I suppose what disturbs me most is that there is such a thing as gender and role in the sense that they are lumped together. When I was much younger, I remember taking my toys to my babysitters house. The girls would let me play with their dolls, and they could play with whatever crap I was the least bit interested in. I liked to fix their hair! It was fun to me. Truth be told, I still like messing with hair. I always got along with girls better than boys. I suppose I still do in most respects. I relate to them better. Generally (not always) women seem less threatening at least to me. I certainly don't want to be a women, I'm happy I'm a guy, and I'm not saying that I don't find 'butch' men attractive, nothing could be further from the truth. Much along the same line I generally find very effeminate men not attractive. That is my personal preference. I have many very good friends that meet both ends of the spectrum and wander throughout the middle.
There is a saying... "The clothes make the man". I think it is absolute bollocks! People are people regardless what they prefer to wear or how they fashion their hair.
It is sad to me, that society seems to want everyone to fall into a specific cookie cutter image in some respects, while in others, they tell you 'be an individual'. Cliques in high school and many other venues I think are an excellent example of this gender 'conforming' crap. We want to 'fit in' because we're told if we don't, then there's something wrong with us. When enough people 'don't' fit in they become a clique of their own.
To me this concept is as antiquated as someone assuming a nurse is female and a doctor is male. Some thirty years ago, and even still today many automatically conjure up a gender according to a profession. Men are mechanics, women are secretaries etc etc. Screw that mechanic thing, I don't want to get that nasty crap under my nails! I like secretarial work! It's air conditioned in the summer, and nice and toasty in the winter, and I can sit my happy ass in my chair all day and do my work.
It's slow to come, but maybe in another few decades roles will be eliminated, and people will be able to be themselves regardless of what is or is not between their legs. In my mind, there is nothing to 'correct' when someone doesn't conform their appearance and actions with the status quo so long as they are doing no harm. That being said, I don't believe there should be a 'status qho' either. If everyone dressed and appeared however they wanted from birth without regard to societal prejudices then this would not be an issue.