We live in Portland, Oregon where being gay is basically a non-issue. That is, if you stay near the city center. Things change drastically the further you move away from the downtown core. There are clubs, bars, bathhouses, sex/video shops, etc., etc. We have settled into our roles as an old gay couple so we don't frequent a lot of the gay businesses very often because we are not interested in getting drunk or having anonymous sex (anymore). We live in the Old Town area of Portland and there is a brand new gay bar just around the corner. There are three other gay clubs within a few blocks. We usually frequent Scandals Bar which is in what used to be Vaseline Alley (SW Stark Street) and the heart of the gay community here, but it has spread through out the city over the last ten years.