First, let me start by saying this was the longest post ever ever in the history of the universe!
Hmm well without getting embroiled in a debate of erotica vs pornography I watched my first "pornographic" material when I was like 11 and thought it was freakin great! lmbo I think maybe most young guys get introduced to the whole sex thing via porn especially nowadays when it's so readily available so I think for censorship, parents need to take responsibility and that's for most things. It's the same with tv shows and parents (mostly moms) complaining about program content, they need to be parents and occaisionally turn the tv off.
Is porn harmful? What a weird question! It's the same with evvverything - too much of anything is harmful, but anything in moderation... unless it's crazy bad, like I guess having like rat poison in moderation is still realllly bad, but porn? lol I don't think porn has an adverse affect on marriage. I think poor communication and a lack of understanding of the necessity to seperate the eroticism from the relationship somewhat needs to be better understood. You have your "lets do it" vocabulary that's used at certain times, and your "we're outside the bedroom now" vocabulary for other times and as long as there are no issues of loss of respect why not do what they do in porn unless it's really freaky in which case you're just freaky anyway maybe and might just have picked the wrong person lol As Shaggy put it "I want a freaky girl" (or boy!)