Aww, too bad they're not gay... Buuut you should still come out to them, because they might know of a nice gay guy who's single. Nice people tend to gather like lipids in micelles, so by casting your lot with them, you'll probably end up with a gay fellow from their circle, i.e. cute and fit.

PS I am being a hypocrite.

Hypocritical or not, there is some merit in the suggestion. They've told you about their families and dating, etc. Have they not asked about you? Perhaps they don't need to ask. Their gaydar may be better than yours.

Have they made any disparaging remarks, told any jokes about gays? There's no reason from your side of the relationship that they can't be good friends.

Now Vic, haven't I convinced you that bisexual guys do exist?

Corvus and Mike have a point - even something simple like "Ya, my ex Bill is watching Mina, our dog, today"

Agreed, they make excellent points. I also hope theres lots of leopards in the merthiolate.

However, I'm not sure why I'm hesitant or dare I say aprehensive about the boys being disappointed in me.

I've been an out and proud gay man for years now, who always went with the theory 'If they don't like that part of me, f*ck 'em'. I had no problem writing people off for less.

But....

I like the running thing, I like the 5:00am thing, I like how my miles per minute went down when I ran with them. I like the camaraderie, I like the eye candy, I don't want to lose that.

*bleh* in a way, the longer I wait, the worse it will get. I just hope I don't re-closet myself to them.

P.S. - There is an advantage to all this worrying. When I think about or worry about this stuff while exercising, I'm not focused on the pain or fatigue of my muscles .