Appropo's to my earlier depress-o-thon I've just sent my first semi-dumping email to someone I'd seen three times.

I didn't say sorry,

I didn't say the old, "It's not you, it's me,!

I DID say that it was his binge drinking, having a girlfriend and terrorising of his ex-bf that put me off.

What I would like to figure out is this: Was I being new-age honest man or frigid b*tch with a lolly up his arse?

Oh and we didn't have sex, (a first for myself with my whorish tendencies for older men.)

Oh and he was a touch younger, (legally before you ask- different rules et al.)

Erm ta.

xx James xx

What I would like to figure out is this: Was I being new-age honest man or frigid b*tch with a lolly up his arse?

I'd say you were being self-preserving. Those are pretty scary things for a potential boyfriend to have going on.

What I would like to figure out is this: Was I being new-age honest man or frigid b*tch with a lolly up his arse?

Well, if you talked to him about his bindge drinking and told him how not okay that was to you, told him how him having a girlfriend was not okay with you, and being a bully was not okay, then you aren't being frigid or new-age honest. You're being plain and simple honest. There are certain things people just don't put up with, you can't have someone walk all over you, if you don't like something you should let your date know. Even if it could hurt their feelings, you should make yourself come first if it comes to someone doing something that is deffinetly not okay by you.