“Every man is a mystery to himself. And then we die, unsolved.”

Life is never perfect and I daresay few of us are the soul of perfection.  I know I.m not and don't expect others to be.  When I feel someone is flawed, I take a look in the mirror, and you know what I find?  Flaws.  So, other's actions are to be expected, not overthought.  It makes life easier.  In the long run, you are probably making your own shoulder's lighter.  JMO.  Hugs.

Some "personalities" do just what you say.  They reveal some sordid aspect of their lives, then become indignant when a reporter inquires or writes about it...even to the point of filing a lawsuit.  So they seek an outrageous solution to their outrageous conduct.