hope this helps Aleric