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"Welcome to your prostate." If you've been lucky enough to avoid this one you have my burning envy, if you haven't then you know the scene. The characters have got the foreplay out of the way, the nervous bottom has just explained that he's never had sex with a man before, and the top very gently slides a finger in. 'It feels strange, but not painful' the bottom always sodding thinks, but then oh! what is that feeling! Wide eyed, he asks his lover who explains with the aforementioned (bizarrely common) bit of dialogue. Both clunky and deeply unfortunate as, well... Welcome to your prostate, we got fun and games!

If you've been as torn up as it sounds, it'll have been showing for a long time and that, combined with her finding the Craigslist ad, may have meant she started emotionally moving on long before you formally agreed to split up. Not that that makes her new relationship any less painful for you, but it doesn't mean that you didn't matter to her, just that she may have already done her mourning. Good luck on getting back into the dating scene! I hope you find yourself a good bloke.

Something bouncy always works for me. Sleater-Kinney's One Beat album has a really good steady beat to it. A lot of Ramones stuff is really good, too. (So's peppy europop, if you can handle the complete lack of hip cred.) Really what it comes down to is your own taste. If you've got a problem with getting bored, audiobooks might be a good option.

I don't know, V's are a pretty common poly structure and work fine when they're properly maintained, while three-way relationships can be notoriously hard. The sheer amount of emotional work that goes into them, y'know? (And that's not even getting into the gazillion other ways to do poly...) Damn, you must know different men from me. All the ones I know proclaim their lack of emotional interest while picking out the sodding caketoppers! And that's halfway through the second date. Of course, there are open relationships where you date other people, not just have sex with them, so there's something for every kind of person.

It looks to me like you're falsely conflating knowledge and/or a very narrow thought process with depth of understanding. In my experience 'you are hurting and I will hurt with you because you are hurt' is a very common human response to distress in a fellow human. Or possibly I'm just a freak?

Out of curiosity: does the no-love rule only count for dog-human interactions or is it also apply to intra-canine relationships? Because in my experience dogs certainly grieve the loss of a longtime fellow companion, which would indicate at least strong affection. (Also, isn't there serious scientific contention over what makes a creature 'self-aware'?)

That could work, but if you don't mind me saying, it shifts the character responsibilty pretty heavily. It removes the character flaw from Jacob and simply makes it a misunderstanding, losing the opportunity for character growth on Jacob's part. (If done too frequently it also runs the risk of turning Jacob into an Author's Darling.) Maybe you could put Jacob aside and create his partner as an entirely seperate character, then work out what problems would realistically come up between these two people? Risk-Aware Consensual Kink. Oh, darn. Good luck with it!

To my knowledge, hunting and guard dogs are not bred for aggression; the last character trait you want in a large, powerful dog is uncontrollability. It would be akin to breeding the tendency to chase into a sheepdog. Chihuahua's get an unfairly bad rap, in my opinion. When they're well trained they're perfectly lovely creatures, but prone to the same problems as most small dogs. Many owners encourage or ignore a small dogs bad behaviour because it's 'cute' or 'harmless', but barking or hostility from a small breed is often because their size makes them feel vulnerable. Ignoring this in a dog results in both a dangerous animal and an unhappy, frightened one.

Glad you could get something useful from it! Eh, furries don't bother me. As for the BDSM, well, RACK is the rule of thumb . (Sorry for the delayed reply - I've been moving and I completely forgot about this topic.)

Hmm. Possible one could obtain a Concealed Canine Carrying Permit? I'm surprised No Tolerance laws haven't been instituted; in England they'd be put into place long before things reached this level. Are there any local articles about the attacks that might shed some light on why there hasn't been legal intervention?

I'll admit now that I'm not exactly what you'd call a staunch romantic...or, well, any kind of romantic, really. Fortunately romance and love are two distinct creatures. Love is work. It's the day in, day out duty of being good to people when you're tired and angry. It's about forgiving and listening and giving for as long as you're able to. Not exhausting yourself by being the eternal, faithful doormat (better to be pissed off than pissed on), but doing what you can and trusting that they will do the same for you. Basically, it's about kindness. And love without kindness is worthless.

It's an odd, minor thing; but maybe not knowing how to provide physical contact that doesn't turn sexual? Say he knows how to comfort a friend physically because they're not filed under the 'sexual partner' folder in his brain, but he doesn't have a tag for 'person I am sleeping with, but also emotionally involved with'. It's understandable and unintentional (Jacob's holding his lover and idly petting his hair while they watch a film, Jacob feels warm and relaxed and intimate...and automatically translates that into sex), but 'you only touch me when you want to screw me!' is a realistic sore spot to develop and one that could very easily lead to a blow-up. What flavour of freaky? I might be able to do a little beta work for you, if you're wanting it.

Cool, dude. Sorry to derail a thread you were enjoying. If anyone feels perceived ideals of chivalry is a conversation they'd like to have I'll make a thread in the Soapbox. My apologies for the mess. Next time I'll bring dusters.

Not only that, but the lurkers totally support you in email.

Nice strawman you got there. It flammable? Let me break it down for you. Girl + large tits = tons of undesired attention = feels very little gratitude towards unwelcome attention. Could you please point to where I was pretentious? Argumentative, certainly. Supercilious, arguably, but pretentious? You keep using that word. I do not think it means what you think it means. Does this mean you're picking up your balls and going home?

Somehow I have the odd feeling that respecting women has never been high on your priorities. Decent men don't imply that women should be grateful for any scrap of male attention because they're so gosh-darn ugly. Speaking of behaviour that loses respect for ones particular social group: Doesn't it feel good to know that you're the reason people unfairly judge young men? Men who think that insulting a woman's appearance is the same as debate are pitiful creatures. I'm fairly sure my avatar is one I use on another site and that I have it because it's an injoke with a close friend. If only I'd realised was trying to lure gay men over to the dark side! You have truly opened my eyes. Well, my birth certificate does have the date scribbled in crayon over a layer of tippex. Could my mother have been lying when she said the hospital had just forgotten to flip the calender month over when they first wrote it?

Don't worry, I don't! Another of my friends prides himself on being chivalrous, but he lets me treat him in an equally gentlemanly manner and doesn't try to stick me solely in the role of the 'lady'. So all is good. As for the rest, that's just ole fashioned manners! My mother would have blistered our ears if her kids didn't do those things . Classy. Tell me, do you respect all women this way? (By the way, see those things in my avatar? Those are mine. They're 11 inches larger than my waist. Generally people could stand to be a little less, uh, appreciative.) Once someone's made it clear that they do not desire something, continuing to do so is ill-mannered. The original gesture is polite. Also, I generally just ask people 'Do you have a boyfriend? Girlfriend?'. I assume their fragile heterosexual egos could weather the insult. Mods: I'm wondering if it might be a good idea to move this discussion to the Soapbox?

Feel free. I'm built like an old-fashioned German farmgirl; capable of putting my fist through a brick wall. But courtesy is only courtesy if it's welcome. Offering someone a slice of chocolate cake is courtesy, trying to force it down their throat is rude. Declining the cake is not resentful.

Have you ever had a friend almost shove you into a busy road? I have. It was because he was so determined to be 'chivalrous' and walk on the outside of the pavement that he tried to push past me. With no warning. He also refused to walk through doors if I held them open for him to go through first. The man would actually stand there pouting. Aren't those just marvelous displays of respect?

1. Pushing in front of somebody is bad manners, and 2. Chivalry being forced on an unwilling recipient is not respectful; infact it's just the opposite.

Unless you're genuinely worried for your physical safety 'getting up in someone's face' shouldn't get anyone hit; male, female or otherwise. If you can't walk away from it or calm them down the appropriate response to verbal aggression is verbal aggression, not a black eye.

Nah, the producers just wanted to do a good show that starred Asian cultures and characters. IMO they did an absolutely fantastic job.

Avatar: The Last Airbender isn't anime. It uses a lot of the art style, but the show itself is American.

This comic is my basic opinion on Ayn Rand's novels and philosophy.

It's not my kink but I'm pretty damn sure you'll have an audience for it. Bung a couple of warnings/disclaimers on and go for it.