Four months from today is the 'Due Date' for the baby - so like 17 weeks or so and my life is over Surprisingly there's been no new baby momma drama - well not since two weeks ago when she called to complain the check the bank sent her was not drawn on a bank in her area so she had to wait 'three whole days' for the check to clear to get her money and would I call the bank to find out why they didn't send a check she could cash. Yeah, um no sorry, not doing that.
Pretty much everything
Yes I know it's been a bit since I last updated this - much of the good times, happy feelings were tested by the surrogate and her immaturity. I've come to the conclusion it is really just a 'it's not my money' kinda thing. She just sees us as having an endless stream of money and if she does something that causes us to have to pay more - it's no big deal.
So updates-
1) Still not insured - but she will be on June 1 - cost to insure - $260 a month with a $1500 deductible - for those
So today started out like crap, seemed to get better then ended like a ginormous turd.
First I got written up at work - first time in 20 years - guess I shouldn't be too upset. While yelling at my supervisor in court with the judge on the bench is wrong and I guess I deserved to be written up for it, her being completely incompetent and screwing up my case - I ended up losing btw - seemed perfectly reasonable to me. The big boss did some checking - thankfully she IS competent [she didn't
Today marks ten weeks - ten weeks you ask? The baby is ten weeks along. I hope to post pictures in the gallery later tonight.
Speaking of ten weeks, I have to say what an amazing person our surrogate is. Of course there is the obvious, that she is carrying our kid for us, but above and beyond that, we got SO lucky when we found her. First, she takes everything so serious. More than many soon to be moms I know. She won't drink cola because it is bad for the baby. I mean she researches
Having the day off is such a wonderful thing - most of the time. This week, despite being 'furloughed' on Monday - which is a crock of pig dung because a furlough is not the taking of a day's pay, it is the taking of a day's pay and telling you that you don't have to work. What they did was take away a paid holiday but call it a furlough so they don't have to give us a day off which is how it is supposed to be - but I digress.
I was trying to be productive. I have a list of things I want
Saturday marks sixteen years Mike and I have been together. There have been ups and downs, but as I write this I have a rush of emotions that remind me how lucky I am. I was talking to someone about relationships, someone in their twenties who lamented they hadn't met anyone, had never been in love and how sad that made them. It got me thinking.
I've been out for about half my life. I came out when I was twenty three. Had my first 'boyfriend' that year. I don't know how many dates I w
Despite all the 'best' wishes we got the results of the ultra sound and they were . . . .
First a little background. As is common knowledge, I am a prosecutor. For some unknown reason, my boss decided to pull a power move and prove she can make me do things, because - God if that isn't good practice for being a parent, I don't know what is. Basically a co-worker had a trial last week that was continued to this week, which she was scheduled to do intake - a crappy job to be sure. Not only
Friday was the surrogate's birthday - and we weren't sure what to do about it. Of course we were going to acknowledge it, but we weren't sure about the gift thing. On the one hand, we wanted to send her something, because - well it is a pretty amazing thing she is doing - but on the other hand, we're still a bit concerned about the whole 'I'll be your nanny' comment. We are walking this fine line between being friendly and calling, etc and keeping things a business transaction.
We decid
Not really, but maybe I should.
I sort of mentioned this in chat tonight, but we 'had' to call the surrogate tonight. Had to in the sense she sent me a text and an email saying how she missed us and she hadn't talk to us in a while. My general feeling was - so??? Which has me thinking maybe I am not cut out to be a dad because I am such a jerk. Okay those of you thinking 'maybe? There's no maybe about it.' just stop. Point noted.
Seriously, maybe I am too damn grumpy because when
Amidst the snow and ice coming down on Wednesday, Mike and I got an email, followed quickly by a call from us to the clinic. The pregnancy was confirmed and they now gave us a schedule and a due date - our life changing day - Sept. 29, 2011.
First thing, that date seems AWFUL soon to me - much too soon - but then I learned the 40 weeks we were expecting is from the date a woman's cycle begins, not conception - 40 weeks is really deceptive advertising if you ask me. Then if there are twins
So today was the day we found out - and weird as it was, I seemed to be the least nervous of everyone I knew - even co-workers were more anxious than I was. I just figured I'd know when I knew.
Mike sent me about 20 text messages - I was in court for a good part of the day, first in the morning than again around 3 ish. At one point my phone kept vibrating so much from all the text messages, I had to take it out of my pants pocket because it was making me excited.
I must have been a
OMG- that is the best way to describe how I feel, I don't think I was ever this sure it was going to work as I am today. The emails from the Dr. were just shy of gushing. Not to say he didn't do this all the time, cause I don't know what he tells others, but this was the most excited he has been since we've been working with him.
To recap, the egg donation went much better than expected. Where normal would be 10-12 we got 22. Of those 20 were mature and 18 were fertilized [No I don't kno
The emails, calls, text message, and anxiety attacks are coming with increasing frequency the last two days. Today was the third and last ultra sound for the surrogate. According to the doctor, the surrogate, let me call her Eve at this point - surrogate is so impersonal - Eve, has 18 follicles - which in layman's terms mean she has 18 eggs developing. In theory each of these can be fertilized and we would have potentially 18 embryos.
So being the dim sort, I asked if 18 was good, bad o
Four hundred characters is too few for the update I want to make so I'm going to post it here.
As many might know/remember, Mike and I are trying to have a child(ren). We tried traditionally surrogacy - commonly referred to in technical medical circles as the 'turkey baster method,' but after 3 attempts that proved unsuccessful. The fertility Dr., who I found to be a wonderful doctor, told us that statistically further attempts would end up costing us more than biting the bullet and going
