Chocolate is the BEST!!!!! Eat desert first!!!!!

Best wishes for your friend's baby. Miscarriages are common even without anatomical issues

Congratulations Uncle Kevin:)

and yes, as was said, babbies miscarry all the time..it happens...whether a woman can carry them without physical issues. One of my sisters lost 3 children (two were twins in the same sac...it happens)

It took her 13 yrs to be pregnant....now she has my nephew and niece, whom I adore and love with all my heart......so you will be able to stay in touch...and be the best Uncle there is:)

good prep for when you want to become a Daddy:)

Michael

Chocolate is the BEST!!!!! Eat desert first!!!!!

 

Best wishes for your friend's baby. Miscarriages are common even without anatomical issues

Thanks Libbonobo! LOL I often do eat desert first

Congratulations Uncle Kevin:)

 

and yes, as was said, babbies miscarry all the time..it happens...whether a woman can carry them without physical issues. One of my sisters lost 3 children (two were twins in the same sac...it happens)

 

It took her 13 yrs to be pregnant....now she has my nephew and niece, whom I adore and love with all my heart......so you will be able to stay in touch...and be the best Uncle there is:)

 

good prep for when you want to become a Daddy:)

 

Michael

I'm so sorry your sister had so much trouble, Michael, it's awesome that you now have a little niece and nephew though!

Kevin,

Chocolate anything is awesome:)

BTW, I have two nieces (one is 20..21 in March...I remember I visited my sister just before she went into labor..right after I left her water broke and off to the hospital.she said I brought her good luck....who knows..but my niece is cool....)

Then my big sister has my nephew (soon to be 16....going to be a lady killer but very down to earth) and my soon to be 12 yr old niece (she is the genius...1st in her district in literature..I am her Godfather..we both love literature...)

I remember that my sister still thought my nephew is like 2 when it comes to girls and refused to have "the talk"....Gay Uncle Michael to the rescue (I did and he said he already knew....sex ed and all..and I reminded him about condoms and no means no and only go there when ready/in a committed relationship about getting serious with a girl and our talk was top secret...he felt better..and told him he could come to me anytime about anything, which he appreciated and I told him I won't judge him...heck if I have to I would buy the condoms...better that then becoming a Great Uncle before my time and my sister a Grandma..she would have a heart attack!!)

My sisters can be clueless.....um, the care and feeding of raising parents...LOL

Michael

Your determination to be a dad made me smile big-time! There is nothing like it (my two are 17 and 11), and I hope you do experience it for yourself. (Just a minute - got to pray that your future guy is like-minded.)

While you wait for daddyhood, if you can't be an uncle to your friend's baby I'm quite sure that with an attitude like yours you will soon be an uncle or godfather or something to another one.

I hope you do stay in touch with your friend after graduation, for your own sakes but also so that we get to hear the end of the story. My heart has gone out to you both as I've read your other blog entries about her. I am amazed at your forbearance in dealing with what must have felt like a rejection.

I've long since stopped being surprised at the hurt that religious ideas can cause. I've been on both sides, because you could call me an ex-fundamentalist. I'm ashamed at the hurt that I've caused because of some of the things that I used to believe and the things I said and did as a result of those beliefs. By the very nature of things, I hurt most those who meant the most to me. What I would give to do some things over again! I have shuddered with recognition - and grief - as you have described the changes in your friend.

I disagree with you in one way: You withhold criticism on the grounds that the changes don't seem to have hurt her. But I can't help but think that if she has lost her former intimacy with you then she has indeed been hurt. What you have shared of yourself here makes it clear that anyone who has your friendship is blessed by it, and your friend is depriving herself of that, or at least not experiencing it as fully as she might. And the same applies to her relationship with Kelvin. They are meant to share more than physical intimacy with one another. The heart intimacy I share with D is by far the most important to both of us.

I want to encourage you to be patient. Your friend is on a journey, and may not always behave as she is now. Radical and unusual changes in behaviour are not uncommon when someone experiences a religious "conversion," but in time the person's natural sensibilities (and, dare I say, common sense) often reassert themselves, and a more "normal" blend of the new and old emerges. Thank God, that seems to have been the case with me. I became a believer nearly thirty years ago, and the process I've described is still going on. I hope you don't have to wait so long for your friend, Kevin.

BTW, I cannot resist asking: What are your spiritual friend and her missionary-type beau doing that could have resulted in a pregnancy? And has she acknowledged this apparent contradiction? Last I checked, people who denounced emotional intimacy between the genders also denounced pre-marital physical intimacy between them ....

M

Your determination to be a dad made me smile big-time! There is nothing like it (my two are 17 and 11), and I hope you do experience it for yourself. (Just a minute - got to pray that your future guy is like-minded.)

 

While you wait for daddyhood, if you can't be an uncle to your friend's baby I'm quite sure that with an attitude like yours you will soon be an uncle or godfather or something to another one.

 

I hope you do stay in touch with your friend after graduation, for your own sakes but also so that we get to hear the end of the story. My heart has gone out to you both as I've read your other blog entries about her. I am amazed at your forbearance in dealing with what must have felt like a rejection.

 

I've long since stopped being surprised at the hurt that religious ideas can cause. I've been on both sides, because you could call me an ex-fundamentalist. I'm ashamed at the hurt that I've caused because of some of the things that I used to believe and the things I said and did as a result of those beliefs. By the very nature of things, I hurt most those who meant the most to me. What I would give to do some things over again! I have shuddered with recognition - and grief - as you have described the changes in your friend.

 

I disagree with you in one way: You withhold criticism on the grounds that the changes don't seem to have hurt her. But I can't help but think that if she has lost her former intimacy with you then she has indeed been hurt. What you have shared of yourself here makes it clear that anyone who has your friendship is blessed by it, and your friend is depriving herself of that, or at least not experiencing it as fully as she might. And the same applies to her relationship with Kelvin. They are meant to share more than physical intimacy with one another. The heart intimacy I share with D is by far the most important to both of us.

 

I want to encourage you to be patient. Your friend is on a journey, and may not always behave as she is now. Radical and unusual changes in behaviour are not uncommon when someone experiences a religious "conversion," but in time the person's natural sensibilities (and, dare I say, common sense) often reassert themselves, and a more "normal" blend of the new and old emerges. Thank God, that seems to have been the case with me. I became a believer nearly thirty years ago, and the process I've described is still going on. I hope you don't have to wait so long for your friend, Kevin.

 

BTW, I cannot resist asking: What are your spiritual friend and her missionary-type beau doing that could have resulted in a pregnancy? And has she acknowledged this apparent contradiction? Last I checked, people who denounced emotional intimacy between the genders also denounced pre-marital physical intimacy between them ....

 

M

Hey M,

That's wonderful that you have two kids of you own Yes, one of the things that worries me is that my future partner may not want kids. But I'm sure that'll work out.

Yes in many ways some of her changes, especially lifestyle related ones, have been very sudden. Thanks for your evaluation of my friendship . I definitely do miss the way things used to be between us. I hope you're right in that someday perhaps she'll establish some kind of blend between the "old" and "new" aspects of her life.

As far as the apparent contradiction goes, no she didn't say anything about it herself.......A different co-worker who was a little ticked off at her brought it up though

Anyway have a great day!

Kevin