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  1. NaperVic
    I have this female friend who's being particularly needy lately (and she's a real life friend, so this isn't some vailed b*tch slap against any of you ). Let's call her Nellie.
     
    This neediness is really starting to suffocate me and I'm debating what to do about it.
     
    Needy Nellie was over the top last week when I went to a Canada Day party at a local bar. I arrived kind of late, so most everyone was already there seated at the two rows of tables (about 50 people overall). I saw some friends that I haven't seen in ages, so I waved to lots of people as I walked by the tables and headed towards an open seat near some friends. I waved and passed by Nellie, who glared at me as she realized I wasn't planning on sitting next to her (mind you, there were no open seats around her and like I said, I wanted to say hi to some folks I haven't seen in weeks). I didn't think much of the glare at the time.
     
    This was a pretty casual event, so I was constantly waving or chatting with people all over the room. A few times I looked over in Nellie's direction and each time she glared at me .
     
    Later in the evening, I found myself seated one person away from Nellie as I was chatting with a couple coworkers who I again haven't seen in a few weeks. At one point, Nellie tried saying something to me, and the friend in the middle said "Do you want to switch seats?"
     
    I replied "Nah, that's okay, I haven't seen you in ages and I saw her last Saturday and thursday night". The look from Nellie could have killed.
     
    I shrugged the look off and eventually later in the evening, I was chatting with Nellie where she started complaining about me not sitting next to her. I explained that the seats around here were occupied and just shrugged off the rest of her complaints. She new most of the people there, so it wasn't like I left her alone in a strange place.
     
    Then she says "I'm going to need lots of catering from you because I'm not feeling real happy lately. You're one of my best friends and it's your responsibility." Best friend? Me?
     
    I didn't respond to that (I'm from the if you have nothing nice to say, don't say anything school of thought) and eventually went onto other topics or included other people in the conversation.
     
    Lately, she keeps declaring what good friends we are and telling me how strong our relationship is. Whoa . Lot's of hugs, her putting her arm around me, her head on my shoulder.
     
    I don't get where she's getting all this. I don't see our friendship as that strong and it's not like I'm leading her on. It's like she's creating more than what's really there. Maybe she thinks if she says it enough it will be true?
     
    It's weird, I like doing some things with her (the occasional dinner and such), but really, when did I become this responsible for her emotional needs. She seriously needs a real boyfriend because I can't give her all that she wants from me.
     
    I haven't spoken to her since last week. I kinda fibbed when I told her I was heading out of town this past 4th of July weekend, but I needed the break from her. I'd going to pull back some more from her. Hopefully she'll get the hint.
     
    Platonic friendships aren't supposed to be this much work. The attention she wants should be given from someone she's sleeping with. There's gotta be some reward for all that work.
     
    Vic
  2. NaperVic
    and now as I understand it....
     
    41 this year...bleh. You'd think by now I'd be used to the fact that I'm in my 40s.
     
    I'm getting more self conscious about the way I dress. I mean, it's not like I wear A&F or American Eagle or such. But I L. U. V. love Banana Republic
  3. NaperVic
    After getting a few items from the pool supply store, I was walking to my car and my gym crush drives by me. I've had a crush on him for the better part of 3 years now.
     
    He has just finished shopping at Trader Joes (10 pts for shopping at Trader Joe's ). It's a little scary that I recognized him so easily as he was wearing his sunglasses, but I do know what his car looks like.
     
    Well, I hurry into my car and I end up a few cars behind him at a stop light. Where I should have been turning left, I decide to follow him as he turns right. I was just curious as to where he lived, so I followed him for about a mile or so. He turned onto this road where there was an apartment complex on the left, and then houses on the right. I happened to live in that apartment complex for about 9 months a couple years ago (when I split up with my ex).
     
    Common sense and a healthy fear of getting caught finally took over and I stopped following him. I mean, I have a general idea where he lives now .
     
    So would this be considered stalking? I only ended up driving about 4 miles out of my way just to be close to him .
     
    On another note, I hit my weight goal a couple weeks ago, yay! I'm back at 160lbs.
     
    I also have upped my running in the mornings to 6.2 miles (10km) Double yay! I'm still running every morning and my knees haven't given out on my, so I'm happy about that.
     
    Since I hit my goal, I'm not doing 3-a-days everyday. It's more like 3 one day and then 2 the next. I'll hopefully get down to 2-a-days soon.
     
    Take Care,
     
    Vic
     
    P.S. - It's good to see some old faces stop by back at GA...jared (redlightfeeling), matthew, etc. Glad you guys stop by occasionally
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    Obsessed

    By NaperVic,

    I've been obsessed with fitness lately. I've been a two-a-day'er for the last 3 months as I've been trying to get into better shape. Usually I hit the gym at lunch for an hour workout and I usually did an afternoon/evening activity like rollerblading, biking, or jogging.
     
    Well for the last 10 days, I've been doing 3 a day'ers. At 5am I jog for 3-4 miles, at lunch I workout at the gym, and in the evening I've been biking 16 miles.
     
    I only have 2 lbs to go until my goal, but I'm starting to stress about slowing down. I mean, do I lose a few extra lbs so I have some spare when I can pig out? What happens when I go down to 2-a-days or *gasp* even 1-a-days?
     
    What's really weird is that I'm not even sore. In the past, I thought I could only run 2 or 3 times a week otherwise I'd get sore knees. But now I've run 10 days in a row and my knees are fine. Weird...
     
    I've also been eating about 1500-1800 calories a day, lot's of fruit, lot's of greens, few fats.
     
    Some of my friends are threatening an intervention, but I alleviated their concern when they saw me eat some french fries .
     
    Oh, I got cruised on the bike path a couple days ago. The trail I ride on dead ends at a parking lot. Nothing there but this isolated parking lot. This cute dude was there sitting in his truck but didn't have a bike or gear. We waved at each other cause that's what you do on the bike path.
     
    The dude then got out of his truck and walked right in front of me looking at me the entire time. When I realized what he was doing, I just looked straight ahead (luckily I had my sun glasses on). He walked away about 20 feet and then came back in front of me looking at me the entire time. I'm sure I had this 'oh shit' look on my face behind my sunglasses. I just kept looking forward silently saying to myself 'please don't say anything'.
     
    He eventually gave up and I got on my bike and got out of there before he walked in front of me again.
     
    I'm not sure why I panicked. I mean, I guess I should be flattered. But anonymous encounters like that aren't really my thing. And seriously, I had just rode my bike 8 miles. Hello, sweat, dirt, stink??? :wacko:
     
    Did you know that a Baskin-Robbins Peanut Butter cup sundae has 1200+ calories? That's like 1/2 to 2/3 the calories someone should eat in an entire day!!!!! Who could eat one of those???
  6. NaperVic
    I have 3 siblings: two who are older than me and then a sister who's 16 years younger than me. This blog is about her.
     
    I remember when she was an infant, changing her diaper, teaching her to ride her bike without training wheels on, her crying when I went away to college, sending her off to college.
     
    Basically, I've seen her grow up to be the 24 year old women she is today.
     
    She's dated a few guys before, all nice guys.
     
    Well, she's dating a new guy. Makes her real happy. What's the problem?
     
    I just saw some pictures of the new guy and good god he's cute. Not model cute, but cute in that if I were picking out my perfect BF, he'd look like him (only mine would be 16 years older).
     
    He has the hair color I like, the skin color I like, the body style I like, the nose I like, the eyes I like...you get the picture. :wacko:
     
    As the proper big brother, I'm supposed to be leery of him, making sure he doesn't mess with my sister or else I'll have to kick his ass. But kick is not what I want to do to that.
     
    This is weird :wacko: .
     
    I feel dirty.
     
    I feel guilty.
     
    I've let my catholic membership lapse, but are there any catholic priests out here in GA who could take my confession? 500 hail marys, or some our fathers? I need penance!
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    Stupid Valentine's Day

    By NaperVic,

    If someone were to prophesize to me that 'In five years, you'll be with the love of your live, living happily ever after', I'd be enjoying my life the way it is now.
     
    I'm single, have my dog, have my house, and am secure in my job. My relatives live far enough away that I'm not bogged down by the family drama, yet we can get on the phone at any time to reconnect. I have friends to do stuff with when I need company, but no one to smother me when I want to do my things (rollerblading, biking, reading online fiction, or just hanging out with my dog).
     
    Deep down, I know I'm a relationship kinda guy, but I won't get into one just to be in a relationship. I'm just waiting for the right guy to get into one. Until then, the single life is fine.
     
    It's only around the holidays, with the upcoming Hallmark created abomination called 'Valentines Day' that I start feeling like crap. Lot's of thoughts go through my head, like:
     
     
     

    Am I going to be alone forever?
    I'm getting older as every day goes by...
    eHarmony & Chemistry ads on TV continually point out that everyone else has found their soulmates except for losers like me.
    Who's going to drive me to the emergency room if I have a heart attack?
    Who's going to let me know when I have a little food stuck on the side of my mouth and can't feel it?
    What am I going to do on Valentines day? Hide at home and go out with single friends pretending we aren't bitter? Or go out and make of point of being single & proud?
    Why are my Ex & I talking more on the phone together? Are we trying to latch onto something in the past, remembering the positive things and ignoring why we split up in the first place?
    I hate doing the bitter/angry thing, but it seems to come out around a holiday like this.
     
    Stupid Valentine's Day
  8. NaperVic

    Sick for the holidays

    By NaperVic,

    Happy New Year everyone!
     
    I'm back at work today (TGIF). While it sucks being back at work, luckily it's only one day this week.
     
    I was sick over most of the holidays with a stubborn cold. I was supposed to go spend Xmas at a friend's, but I didn't want to infect everyone and couldn't stand up for more than 10 minutes at a time, so I just dropped off my food contribution.
     
    I made this trio of mini-desserts -- Mini Marscapone cheesecakes, almond thumbprint cookies with pomegranite jelly, and almond marzipan bars. Arranged nicely on a sleek, white tray. Lol, am I gay or what?
     
    The cold would not go away. Besides walking Mina, I pretty much stayed indoors. Didn't help that it was in the 40s for most of the break.
     
    I did go to a New Year's Eve party. Surprisingly, I think the wine & 420 action seemed to help clear up my cold .
     
    I don't know about everyone else, but 2008 pretty much sucked. The work, eat, sleep, repeat cycle just isn't cutting it.
     
    I need more gay male friends (real life friends, no offense). I need to do more fun things. I need to be more proactive about it too. Here's to 2009 *raises virtual wine glass for a toast*.
     
    Vic
  9. NaperVic
    At times I can be stubborn, but I've looked back over my time here at GA and found that I've come to accept (note accept, not tolerate) two facts:
     
    1) Some guys who claim to be bisexual really are bisexual.
     
    2) Some Gay Fiction readers skip over the sex scenes.
     
    For guys who claimed to be bisexual, I always assumed that they were just in denial, confused, or were just on a journey towards pure gayness. I knew better. I looked them in the eyes with a knowing look (well, as much as you can look someone in the eyes via the internet). But after much debate and discussion, I do believe there are true bisexuals.
     
    I still believe that some identified bisexuals are in denial, confused, etc, but there are some real ones.
     
    The other fact is harder to get my hands around. I mean, skip the sex scenes? Why even read the stories? I can see women skipping them over, or those who've been assigned to read the stories by some crafty English Lit Teaching Assistant, but gay guys? :wacko: .
     
    *Sigh*, I don't know, maybe it's because I turned 40 this year, but I accept that they're out there. They've taken our abuse and disdain for too long, but now they have my sympathy and acceptance.
     
    Vic
     
    P.S. - Domluka is close to breaking 400,000 views on his blog. Even if you consider 100,000 of those views were mine, that still leaves about 300,000 others! Wow! Having him return from his hiatus has sure made this more fun for me. I couldn't ask for a better Christmas present
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    Snow in Chicago

    By NaperVic,

    Hahaha. I left Chicago on Friday, and for the 8 days I was there, the weather was reasonable, without any snow. There were a few times where all I was wearing were shorts and a hoodie.
     
    Now I hear from my relatives that there's about 8 inches of snow on the ground, and that a lot of flights were canceled on sunday...whew, I'm glad I got out of there unscathed.
     
    The weather gods were smiling upon me. Maybe I should go buy some lottery tickets.
  11. NaperVic
    I supposed I always knew men & women (generally) thought differently about sex, but it wasn't so clear cut to me until last night. I'm still on hiatus in Chicago and last night I met a friend for coffee & chatting at Panera (btw, Panera is like the most bestest place in the whole world! I really really wish they'd have one in my town in California...Asiago Cheese Bagels, Free wifi, cookies to die for ).
     
    So this friend of mine is a former high school classmate. We were having a really good time and then somehow we got onto the topic of sex. She was explaining how her fiance gets frustrated because he always wants sex but that she's not always in the mood. The fiance travels a lot for work, so after a long week away, the first thing he wants is a roll in the hay. She on the other hand, doesn't feel that way.
     
    For example, this past week, he arrived on a thursday night. She had a long day at work, there was a lot of traffic to the airport, his flight was delayed, snow on the ride back from the airport, etc. Basically, a long and draining day. While she missed him and was glad he was back, sex was the last thing on her mind. He on the other hand was excited to see her and wanted sex that night and she said 'are you kidding me, not going to happen' :wacko: . However, the next day, she spent the entire day with me shopping, hanging out, eating chocolate. I also had dinner with the two of them at my favourite Pizza place (Lou Malnati's) and she was so happy that her fiance and I got along so well (this was the first time I'd met him). She said when she got home that night, she was on such an emotional high that she really wanted sex with him that night (and of course he was okay with it).
     
    At first I was like 'huh, spending the day with me made you want to have sex '. But no, we don't feel that way about each other. But she was trying to make me understand that she needs to be in a good, positive state of mind in order to be open to sex. That she needs to feel emotionally good in order for it to happen.
     
    For myself, I could have a terrible day, be mad at my partner, but if he suggested sex, I'd be all for it .
     
    As I said this was a real eye opener for me. Thank goodness I'm gay and don't have to worry about it.
     
    [edit]
     
    So after a long travel day, I'm back from Chicago. I had a good time catching up with old friends, seeing family I haven't seen in years, and celebrating my sisters graduation from nursing school.
     
    What was amazing to me was the number of age appropriate good looking guys in the Chicagoland aread versus where I live now. I probably could have gotten whiplash with all the looking I was doing.
     
    If I could get over the cold & traffic, I may have to move back there.
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    Don't want to go

    By NaperVic,

    I'm leaving Sunny California and heading to Chicago for the next 8 days. My littler sister is graduating from college and the entire family is getting together for the graduation as well as for Thanksgiving. First time we'll all be together since 4 years ago.
     
    It's odd, but I don't really want to go.
     
    I just checked the weather in Chitown and it said it was 36 degrees, but feels like 26 .
     
    26? Right now it's 78 degrees here in Central California. I'm sitting here in shorts, but tomorrow I'm going to have layers of clothes. I planned on bringing my leather jacket, but I think a parka might be more appropriate (which I don't have).
     
    I wonder if a 'Happy Graduation' email will suffice instead of my presence?
     
    Okay, that won't go over, so I have no choice but to get on the plane and go.
     
    Meh, at least I'll be able to visit with some old friends.
  13. NaperVic
    I'm still steamed over Prop 8 and the other bans against Gay Marriage that have taken place in the U.S. I know others want to 'move on', but I have all this anger that I don't know what to do with.
     
    So instead of keeping my heterophobia internalized, I'm thinking of constructive ways to externalize it. A friend and I came up with the following:
     
    1) Start a ballot proposition to Amend the California constitution to eliminate the right to Divorces . Banning divorces will help protect the sanctity of those man/woman marriages.
     
    Anyone have any other suggestions?
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    Prop 8 blues

    By NaperVic,

    It looks like Prop 8 (Ban on Gay Marriage) is going to pass in California . Obviously, it's upsetting.
     
    I can't quite articulate all the things that I'm feeling right now, so I'll focus instead on Exit Poll Numbers from CNN. I found it fascinating to look at the numbers.
     
     
     
    - Votes by age
     
    The numbers look promising for the future. 63% of the younger set (18-29yo) voted No. As the 65+ set die off and get replaced, hopefully Californian's will repeal the ban in the future.
     
     
    Age Range Yes No
     
    18-29 (20%) 37% 63%
    30-44 (28%) 53% 47%
    45-64 (36%) 53% 47%
    65+ (16%) 59% 41%
     
    - Votes by Race & Sex. I was really surprised that 70% of African American's voted Yes and that was the number that really stood out.
     
    Race Yes No
     
    White (63%) 47% 53%
    Af-Am (10%) 70% 30%
    Latno (19%) 51% 49%
    Asian (06%) 47% 53%
    Other (03%) 50% 50%
     
     
    My County in particular voted 75% Yes and only 25% no. That was truly sad (but expected). While that number sucks, I'm glad that I do have friends who were very supportive of the No side. I spent most of last night at an Election party and of the 18 people there, only 3 of us were gay/lesbian and all of the hetero's were very anti-Yes. The host of the party had participated in a Debate on Prop 8 and defended the No side pretty well. She and her husband were even profiled in an ad in the local paper as a straight married couple who supported the No side. One of the other guys was wearing a 'Straight against 8' shirt .
     
    I realized how hard these 'straights' fought against Prop 8...more so than some gays I know.
     
    So while Prop 8 passed, I still have hope for the future .
     
    Take Care
  15. NaperVic

    I'm Butch!

    By NaperVic,

    I bought a pickup truck today...fullsize . I'm feeling extremely butch right now. I'm going to call some of my biatches and see if they want to cruise with me and go to dinner.
     
    Thank goodness none of them read my blog otherwise they wouldn't like being called biatches. Feminist PhD Professors, heh.
     
    I got a plain vanilla Sierra 1500 Regular Cab. I almost got this extended cab thing with all kinds of bells and whistles, but I thought better and saved some cash.
  16. NaperVic
    I ran over a 'Yes on 8' Sign and I liked it...
     
    It was blowing into the street (so it wasn't like I knocked it down), but it still felt good.
     
    I usually avoid things in the road, but when I realized what what it was, I hit the gas.
     
     
     
     
     
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    No on 8!

    By NaperVic,

    So after a long day at work, I'm driving home and one of my neighbors had put up a 'Yes on 8' sign.
     
    I'm so angry right now, I just don't know what to do. I guess I shouldn't be surprised, odds are that some of my neighbors had to be religisexuals. But to make a point of putting out a sign? Aren't there more important things to be concerned about, like the economy? Nope. They & their pastors seem to think that this is the most important thing to be dealing with.
     
    I don't talk to this neighbor much, but we've always been friendly. Not anymore. His fat heterosexual ass can go to hell.
     
     
    <edit> For those of you outside of California, here's a wikipedia link on Proposition 8.
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    Blah, 40yo

    By NaperVic,

    When did birthday's start to suck? I don't know what year it was, maybe when I turned 30? Well, they definitely suck now at 40 . It didn't help when a good friend of mine said "Honey, I hate to tell you this but 40 was the worst. I went through a six month depression." Luckily he seemed to survive pretty well because he's 64 now. I figure I just have to make it through this year by doing my best to fight aging.
     
    I started by going on a 50 mile bike ride on the day after my birthday. I finally broke down and bought some cycle shoes and new pedals to snap them into (SPDI I think). I usually only ride about 16-20 miles, but with the new shoes, and my consistent attendance at Spin class, I figured I could push myself to do 50.
     
    Although my ass, palms, & calves hurt, I managed to complete the 50 miles in about 3 hours of riding time with 3 10 minute breaks. I rode from about 9:00am until 12:30 while it wasn't terrible hot, but I still managed a decent tan. I was pretty proud of myself for completing the ride and while I was still in the mood to fight aging, I ended up going to Spin class at the gym for another hour of cycling. That in hindsight was stupid (but who said I was being smart ). My calves were killing me throughout the class and I sweated up a storm from the first couple of minutes. 1 hour of spin class probably added up to about 16 miles of riding, so I ended up doing the equivalent of about 66 miles of riding that day.
     
    Oh about those cycle shoes. Scary little f*ckers they are. I managed not to fall the first 3 or 4 rides, but today I fell...twice. The first time, I was trying to turn off the path onto a sidewalk (I've done this dozens of times) and I used to use my left foot for balance. Well, I 'forgot' that my foot was locked into the pedal. By the time I realized it, I was already going down...instinctively, I put my left had out and managed to land on my left palm. Ouch.
     
    I got back on my bike and started riding home (about 1 block away). I decided to get my shoes out of the pedals ahead of time (to prepare), but it seems that while resting my left foot on the pedal, it snapped in again. So by the time I got to my garage and tried putting my left foot out, once again it was stuck and I panicked and fell on the same left palm. Double ouch.
     
    My left palm is all sore and starting to turn blue/purple. It's going to look a nasty color by tomorrow morning. Who knew cycling would be so hard on the palms.
     
    Anywho, despite my palm injury, my goal by the end of this season is to do 100 miles so that I could do one of those century rides (maybe next year).
     
    I'm sure I'll find other ways to fight the 40s .
     
    Take Care®,
     
    Vic
     
    P.S. - I ended up not buying a truck. I think the way gas prices are running, it would be silly to have a gas guzzler like that.
  19. NaperVic
    I think I'm going to butch it up a little and buy a pickup truck as a 2nd vehicle.
     
    I've had one too many trips to Home Depot where I got dirt in my car. Or most recently, I had to have friends drive me in their truck(s) to drop off & pickup my lawnmower from a repair store.
     
    I don't need one of those monster Ford F150s, Nissan Titans, Toyota Tundra, Chevy Silverado things. I'd probably have to turn in my gay card if I got one of those .
     
    I'm thinking more mid-range, extended cab, 2 wheel drive, automatic. I won't be 4 wheeling it anywhere, I just need something I can haul stuff in. I want the extended cab & not the Crew Cab so that in a pinch I can squeeze a few people in back. I was considering one of the following:
     
    - Nissan Frontier
    - Ford Ranger
    - Chevy Colorado
    - Toyota Tacoma
     
    If anyone has any experience or advice, I'd appreciate it.
     
    Take Care,
     
    Vic
  20. NaperVic
    Hey GA old-timers. Long time no blog. I haven't been on GA as much as I used to for many reason (mostly cause Dom has been quiet), but also because for the last three and 1/2 months, I've been on a serious diet and workout kick. Well last tuesday, I hit my weight goal and lost 40 lbs.
     
    You see, sometime after thanksgiving, I weighed myself and hit a number I hadn't seen in years. Due to a combination of old age, slowing metabolism, and just poor eating (curses you Carl's Jr), I gained 25 and hit 200lbs .
     
    I guess I had been getting fat for 2 years, and I knew it and my clothes knew it. But hitting 200 was a big shock, so I resolved to getting into better shape. I turn 40 this year, so my goal was 'Lose 40 by 40'.
     
    Through a combination of better eating and better working out, I'm in better shape now than I I've been in the last 20 years . Here's what I changed:
     
    On the food front -
    - No fast food - in the last 4 months (I think I've had french fries twice)
    - No breakfast pastries, but oatmeal or cereal with skim milk instead
    - 4 or 5 pieces of fruit each day. Anytime I was hungry, I would eat a piece of fruit instead of candy or a cookie
    - Lunch consisted of salad - mostly vegetables, some tuna on top, no dressing, and a plain bagel
    - My normal dinner was a bag of those frozen vegetables from Bird's Eye that steam in a microwaveable bag. I think they are one of the greatest inventions of the 2000's. I also cut up some chicken breast and ate that with the veggies.
     
    On the exercise front -
    - While I used to workout daily before this recent health kick, I increased the intensity and stopped reading the paper on the stationary bikes. I would sometimes even do a 2nd workout in a day.
    - I started taking spinning (cycling) classes, at first once a week, now I'm doing them three times a week). Each of those workouts kick my ass, I love them!
    - I'm probably doing 300+ situps or ab crunches everyday. I'm actually starting to get some definition in my abs (dare I say the tiniest hint of a six pack under that skin). I never had toned abs before in my life!
    - When the weather got nicer, I would try to do an outdoor activity by rollerblading 10 miles, biking 18 miles, or running 4 miles.
     
    So with a lot of hard work and dietary discipline I got down to 160lbs last tuesday . Now, I'm just trying to maintain my weight but still build muscle tone in my abs and upper body. I was geeked when the size 31 jeans I had been wearing recently kept falling off my ass and I had to go to the Banana Republic and buy size 30 straight leg jeans. They fit awesomely and I still have extra room in them!
     
    The drawback is that I've probably spend $750 on new clothes recently .
     
    I guess I was motivated to lose the weight for several reasons...health, age, as well to attract a man. I was so unhappy with my looks before that I really wasn't considering dating. Hopefully by feeling better about the way I look, I'll have a better shot of finding Mr. Right .
     
    Oh, a
     
    So here's a picture of me taken yesterday by my roomate... The A&F muscle shirt is sort of a joke. I used to always skoff at men over 30 wearing A&F, so my ex got me the shirt. I probably can only wear it for a few more months because it's definitely a sin for a 40yo to wear A&F .
     

     
    You can't see all the grey that's been sprouting on my head, but I am getting more lines & wrinkles and such on the face...grrrrrr crows feet
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    Wow...Annoying

    By NaperVic,

    Wow, during all my time here at GA, I don't think I've ever felt this annoyed about the number of posts that have been appearing that don't add any value to the threads they're part of.
     
    I'm no saint, and I'm sure I've been guilty of a post going off topic or one that really doesn't add value, but the amount of chaff nowadays is overwhelming what little wheat there is hidden in the threads.
     
    When I'd hear complaints in the past about other posts or posters, I'd usually tell other members "well, if you don't like a thread or a poster, just ignore the thread or the poster". But recently, it's hard to ignore and the "View New Post" tool becomes less useful.
     
    Vic (Who's probably just cranky because Dom hasn't posted in over 6 months)
  22. NaperVic

    My mother...shoot me

    By NaperVic,

    I had visited my folks this past weekend, staying over saturday night.
     
    I chatted with my mom several times, and at one point she was talking about how lovely San Francisco was as she was there this past summer. She mentioned that I should go there, even made a comment about how I should move there . Okay....that's from out in left field.
     
    Then she starts chatting about a friend of hers, someone who she went to highschool with back in the stone ages. It turns out that this woman confided to my mother that 'I have a gay son, and I love him'. My mother replied 'I have a gay son too!' Apparently this new connection had them giddy as school girls.
     
    I guess the other women then said 'We should introduce them to each other. Let him know that if he comes to San Franscisco, he has a place to stay.'
     
    My mother thought it was a great idea, and now the moms are trying to set us up together.
     
    So this women OFFERED her sons hospitality, and this son has no idea that his mother just offered to let some stranger come stay with him .
     
    I guess I was so shocked with the topic that I didn't have the heart to tell my mom that I don't date filipino's .
     
    Vic 'who feels dirty knowing his mom is trying to play gay match maker'
  23. NaperVic
    Wow, you know it's bad when you start dreaming about Dom
     
    Last night I had a very vivid dream about Dom. I don't usually remember my dreams, but this one stuck out.
     
    So anyway, here's what I remember...
     
    It starts out with me checking GA and finding that Dom has blogged again. I was sooo excited, that I considered updating my signature to say 'Domluka has reemerged again', but decided it was more important to read his latest blog entry.
     
    Dom said a few things, like why he was busy and such (work, new bf, blah blah blah), but then he also said he was working on a new project, where he and the bf were making short movies. He posted a link to the movie, so of course I clicked on it.
     
    The movie starts off with Dom sitting at his desk talking to the camera. Do you remember Danny the gay guy from Real World New Orleans? That's what Dom looked like , with a slight beard. He then introduces his bf who looked how I imagined Riley from TLW/ITFB would look like. It was a pleasant surprise to see that Dom was dating someone like that.
     
    Anywho, I don't remember the entire movie, but there's this scene where Dom & the BF where dresses as cute little puppies with floppy ears and such and they were on their hands and knees pretending they were dogs. At one point Dom was play pouting as his BF was coming up from behind. Dom pouted into the camera, 'please don't hurt me'.
     
    And then all I remember next was the movie ending with credits saying it was owned by HBO .
     
    So anyway, that was my Domluka dream. I'm sure there are all kinds of symbolisms & Freudian type things to find in there. Weird....
  24. NaperVic
    So last Tuesday, I went to my first spinning class. For those of you who don't know what spinning is, it's a class at the health club where a group of you ride on these cycle machines and pretent your climbing up and down hill by varying the speed and resistance on the cycles & changing how you are either sitting or gripping the handlebars. Oh and an instructor is constantly yelling at you to turn it up, or pedal faster, shoulders down, tummy in, & stick your ass out!
     
    I've been going to this gym for five years now, and I've been riding the exercise bikes forever, so I thought that spinning would be a piece of cake. Boy was I wrong!!! I haven't had such an intense workout in ages. Sweat was dripping down from my face in a steady stream. Toward the end of the class, instead of actually turning up the resistance, I was so beat that I just pretended by making the hand motion.
     
    Anyhow, I really liked the class and will be going again tomorrow (tuesday).
     
    However, the reason I started going was that there was this cute guy in the class. I have been keeping an eye on him at the gym for a couple months now (read stalking), and decided to take the class in hopes of finding a reason to chat with him. He's probably about 6ft, 33-35ish, thin, brown hair, light skin, deer in headlights/F*ck me look in his eyes, etc.
     
    Well, I saw where he placed his bike, so instead of being totally obvious and placing my bike next to his, I place it on the other side of the room where I had a good view of him in the mirror , but he wouldn't know that I was just staring at him.
     
    About one minute before class started, this asian guy walks in and positions his bike right next to cute guy's. I inwardly groan, but figure it was just coincidence.
     
    Since the class was pretty intense, I didn't really have time to obsess over cute guy, but I did sneak a glance or two..or twelve. At the end of the class though, cute guy walks over to the water fountain and just as I start heading over there, the asian guy beats me to it and starts chatting with cute guy.
     
    I head to the locker room, and cute guy walks in a few minutes later. The locker room is packed, and since we were at opposite ends, I packed up my stuff and started leaving. I figured I'd walk slow and have a reason to run into cute guy as he was walking out of the club. We could chat about how intense the class was, etc.
     
    Well, sure enough, asian guy was waiting outside and started chatting with cute guy. I figure my chance for the day is blown, so I head to my car. As I pulled out of the parking lot, I saw that asian guy had followed cute guy to his car and was still chatting with him!!!!!
     
    It sooo figures!!!! There are only 3 guys in the spinning class, me, cute guy, and other asian guy. I blow my chance to chat with cute guy, and a fellow asian steps in and takes him from me!!!! Curses!!!
     
    I'm not even sure cute guy is gay, but there are signs. Now I just have to find a way to get rid of the competition :2hands: .
     
    Vic 'Who's not used to pursuing'
  25. NaperVic

    A new blog-ining

    By NaperVic,

    It's funny, I never thought I'd be blogging here ever again, but once again GA has become a fun place to be. Don't get me wrong, it's always been fun hanging & commiserating with my fellow Dom fans, but last year there was so much drama that I used to dread logging onto GA. That 'okay, what's going to give me a headache or pain in the behind this time?' feeling.
     
    But things seemed to have changed for the better . Now I know how the elves or munchins in the Wizard of Oz felt when Dorothy's house landed.
     
     
    Sooo anyway, Here's my 'new' blog....
     
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    Some of you know that last year, I broke up with my partner Bill. We had been together for 10+ years and he's still the only guy I've really loved. I won't go into details about our breakup (because there was some ugliness), but we've both made a HUGE effort to treat each other respectfully and nice during the process. Having been registered Domestic Partner's in California, we had to get a real divorce . Can you believe that it's still not fully done? We were both happy about how we agreed to split things (basically, I kept what was mine and he kept what was his).
     
    I'm happy to say we've managed to stay friends. I still love Bill and I know that he still loves me, but both of us aren't sure that we can ever be together again. I think the big reason is that I'm not sure I could ever fully trust him again. Don't get me wrong, I want to trust him, I just don't know if I can do it 100%. I think he feels the same way.
     
    Bill is still the person I trust the most (we still have financial dealings together and we are sharing custody of our dog Mina), but it's the matter of the heart that has me cautious.
     
    Neither of us are dating anyone else, and personally, I'm not ready for it. I don't think I could do anything casual and since I'm still not fully over Bill, I don't think it would be fair to start something serious with anyone else until I can resolve those issues. It's sad, but I'm finding that the guys I find attractive all look like or have characteristics of Bill :wacko: .
     
    Did I mention that he moved about 3 hours away? The distance makes it tough to pass Mina back and forth, but since we both really love her, it's going to have to do for now. Bill & I talk two or three times a week. What's really odd is that we're talking for a long time (like the last call was about 1.5 hours). We never talked like that when we were together.
     
    I don't know what I'm going to do. I hope either 1) I get over Bill and fully start moving on or 2)We get back together...scary.
     
    I'm 39 years old, so it's not easy to go 'start' over. I don't think I can do the bar scene and most single guys my age are still single for a reason . Ughhh, at least I have Mina (well, 1/2 time).
     
    So anywho, that's me whining.
     
    Take Care
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