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    2011 Fitness Totals

    By NaperVic,

    2011 turned out to be the 'Year of Fitness' for me. I totaled everything up, and it's actually quite staggering now that it's all there in one place.
     
    Gym Workouts - 452
    Running Sessions - 332 (for 2,117 miles)
    Rollerblading Sessions - 64 (for 644 miles)
    Road Biking - 48 (for 768 miles)
    ---------------------------------
    Total - 896
     
     
    My main goal was running 2000 miles, so I was happy that I surpassed that.
     
    I'm going to tone things down a bit for 2012. For running, I plan on reducing my mileage to work on my speed.
     
    I also realize that I've neglected my social life, so I'll try to focus more on that instead of fitness.
     
    So within the next couple of days, I'll come up with my goals for 2012.
     
    Hope you all had a good 2011 and that you accomplished the things you wanted to.
     
    Take Care,
     
    Vic
  2. NaperVic

    Gym Crush = Straight

    By NaperVic,

    Well, I haven't updated in a while. I realized my activity on GA correlates to Domluka's postings, which is pretty sparce. I've realized I'm becoming one of those GA members who kinda moves on, fades away.
     
    Not much new going on. Still keeping busy with fitness. Doing 2-3 activities a day. I think I'm an adrenaline/endorphine junkie.
     
     
    But anyway, since I had blogged so much about him in the past, I figured I should bring closure to my stalkee, the 'Gym Crush'.
     
    I've been stalking his Facebook for a while now, and today when I checked on him, he had one of those 'Gym Crush is in a relationship with Random Woman' statuses.
     
    I have mixed feelings about this. While sad to see, I'm glad to finally know for sure that he's straight. As I suspected, once I found out he was straight, the attraction for him is diminishing as the minutes go by.
     
    I haven't been seeing him at the gym lately, so this explains it. Now that he's dating a woman, he's probably on his way to a white picket fence, 2.4 kids, and a gut.
     
    I think what's most troubling to me is my Gaydar. I usually think I'm pretty good at picking out gay guys, but I think it only works when I'm not interested in the guy for myself.
     
    It seems that the only guys I'm attracted to turn out to be straight. Wait, that doesn't sound right. I'm sure they're born straight.
     
    Take Care,
     
    Vic
  3. NaperVic

    Exercise Insanity

    By NaperVic,

    okay, for the month of May (which ended today):
     
     
    29 Runs for 191 miles (6.58/miles average)
    46 Gym workouts, with 13 of those being primarily Spartacus workouts
    5 Rollerbladings for 56 miles
    8 Outdoor Bike Rides for 128 miles
     
    88 total Workouts/Activities
     
    It's a little shocking to add it all up (and that doesn't include mowing the lawn or other household/yard stuff). I'm not sure what to think about it. whether it's good or bad, whether I can maintain the pace, or actually add onto it.
     
    Starting to get some ab definition. yay!
     
    Also think I'm getting a rep as a gym bunny as some of the workers have seen me there twice in the same day. I'm generally low key at the gym (no exaggerated grunting or flexing in the mirrors). But I do have one "show off-ie" kinda thing I'm proud of. When I do chinups, I've been lifting extra weight by holding a dumbell with my feet. I've gotten to where I can do 3 sets of 10 pull ups while lifting a 30lb dumbell.
     
    And here's the kicker. After doing all that, I gained 3 lbs .
     
    *sigh* off to the gym (hope gym crush is there )
     
     
     
     
     
  4. NaperVic
    Today I gave my Gym Crush my business card with my cell phone number on it.
     
    We had been chatting off and on at the gym for the last couple of weeks and he mentioned now that the weather was getting warmer that he'd like to come running with my group at some point. I told him he was always welcome and just to let me know ahead of time so that I would make sure someone (me) would definitely be there.
     
    Just about an hour ago, he texted me thanking me for my contact info as well giving me his last name. So now I know his last name 'officially'. And his cell.
     
    Getting a text - That's gotta be a 'base' in this day in age, isn't it? Is it like 2nd base maybe?
     
     
  5. NaperVic
    Cool stats of mine...
     
    Body Fat - 3.4%-3.8%
    Resting Heart Rate - 47 beats per minute Better than an athletic 18-25yo. Take that athletic twinks half my age !
     
    It's been a while since I last updated, and unfortunately there's been little progress on the Gym Crush front. We've seen each other at the gym several times and have spoken casually, but no 'moving forward' (which was expected in the 'baby steps' method).
     
    However, for the last month, I've been consistently doing the Men's Health Spartacus Workout he recommended and there have been noticeable results. Not only have I noticed the results, IRL friends and strangers at the gym have been giving me compliments.
     
    While I have been actively trying to get in better shape before adding this new workout, doing Spartacus 3 days a week helped me knock off another 10 lbs and I reached my weight goal of 155lbs (approx 11 stones) a week ago .
     
    I've notice much more muscle tone in my core, hamstrings, & bootie (areas that were all weaknesses for me in the past).
     
    Even though I'm 5 lbs less than I was 3 years ago (when I had done a health kick and got down to 160lbs), I feel much stronger and toned than I was back then. Also, my body fat is registering between 3.4%-3.8%, my resting heart rate was measured at 47 beats per minute (at the doctor's office this morning), and cholesterol & blood pressure are down.
     
    I think I'm in the best shape of my life.
     
     
    Now, as a disclaimer, Spartacus is not all I do. I still run 5-6 days a week, rollerblade, do spin classes, lift weights, ellipticals, stationary bikes, watch what I eat, etc. But Spartacus has really helped me power over a plateau I was sitting at and it's a very efficient workout that can be completed in 42 minutes if done properly. I think it would take 90 minutes of the other stuff I was doing to equal the exertion of a 42 minute Spartacus workout.
     
    I mentioned earlier that I was getting compliments at the gym. While not Gym Crush, I did have a psuedo-weird/complimentary situation with a guy. Let's call him 'Mr. Friendly'.
     
    So I was on the stationary bike and Mr. Friendly comes up to me and says "How come your still biking inside when it's so nice outside. I can tell you ride a lot because of your legs." He looks down and lingers at my legs. I've seen this guy around the gym quite a bit, and he's never chatted or made eye contact with me before. He's probably around my age, thin, yet very toned. Not Gym Crush, but a good looking guy in his own right.
     
    I mention that it's still a little cool to be riding outdoors for me, but that I'd be getting out there soon. We then start chatting about running, pace times, races, etc. And he also mentions his son. So I thought, oh, he's just being straight friendly. I can do that.
     
    The next day, I see him at the gym again and he says "Hey Vic" as he passed me by. We never exchanged names, so I'm not sure where he got my name. Notable, but still not terribly odd.
     
    Then a few days later (again at the gym), I was stretching facing this wall. I was bent over touching my toes. Next thing, there's a pat/light smack on my ass! I look over, and it's Mr. Friendly walking away. He didn't just brush by, he made a point of patting/smacking. I was a little shocked, but I did manage to say 'Hi'.
     
    I've been going to the same gym for 8 years, and I've been at other gyms, there is no smacking of asses that I've ever seen before! I mean, what am I to make of it?
     
    So anyway, we'll see what happens next with Mr. Friendly. I mean, if he's interested, he's going to have to do the pursuing. If he takes any other steps, I'll respond in kind, but I won't escalate. I won't be negative or unapproachable, but it's in his court if he wants more than a smack on the ass. If he asks me out on a date, I'd go.
     
    Too bad it wasn't Gym Crush who was doing all this, cause I'd be all over that . Weird how this all works out.
     
    But anyhow, if anyone's looking for a good workout, or are in a rutt from doing the same thing at the gym and need a change, I highly recommend the Spartacus Workout.
     
    Vic
     
     
    P.S. - oh, I hope this doesn't come off as bragging. I really look at this as my online diary/journal. Also, having been fat and far from athletic in my earlier life, it's just such a different feeling for me to be where am I. Also, it's a little validation for the hard work it's taken to get into this shape. It certainly wasn't easy and it isn't easy to maintain.
  6. NaperVic

    Proactive pays off

    By NaperVic,

    So, I manned up/grew some and took some advice given here. I mentally pledged to stop with the head games & the active ignoring. If I saw Gym Crush, I would say hi, no matter if I said it first or not. I was going to start acting like an adult and treat him like I would anyone else.
     
    So anyways....I was finishing up at the gym this evening, and Gym Crush shows up. I had a few more minutes on the rowing machine, which was very close to where Gym Crush does this special workout that he's been doing for the last couple of weeks.
     
    So after I finish on the rowing machine, I get ready to start stretching. Using my new found manhood I say "Oh, Hey Gym Crush." He says Hi back with a smile, and we both get back to what we were doing.
     
    After another 10 minutes of stretching, I start wrapping up to head to the locker room. Gym Crush was on a little rest break, so I pause by him and trying the proactive thing I say "I've notice you do a really unique workout, it's cool."
     
    He says thanks and tells me it's the 'Spartacus' Workout that he got from Men's Health Magazine. I said, "That's great that your doing something different. It's so easy for me to get in rut in the gym, doing the same thing over and over."
     
    We chat a little bit more about the workout and then he hands me a pamphet "Here, take this. It's the workout from the magazine if you're interested." It's a full color page that shows how to do the workout.
     
    I said "No, I can't take you're pamphlet. "
     
    "It's no problem, I was saving it for another guy who was interested, but he isn't here. " Gym Crush smiled.
     
    "Oh, I don't want to take his. "
     
    "Really, I insist. "
     
    "Thank you so much, that's very nice of you. "
     
    "No problem. "
     
    "You have a great weekend. "
     
    "You too. "
     
    I was already running a little late for my dinner plans and I didn't want to waste more of his workout time (I get that way too), so I walk away.
     
    While heading to the locker room, I start glancing at the two sided pamphlet. It really is a cool workout (I found it online here at Men's Health in pdf format).
     
    So, proactive paid off. Now we have more to talk about. And now I owe him something for his nice gesture.
     
    Anywho, made my night. I was going to be late for dinner with one of my hags, but I knew she'd be okay with it and I had a great story to tell her .
     
     
    baby steps......
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    "Hey Vic!"

    By NaperVic,

    So it's been a couple weeks since I invited Gym Crush to go running, and not surprisingly, he hasn't shown up at 5am to run.
     
    I've seen him several times at the gym since our last 'chat', but never close enough or convenient enough to make small talk. I also swear a few times we were close enough, but he never made eye contact with me so that we could chat (which in my mind meant he didn't even remember who I was or even if he recognized me).
     
    I was starting to get really frustrated with him and almost went all 8th grade on him by actively ignoring again.
     
    But today....when I least expected it, I walk into the locker room, he's there, sees me, and with a nice grin says "Hey Vic!"
     
    We had a mini conversation, but a 3rd person joined in and derailed it, so that was that. Gym Crush left, but not without saying some goodbye pleasantries.
     
    Two words. Two words and I have the stupidist grin on my face .
     
    Two words to make my day.
     
    I'm usually not so easy to please, but this dude has some serious spell over me.
  8. NaperVic
    Please keep this in mine while reading this blog entry:
     
    - Yes, I am 42 years old, no I'm not a teenager, stop rolling your eyes
    - Yes, I move slowly, stop rolling your eyes
    - Yes, I'm a wuss, stop rolling your eyes
     
    After many long years, I finally had the opportunity to exchange words with my Gym Crush. I'm as giddy as a school girl over the experience. You see, I've had a crush on this guy for over 3 years. I looked back over my blog entries and found these 3, all about him:
     
    Sleuthing success, I got his name January 2010
     
    Borderline Stalking May 2009
     
    Cute guy from spinng class Nov 2007
     
    I had resolved in my head a while ago that he's either straight or not interested, and/or both. Since then, I've been actively ignoring him (you know, like making a point of looking away when I passed him). He's not really chatty at the gym with anyone (guys or girls), so I figured that's just the way he was.
     
    Well this week, I just kept running into him over and over. Our gym schedules synced up more than they have in the past and I wasn't even trying (e.g. stalking). It was painfully frustrating. I kinda relaxed my active ignoring and thought that if it were to occur naturally, that I would say something to him.
     
    Well today when I started my workout, I wanted to do bicep pullups and he was using the equipment I wanted. I visibly *sighed* when I realized he was on the machine, so I started walking around a bit to give him time to finish. After a few minutes, I thought he was done, so I went over, but found he was just resting. So I spoke my first words to him and asked him how many more sets he had and he said '1'. I nodded, and then he added with a smile "You're welcome to work out in between'". So I took him up on his offer and did 12 pullups (I usually do 10 in a set, but needed to show my butchness to him and did an extra 2 ). I let him do his next set and he moved on to another part of the gym while I stayed and did 3 more sets.
     
    So I was happy/satisfied with that little encounter, but unbeknownst to me at the time, there was more to come.
     
    I did more bicep work, but I was really just waiting to take a spin (cycle) class. Surprisingly, Gym Crush took that class too (I hadn't expected him to take the class because he had already taken two spin classes that week, and he had been in the gym before I even got there.
     
    He was behind me about 15 feet - just off to the right, so I pretty much had a perfect view of him in the mirrors for the entire class. He's such good eye candy . I did really well in class because I didn't want to seem like a wuss to him, hoping my calf muscles were flexing at the right times.
     
    Well after class, several of us were heading in to the locker room. I was chatting with another guy from the class - Richard, and we both ended up near each other in the locker room, right near Gym Crush. I mentioned to Richard how tired I was and that I shouldn't have taken this class because I was planning on running tomorrow (friday) with my running crew. He teased me a bit and I invited him to go running with us at 5am. Richard is chatty with Gym Crush so he loudly says, "Oh yeah, Gym Crush and I will be there at 5am, just wait for us". He winked and let it be known that there was no way he'd get up that early to go running and that we were 'crazy' to be up that early to run.
     
    Well Gym Crush joins in the convo and then says to me "You really run at 5am?"
     
    I go onto explain about how the running group has been going there for years, how there's people of different speeds, etc. Actually, once I started talking to Gym Crush, I kinda got that nervous/diarrhea of the mouth thing going, and just talked and talked. Kinda like how Dave got whenever he talked to Angela in Dessert Dropping. When I get nervous talking to someone I'm attracted to, I just blah blah blah away. I'm hoping I didn't spit when I talked to him :wacko: .
     
    So anyway, he seem genuinely interested in finding people to run with and was smiling when we talked. The morning time might be tough for him (he asked if there was a 5pm group. I should have said, "Honey, I'll run whenever you want to run.") But I did just try to be helpful and inviting.
     
    So anyhow, I went and took my shower, and he ended up showering a little later than me, so I finished before him. I took my time getting dressed to wait for him to finish his shower so we could chat more.
     
    When he got back, I mentioned that yeah, the early hour is tough for many, and that the 5am was an 'Acquired taste', but I also let him know I'd see if I could find an evening group I could hook him up with. I just wanted to make sure I sounded genuine and that I wasn't making an empty invitation.
     
    By the way, he was in a towel while we were talking and I made a point of giving him his privacy and not looking at him (especially when he had to put on his undies). One, I didn't want to get busted staring, and two, I would want the same courtesy.
     
    On my way out, I made of point of telling him my name and he gave me his with a smile, told him "see ya later" and let him finish getting dressed.
     
    So after three long years, we've finally spoken. I have no clue if he's gay. And if he is gay, I have no clue if he'd be interested in going out on a date, with me. Either way, I'm just happy we've taken the 'next step'.
     
    Cause no matter what happens, it would be cool to have a new friend who's around my age, who seems to be interested in the same fitness activities that I'm into, and isn't internet/virtual (no offense to any of y'all). If we could have a friendship, I'd be satisfied with that.
     
    I sure hope it doesn't take 3-4 years to find out if he's gay or not .
     
    Take Care®,
     
    Vic
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    Obsessed

    By NaperVic,

    Today was an odd day....

    Ran 10k at 6am Worked out at the gym from 8am-10am (shoulders and an hour on the stationary bike) Rollerbladed 10miles at 1pm Hit the gym again from 5:30pm-7:00pm (legs & chest) There was also yard work & cleaning the pool....
     
     
    Weird. If I'm bored, I feel like I need to be doing some physical activity.
     
    I'm not sure what my mental problem is. Maybe I do it all cause I don't ever want to be fat again. Or maybe I'm trying to make up for my lack of activity in my younger years.
     
    Maybe I push myself cause I'm worried what will happen if I break or leg or something where I can't bike, rollerblade or workout.
     
    Up until July 1st, I had run 38 days in a row (july 1st was my first break...). I just don't feel right or balanced unless I do at least 2 activities a day.
     
    Feels like I'm on a carousel and can't find a way off (not that I even want to get off).
     
     
     
  11. NaperVic

    Big Pharma got me

    By NaperVic,

    Getting ready for work this morning, I decided to pack up a couple pills so I could have them when I ate breakfast at work this morning.
     
    I had a horse sized glucosamine pill (they're for joint pain relief due to my running), a multivitamin, and then an advil. I started taking the glucosamine because apparently it helps with joint cartilage, the advil because my knees were sore from running earlier in the morning, and the multivitamin just because I'm probably not getting enough from the soda I drink.
     
    I stared at the pills all lined up and had to mentally memorize what each of them were for big white one is glucosamine, orange one - vitamin, little round one - advil.
     
    I then realized that I was going down the road of aging in america.
     
    It was quite disturbing...where big pharma has us taking a multitude of daily pills. The image of my parents 'drug drawer', where they keep their stash for cholesterol, high blood pressure, arthritis, etc, etc, etc.
     
    I need one of those old people pill boxes that have a compartment for each day of the week.
     
    In other news, I'm psyched for a trail race I'm doing this Saturday. There's 3 or 4 of us who are going to run the 10miler, so it will be fun to be running with guys who run the same speed. The course has a lot of hills, so that will make it extra challenging.
     
    Take Care®,
     
    Vic
  12. NaperVic
    I never really thought I hid my gayness out in the real world and certainly don't hide it with my online persona here on GA. I don't have Gay & Available stamped on my forehead, but I don't deny or deflect when people ask.
    However, a friend called me out on the fact that my Facebook profile doesn't provide any direct evidence that I'm gay. Sure there are clues that the trained eye can deduce, but nothing definitive to say 'I'm Gay'.
     
    In the past, I've justified the lack of information to being a private person. But I've called myself out on the B.S. I think it has to do with the fact that I have so many distant relatives and people from High School on Facebook. Just thinking about H/S seems to get me in High School mode . And relatives...all those weird aunts who are always judging .
     
    In a way, I'm being a hypocrite. When I look at FB profiles of people in my past, I check to see whether they come out and say they're gay. I always admire those that do. I need to be a good example to anyone else that might be looking. What if I have some young, distance cousin who might be confused or questioning? I need to be out for their sake.
     
    And if someone has a problem with my being gay? They can always drop me as an FB friend. It's not like I'm going to lose any sleep over it.
     
    Another reason I want to be more Out on Facebook is due to friends I'm adding from GA. I started worrying about inconsistencies between NaperVic of GA and Facebook Vic.
     
    I won't necessarily let my hair down on FB as much as I do on GA, but I do need to be more honest about who I am over there.
     
    Take Care®,
     
    Vic
     
    P.S. - I'm still not adding you Nate
  13. NaperVic
    They say a picture is worth a thousand words. Apparently, a picture can elicit phone calls & emails to my mom and sisters...
     

     
    A HighSchool friend was visiting for the weekend and we took a day trip to Santa Barbara. This picture is of the two of us...on the beach...on Valentine's Day.
     
    I was pretty sure everyone knew I was gay, but I guess this confused a few relatives or perhaps gave some of them hope that I switched teams again .
     
    I can imagine my mom wistfully pondering what it would have been like if my friend was their daughter-in-law (we had gone to prom together back in H/S), what the pontential grandchildren might have looked like.
     
    Kinda nice to know that I can pull off straight acting/straight appearing .
     
    P.S. - It was sunny and 79 in Santa Barbara. Nice ocean breeze...*sigh*
  14. NaperVic

    Satisfied by Straight Guys

    By NaperVic,

    I've been strangely satisfied with my life lately and it's an odd feeling considering I'm not getting laid nor am I dating someone. As well, I didn't win the lottery or quit my job.
     
    When I ponder the reasons why I feel so contented (here when I should be working) everything seems to point to my association with the straight guys I run with. This group of guys is so not like what I expected them to be like.
     
    I mistakenly assumed that when you gather a group of straight guys, it would be some beer drinking, cussing, farting, teasing, mess of girl & sports talk.
     
    But these guys are nothing like that. They're real positive and encouraging. Not only do we run together, but I've biked with one of the guys, texted back and forth with another when I was helping him bake a cake that I gave him the recipe for, just normal stuff. We can talk politics, history, world events while running, as well as the goings on in our lives and families. There's still sports talk and a little cussing, but it's nicely balanced.
     
    The cool thing about these friendships (versus my other ones) is that they're low maintenance. If someone said they were going to go running and didn't show up, no one gets their panties in a wad about it. The guys all know that sh*t happens.
     
    When I compare that to my existing friendships (mostly to women), the contrast is startling. Most of my female friends are high maintenance, that need lots of care and feeding. They need their attention, their compliments, and they need someone to sit there and agree with them when they are complaining. If you aren't attentive enough, then you're more than likely to get grief about it.
     
    For example, I was having dinner with one of these friends and then out of the blue she says "I'm still mad at you about my birthday". Here's me when I hear this ---->
     
    Her birthday was in May and I have no idea what she's talking about. When I ask her about it, she says that she doesn't want to talk about it and just wants to forget it. Well, she's doing a bad job of forgetting since this is the 3rd time she's made a snide comment about it. <giggle> Speaking of... I just ignored a text message from her just now. I know she wants me to pick her up (re: chauffeur) for a party tonight.
    Then another couple women are hosting a baby shower for a 3rd friend, but they're having conflicts over who's going to take care of what. Neither of them really wants to do any work for the party, expecting the other person to do more. Each of them has complainted to me about the other, and somehow I got invited to this shower and got guilted into bringing dessert .
     
    Hanging out with 'friends' shouldn't leave you more mentally drained than before you met up with them. Also, the usual activity with my hag friends revolves around food or drink. Can't we go do something physical instead of sitting on our asses making them bigger with calories?
     
    I find myself hanging out with some of the old friends less and spending more time with the 'guys'.
     
     
     
    So if you're looking for less stress, a way to keep healthy, and need to get away from some of the drama in your life, find a bunch of straight guys to go running with. It's done wonders for me mentally and physically . As an added bonus, I'm not feeling sexually frustrated...weird.
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    I'm liking positive, optimistic people lately. I find myself being more drawn to them and avoiding or spending less time with negative, debbie downer types.
     
    Whenever I get exposed to negative people...you know, the ones who seem to complain or find fault in just about everything....It sucks the life out of you. It's no fun to hear how this is pissing them off, or that's bothering them all the time. Don't get me wrong, we all gripe. But the glass is not always half full.
     
    Positive/encouraging people are just more fun to be around. For example, we were running intervals last tuesday and after a particular grueling set, one of the guys smiles and says 'good job'. No big deal, but it did make me feel a little better (especially as I was gasping for breath).
     
    The opposite happened at a dinner party on saturday night with a bunch of friends from work. It turned into a giant complaint fest and I probably walked out of there more drained then when I arrived. That's not what dinner & drinks with friends was supposed to be.
     
    But instead of just hanging around with positive people and get the benefit, I realized that I had a resposibility to be positive too. That other people might be drawn to the same things I'm being drawn to.
     
    So in honour of lent, I'm going to try being less bitchy and try to be a more optimistic/positive person. You know, try to smile more . I'll also try to avoid negativity (or at least not acknowledge/encourage it).
     
    Take Care®,
     
    Vic
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    Boy periods

    By NaperVic,

    A while back, I was raving about how low maintenance hanging out the straight boys can be. (Blog Entry - Satisfied by Straight Guys)
     
    Well, apparently, they can get all sensitive too. I got this text yesterday from one of the guys I run with.
     
    Thanks for letting me know you were going to run yesterday! I didn't go because you said nobody was going! Then I find out from Gerry you did run...So it's pretty clear that you just don't want to go run with me!
     
     

     
    This from a 40 year old married father of three teenagers.
     
     
    He asked me on monday if I was going to run on tuesday, and I had said no and also mentioned that most of the other regulars weren't going either..so he decided not to go. Well at 4:15am on tuesday, I felt guilty about not running so I got up anyhow and headed over to the meeting spot in case anyone did show. Gerry must have told him I was there...so that's what must have gotten him all miffed.
     
    Luckily I have lot's of practice digging myself out of holes, so I was able to smooth things over. I'll just have to be more sensitive and considerate in the future.
     
    Boy periods...it's not just for gays .
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    So I've had this one gym crush for several years now, and today, FINALLY, I got his name. This is a monumental moment for me so I had to blog about it.
     
    I think I mentioned in previous blogs of taking the same cycle class he's in, or following his car when I saw him leave the grocery . When it comes to him, I seem to throw common sense out the window.
     
    I didn't get his name like a normal/sane person would... like overhearing someone talk to him or something direct like ohhhhh, say talking to him and asking him his name....
     
     
    Today I was browsing pictures of a 10K running race that took place this weekend. I was going to run in the race, but backed out and decided to do an 11 mile training run with a friend instead.
     
    I was browsing through the pictures to check on people I know. While paging through the 2000 pictures, my heart skips a beat when I see a picture that shows my gym crush running. I couldn't believe it!
     
    Well, they don't do anything easy like put the names of the people in the pictures, so I have to MacGyver it and do some sleuthing.
     
    There are pictures from many phases of the race and then there is a listing of all the runners in the order they finish.
     
    I focus in on the photos from the midpoint to the end of the race. I do know a few people in the race, so I find them, and then find where they placed. I found a buddy Fred and then see where he placed. I then count the number of people (via pictures) my gym crush is away from Fred. Now this isn't an exact science because since these photo's weren't taken at the end, the people may not have finished in the same order they show up in the pictures.
     
    Well, Gym crush was consistently running with a girl, they looked like friends (hopefully just friends). So I looked for M/F pairings that finished within a few seconds of each other.
     
    Everyone in the race wears a race bib which has a number (unfortunately, the number isn't cross-referenced with any names...otherwise it would have made my job easier). However, each bib does have a coloured sticker which tells you what age group the person is in. Gym Crush and his friend both had the same color.
     
    I find another friend who has that same color and that tells me that Gym Crush & friend are in the 30-39 age range.
     
    There are two pairs of people that they could be, so now I look at the person after each of these groupings. I google these names, but don't get any hits. However, one of the last names is distinctive, so I facebook search that last name. I find a female version, and when I look at her pictures, she shows her husband, which matches the picture of the guy right after my Gym Crush and his friend!
    So with all that info, I was able to figure out pretty much who he is . I finally have a name.
     
    And now I know he runs races!!! I'm definitely not skipping any more races!
     
    Vic
     
    P.S. - I'm a stalker
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    slightly used, 1968 Model Gaydar for sale $100 (OBO) - serious inquiries only
     
    -made in the Philippines
    -works well for finding gays that owner is not attracted to
    -has a tendancy to false positive on tall, dark brown haired, pale, thin (skeletal, according to my hags) straight guys with puppy dog eyes
     
     
    Yeah, my gaydar sucks. Or maybe it's just my use of it? They really need to teach a class or hand out instructions on how to use this thing. Mine operates more on the basis of wishdar, where if I find someone attractive I wish them to be gay. Where every little hint or mannerism of a target is construed as leaning gay.
     
    Gaydar for Dummies...yeah, they need to publish one of those .
     
    Anyway, so I haven't blogged in a while.
     
    After my little knee scare, I've built back up my running where I try to go 4-5 times a week, for about 25-30 miles a week. I've run a few races since then, and generally happy with my time (considering I'm not at 100%).
     
    It's gotten too cold to go biking outdoors, so now it's just the gym and running. Unfortunately, due to the weather, I've been going to the gym too often. Three days this week I've gone to the gym twice a day. I never used to hate going to the gym, but this week changed that. It can get soooo repetitive in there. And running on a treadmill is nothing like running outdoors. Hopefully the weather eases up and I can spend more time outdoors.
     
    Anywho, back to work.
     
    Take Care,
     
    Vic
     
     
  19. NaperVic

    Knee pain

    By NaperVic,

    I injured my knee last sunday.... .
     
    About 8 miles into a 12 mile run, my left knee started hurting real badly. I asked the guy I was running with if we could walk for a bit (I've never done that before), so we walked for about a quarter mile. I was able to start running again and we finished off the 12 miles (had to as we had to get back to our cars), but I was having some serious pain in my knee.
     
    Once I got home, I took some advil, iced the knee, elevated it, and parked my butt on the sofa for a few hours. I knew I'd skip running the next day. Well when I tried getting up, I could barely walk and the pain was so bad I almost cried (lol, but I think I was going to cry cause I effed up my knee and was worried about missing the half marathon I was going to race in two weeks).
     
    Over the next couple of a days, my knee got better and I was able to walk with less discomfort, but running was definitely out of the question. I was able to bike with little pain and still use the exercise bikes at the gym, but anytime I tested out running, my knee said 'no'.
     
    After skipping 4 days, I was luckily able to run again on Friday. I was running gingerly at the start, but after about a mile, my knee started loosening up and I was able to keep up with the guys and finish a nice 4 mile run. Mina and I did a nice casual 6 mile jog on Saturday, and having learned my lesson, I skipped running on Sunday to rest.
     
    This morning was really good. I ran with the group for 5.4 miles and we maintained an 8min/mile pace with no pain in my knee at all. I think with the last couple of runs, I'm back to about 75-80% back to where I was before the pain.
     
    So I had a nice scare. I think the lesson I learned is that I can't run more than 8 miles without pain in my knee. I'm skipping the 1/2 marathon on the 14th, but I think I'll be okay for a 10k this saturday. Before the injury, I was hoping to maintain a 7min/mile pace, but now I think I'll just be happy to finish.
     
    I can't lose running, so I really have to be careful not to push things in the future. Biking is too hard to do when it gets cold and wet out, and with daylight savings time and the shortening days, I won't be able to bike when I get off of work soon.
  20. NaperVic

    Apparently, I'm a jock

    By NaperVic,

    That's a bit of a stretch, even for me. But when someone calls you that, you can't help but smile (or giggle like a schoolgirl). Apparently, there's trail cred for running with the fast/long distance guys. I was introduced to a runner from a different group who remarked "Oh, you're a Kenyan now". I had to have her repeat that because I didn't know what she meant at the time, but then someone explained it to me. Kenyan's
  21. NaperVic

    Commitment to Running

    By NaperVic,

    I've been running with the boys regularly for the last couple of weeks. Awesome. They run a really fast pace and they're really working me hard. As expected, any lingering attraction to any of them has dissipated. See, once I find out someone is straight, they're no longer attractive to me in that way.
     
    Sure sure, I get sucked into a sappy Nifty story where straight guys turn gay for the right person, but come on, whatev.
     
    I came out to one of the guys in normal conversation (there were only two of us running that morning). He was telling me about a friend of his who he always suspected something about him, and sure enough after 14 years of marriage to a chick, came out to himself as gay. I think he's contemplating setting the two of us up. Figures.
     
    So yeah, I've been running with the group 3-4 times a week. I've always been a routine guy, so scheduling running M,W,F and one weekend day has been good. Unfortunately, I have to get up at about 4:15am in order to get ready and be to the starting point by 4:55am.
     
    Well this past week, I have my dog Mina with me. I didn't want to miss out on running and she's used to getting her walk first thing in the morning, so we got up at 3:15am to do her walk, get her home and feed her, and leave me enough time to go meet the guys for running.
     
    Those were crazy days , but I really want to keep up my committment to running. It's kind of addictive.
  22. NaperVic
    So I had to break up with my two pretend boyfriends and the 3rd one who was a backup. Fantasy over .
     
     
    So I got up early to go running with the boys. Met them at the Bagel shop and we started our run. First off, Damien wasn't around and it was mentioned that he must have had problems with his new baby (strike 1).
     
    During the course of the run, I find out that the backup guy has a wife and two teenage girls, and used to be principal of a private catholic school (strike 2).
     
    And then late in the run, we find out that Ryan is pursuing a girl (strike 3).
     
    I really need to stop confusing my Wish-dar with Gay-dar .
     
    Anyhow despite all that, the run was a lot of fun. When we got to the end, I asked what pace we were running and was told 8:30/mile. I couldn't believe it because it didn't feel like I was exerting myself that much. Usually when I run alone, I'm probably averaging 9-9:30/mile. Having others there to chat with and pace you really makes the time/distance/pain go away.
     
    So I might run with them once in a while, just to keep me on pace.
  23. NaperVic

    my Pretend Boyfriends

    By NaperVic,

    So I'm still running pretty regularly (about 13 out of 14 days) so that means that I continue to run into my two running crushes at least 3 or 4 times a week. They always have some encouraging words or salutations for me, like 'Heya Vic' or 'Good Morning Vic' or 'Nice job Vic' or 'Looking Good Vic' or 'See you tomorrow Vic'. Perks me up everytime I runinto them.
     
    When you're out there running, just trying to keep up your pace, your mind starts to wander. I've started to build up fantasies about my two crushes. Like I daydream about Damien and I spending the day together, meeting my family or how well he gets along with my dog Mina. And even Ryan, I've fantasized about our first dinner/date together, what I was wearing, what he was wearing, what we ordered, how we shared dessert.
     
    It's really scary when I am daydreaming about one of them and then I unexpectedly pass by them....if they only knew what I was thinking . For example, last saturday, I did an extra long run and went 9 miles. They don't normally go the direction I went that morning and at that time, but sure enough I passed them. They were also surprised to see me and they were real buddy like with excitement (I was too) that I was as far out as I was.
     
    So basically, they're both separately my pretend boyfriends. I've created relationships with each of them in my mind.
     
     
    I think I'm going to take the plunge and ask them if I can go running with them on Saturday. Saturday would be good because it won't mess me up going to work like it would during the week. Although who knows how I'll concentrate. I mean, what if I fall slightly behind and I'm forced to stare at their asses the whole way?
     
    God I'm so lame. They've asked me to run with them...twice. And I've been non-committal both times. Oh and ANOTHER guy started chatting me up, saying I should go running with him, WTF!
     
     
    [if LRITE]
    I'm testing out a new feature of my BLOG. It only allows known LRITEs to read this section.
     
    Being a die hard LRITE, is it okay to be happy for Luke now that he & Taylor seem to be getting along well? Luke & Taylor do seem to make a good couple, but I've been worried these last six months about Luke's problem in the bedroom.
    [/if LRITE]
  24. NaperVic
    Two cute boys talked to me today ! For a guy my age, it's memorable when that happens.
     
     
    Okay, I can't just leave it at that...here are the details.
     
    I think I mentioned in an earlier blogs that I've taken up running in the mornings. I've been running pretty regularly since May. I crawl out of bed, throw on my running shows, and am usually out by about 5:00am. I run about 6.2 miles (10km) on the bike path and take the same route everyday. Apparently, there's a running club that meets daily at 5:00am at a bagel show that is about at my midpoint where I turn around and head home. This means that I see the runners from the club twice each morning - Once on the way there and once on the way back. It's not always the same people everyday, they just know that there will always be people to run with every morning. Most of the runners are women and middle age/older men. Nice people who are friendly and say 'morning', nod, or just give an encouraging smile to help motivate you. There are a couple guys around my age and both of them are pretty cute. I've started to notice them more often, what days they run, approximately when I'll pass them, etc. Hey, I can't help but notice the man-candy. It helps to motivate me to keep running.
     
    One of the cute guys is this 6ft tall blond guy who has a really friendly smile and face. He's not classically or model gorgeous, but he's cute in his own, friendly smile way. The other guy is the dark browned haired guy, about my height, thin, pale, eyes that look away from you with this innocent look about him...basically, he's my ideal physical type . I think (or hoping) that they're somewhere in their late 30s/early 40s. I've seen them individually or with other groupings over these last couple months.
     
    Most of the runners run M-W-F, and fewer on Tues/Thurs. In fact, some Tues/Thurs, you don't see any other runners.
     
    So this morning (Tuesday), I went on my normal run. As expected, I didn't see many other runners. However, as I came around the bend, I come across the two guys(my cuties)...running together....just the two of them <heart skips a beat>. I probably said under 'f**k..' my breath.
     
    I was going to play it cool, and just give an extra friendly 'good morning', but the blond beats me to it and says "Hey, what's your name?"
     
    They stopped running, so I stopped, told them my name, and then ask them their names, shake their hands...the blond guy's name is Ryan, and the dark haired guy's name is Damien (hold that name for later).
     
    Then they get really chatty asking me how far I run, that I should go run with them, etc. I don't remember the entire conversation because I was so shocked that my running crushes were together, and they were talking to me. I just hope I didn't say anything too stupid or dumb, or giggle too much like a schoolgirl. I was the one who ended the conversation saying I better get back to running so we waved our goodbyes.
     
    Now the reality is, it was just a conversation, but boy did it make my day. They were so friendly & complimentary to me.
     
    There's so little to look forward to when you're running. I mean, you're just trying to survive without slowing down and walking or you're trying to ignore the pain in your knees. So having two cuties talk to you sure was fun. I haven't decided if I'm going to go run with them yet.
     
    I'm just hoping that they're not like real religious or sell Amway, or some other craziness.
     
    Anywho, hope something fun comes out of it. They're probably straight, but everyone can use more friends, I sure could. And friends who have common interests. I mean, how many friends can you find that will go running with you at 5am? I already get called 'obsessive' as it is or other choice words, it would be nice to find like minded people.
     
    Take Care,
     
    Vic
     
    P.S. - Is it weird that when I heard the dark haired guys name was 'Damien' that I was a little turned off ? Turned off my be too strong of a phrase. Perhaps that he got knocked down a peg or two? Damien. That's a scary sounding name. Is he gonna kill me in my sleep? Is he going to sell my organs on eBay?
     
    Why wasn't his name Alister or Chad...or even something more plain like Jeff or Brad? Odd that a name can have this kinda effect on me.
     
     
  25. NaperVic
    It's been really hot here in central california, so jumping into the pool is a daily (if not several times a day) occurance. Getting into and drying my regular board short type swim trunks is getting to be quite a chore. My friends say I should just go swim naked as it's my own pool in the privacy of my back yard, but I'm too much of a prude for that. Also, you can kinda see through the slats of the fence around my yard and I don't want to pull a Corvus and put myself on display for noisy neighbors .
     
    So I finally got the nerve to buy a pair of those squarecut swim trunks (or as I call them, daisy dukes). Not quite as short as traditional speedos, they're still pretty skimpy. It's taken me a lot of nerve to wear them. I've been keeping up my exercise regiment where about 5 days a week I do three a days (10km of jogging, 16miles of cycling, and 1 hr in the gym) and the other two days just two a days. So I think my body can support wearing them.
     
    It's just that I'm still not totally comfortable wearing them as I'm very aware of how they seem to grab everything . And they really, really don't hide anything. I didn't realize how flat my ass was until I put these on. You'd think with all the cycling and running, I'd have a great ass. But nope, it seems all the exercise has burned the calories right off my backside.
     
    Oh well, I do feel naughty when I wear the new trunks.
     
    Vic
     
    P.S. - has everyone heard the song 'Crazy Possessive' by Kaci Battaglia? If not, here's a link to a youtube video. The lyrics are awesome! I've so felt like her before and would probably feel that way about my next BF. 'Call my man again, I'll muck you up' .
     
     
     
     
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