OK people, somewhat weird and sensitive question here.
In writing the latest chapter of Unexpected Liaisons i had to revisit my first experiences of finding gay porn online. the character in the story begins to question his sexuality (at the age of 29) and is recommended to go looking for porn to see if he can cope with the idea of actually having gay sex, rather than just admitting that he is attracted to this particular other guy.
in order to write the chapter i did manage to get some other people's experiences, but mostly we had worries about getting caught and issues with internet in the 80's, which while helpful, wasn't quite what i was after. so Zupan had quite a similar experience to my own, only his was better, namely, finding information that was boring or irrelevant, then finding stuff that was too graphic before being able to get anything vaguely useful out of the experience.
the whole thing for me was a bit traumatic, and so my question is: when you first went looking for gay porn online, how did you feel about what you saw?