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Mixed Signals, Jobs, Pets, & L.D. Relationships


So here's a general summary of what's been going on in my life of late.

 

Friday I had an appointment to see a job counselor at the career services department of my university. I was hoping I could line up a job for when I moved to Houston, that way I wouldn't be freaking out once I got there. Well the whole thing was all but a big waste of time, my appointment was at 11:00am...I was done by 11:08. Basically I told her I didn't care too much what I did, it could be anything to do with psychology, sociology, writing/english or just any old job that paid decently and required a college degree. She told me I was being way too vague and would have to narrow it down more. I said "well hopefully it'll only be for a year or two tops before I go back to grad school" (not that I'm even sure WHAT I want to go to grad school in...) Anyway she said "too vague, you need to make an appointment to see someone who focuses on career counseling (she herself just did job search). Well anyway she gave me a few website to check out that would list vacancies in Houston and I made an appointment to see the career counselor (which is now tomorrow). **Sigh** I know it's a big waste of time. I can already tell you exactly what she's going to tell me. I'm going to find out that I'm well suited to a job involving people and/or creative endeavors, and that I have good leadership and analytical skills. But unless they actually tell me "you need to become a member of management in the public relations department of a company which makes wooden sculptures" I don't see it helping me narrow this down all that much.

 

Meanwhile today at work I was having a perfectly pleasant day when I checked my phone 45 min. before going home time only to discover that my mom had left me a voice mail. It turns out she came home from work today and found her cat dead in the yard, a couple of feet away from the street :( . She was very upset to put it mildly. She'd really grown super attached to the cat, particularly after her 16 year old cat died last year (yeah 16 years old. I was really attached to him,,,,I mean I was only like 5 when we got him). Anyway I called and had a very depressing 5 min talk with her. Then a few hours later she called back again and we had another very depressing 5 min talk. I offered to drive in and visit, but she said there really wasn't anything I could (which is true), and that I shouldn't bother particularly since I have 2 (maybe 3???) exams this week.

 

So after I talked to her I thought perhaps going out to dinner would lighten my mood a bit so I called my friend Mandi (I've seriously been wanting to do a whole entry just on her). Anyway she's got a boyfriend in Ohio; her very over-protective parents do not approve of this. However, she's been sneaking off every couple of weekends (well not really "sneaking off" she lives 70 miles away from them, but they do call alot so she has to come up with excuses) to go and see him. Sometimes they meet in the middle sometimes one of them just drives all the way to the other. I'm still yet to meet him but he sounds pretty nice. Anyway apparently her mom found out this weekend and things got...ugly. Maybe I'll go into more detail later but basically she wasn't in the mood to go out and talking to her only gave me more things to feel bad about and worry over. I mean I don't approve of the lying either, but I think it's ashame that they try to keep her on such a short lead when the girl's 21 years old for goodness sake. I mean I know they're just worried about her, but she wouldn't be sneaking around or doing as many risky things if she didn't feel boxed in.

 

Anyway so today at work I spent a good bit of time with the new girl, Stacey. Wow! This girl is fun! She's extremely cheerful and chatty and has a great sense of humour. Cute smile too. Anyway she's also extremely playful and flirtatious. The first day I met her she used the phrase "work it" on me, when I walked by. Then last Thursday I found out she was in my night class, but I came in late and left early (what ?? it's a REALLY boring class, and it lasts 3 hours! So I seldom go and never stay for the whole thing...yeah yeah I'm being bad 0:) ) so we didn't get a chance to talk. So today when I see her the first thing she says to me is, "so did you see me checking you out in our psyc. class Thursday?" . LOL then an hour or so later when I went to pass by her our backsides sorta brushed up against each other. So I was like "oh excuse me" and she laughed and smirked and said "oh that's okay, I liked it". :o . So anyway you'd think this would be making me uncomfortable right? Naw not really. It just fits her personality really well and she doesn't seem threatening. Anyway the confusing bit is when toward the end of the day the topic of sushi came up and I said how much I liked it. So she invited me to go have sushi with her and her BOYFRIEND tomorrow night. huh! I mean I wasn't interested in dating her because 1 ) I'd rather date a guy right now in my life and 2 ) I'm moving soon and don't want to start ANY relationship. But actually if I were going to date a girl she wouldn't be a bad choice. Anyway I really don't get it, I mean she keeps coming on to me, but then invites me to have sushi with her and her boyfriend. I didn't even know she had a boyfriend! Anyway I told her the truth, I have my other night class tomorrow night, and we have a test in it. So she said she'd call me when they were going and if I was done with the test by then I could just go meet them. Oh well, it's complicated but I think I really will go if I'm done with the test in time. I mean she is fun, I like meeting new people (her boyfriend...and NO I'm not at all thinking along THOSE lines), I do love sushi, and they're going somewhere I've never been before. So it'll probably be kinda fun.

 

Anyway I guess I'd better start studying :thumbdown: Have a great day everyone!

 

Kevin

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buttershots

Posted

Hey Kevin!

 

Your Job counselor sounds just like mine was last year. It must be a universal thing or something. :blink: Anyway, so how did the appointment with the career counselor go today?? I hope it went well. This is a website I've looked at before and it's sometimes helpful: www.monstertrak.monster.com or just simply monsterTRAK.com . Good Luck though and let us know what happens. :2thumbs:

 

I am so sorry to hear about your mom's cat! That's horrible!!! It's always said when you loose an animal that you were close too, and now matter how long or short of time that animal has been with you you still end up loving it very much. :( Sad story. :( Is she going to get another cat?? Or is she the type of person who waits for the animals to come to her? I tend to do that. :)

 

I think your friend Stacy is just like my sister in laws best friend. That girl is spastic and is nothing but a flirt. It's just who she is. Stacy probably doesn't (and I say probably...maybe she does) even know what she's doing...it's just natural to her. It does stink though, b/c some poor person could be completely confused by her flirting. It's always a very risky business to be an "open" flirt like that. :) But you are right...A LOT of fun! :D That's funny about inviting you to go with her AND her boyfriend. I wonder what he'd think of that!!! :lmao: hehehe Let us know how that one plays out as well....now I'm really curious....mind drifts off... 0:):devil: ....okkay! Back to the present! heheheheeee

 

How'd your exam go tonight??? You had a night exam tonight correct? I hope it went well. Is this the class that you keep "missing" ;) ?? Good luck on your other exams this week as well!!! I'm sure You'll do great. 7.gif You get a shiny gold star for being so cool. Now don't you feel lucky! ;) lol Good luck and take care!!! :D

 

I hope the rest of your week goes great! :D

 

- Kaiten

AFriendlyFace

Posted

Hey Kaiten! :D

 

Your Job counselor sounds just like mine was last year. It must be a universal thing or something. Anyway, so how did the appointment with the career counselor go today?? I hope it went well. This is a website I've looked at before and it's sometimes helpful: www.monstertrak.monster.com or just simply monsterTRAK.com . Good Luck though and let us know what happens.

Thanks! She actually recommended that site too! So it must be great :D . I guess this appointment went better than the last. I enjoyed talking to this lady alot more. She ended up signing me up to take a "strong interest inventory" test, to find out what I like and what jobs might include some of those things....well I'm pretty sure no one's going to pay me to do this all day :P , nor am I likely to get much money from playing spades, or taking walks. But on the bright side I'm interested in lotsa stuff so ya never know ;)

 

I am so sorry to hear about your mom's cat! That's horrible!!! It's always said when you loose an animal that you were close too, and now matter how long or short of time that animal has been with you you still end up loving it very much. Sad story. :( Is she going to get another cat?? Or is she the type of person who waits for the animals to come to her? I tend to do that. :)

Crud! All day I kept reminding myself to call and see how she was doing and darnit if I didn't forget :( . I feel like such a negligent son....GRRRRR

She's more of an "animals find her" kinda person. But actually there's a couple other cats there, it's just that those are like my grandparents' cats whereas Petey was "her baby". :(

 

I think your friend Stacy is just like my sister in laws best friend. That girl is spastic and is nothing but a flirt. It's just who she is. Stacy probably doesn't (and I say probably...maybe she does) even know what she's doing...it's just natural to her. It does stink though, b/c some poor person could be completely confused by her flirting. It's always a very risky business to be an "open" flirt like that. :) But you are right...A LOT of fun! That's funny about inviting you to go with her AND her boyfriend. I wonder what he'd think of that!!! :lmao: hehehe Let us know how that one plays out as well....now I'm really curious....mind drifts off... : ....okkay! Back to the present! heheheheeee

I actually didn't end up going, they started right when my test was begining, I probably coulda caught the tail end of desert or something, but I wasn't really in the mood after I finished up anyway. ***yawns***

 

How'd your exam go tonight??? You had a night exam tonight correct? I hope it went well. Is this the class that you keep "missing" ;) ?? Good luck on your other exams this week as well!!! I'm sure You'll do great. 7.gif You get a shiny gold star for being so cool. Now don't you feel lucky! ;) lol Good luck and take care!!!

Well I don't feel good about it, but I don't feel bad about it either. So I'm guessing a B or a C. Thanks for asking! :D No the class I keep "missing" lol, is tomorrow night (and I really need to study for it GRRRrrr) and yay thanks for the star :2thumbs::2thumbs:

 

I hope the rest of your week goes great! :D

 

Thanks! I'm expecting it to! I get paid Friday, and I'll be in the mood to have fun after this "studious" week lol. hmmmmm I think I wanna go ice skating. I wonder if I can find some brave soul to go with me?

 

Anyway I hope your week is completely awesome, amazingly teriffic, and of such a high degree of enjoyableness that it tests the very bounds of rational thought! :huh: Umm, take care :D

 

Kevin

 

Edit: check this out! This is what I got when I tried to post this: "

THE FOLLOWING ERROR(S) WERE FOUND

You have posted a message with more emoticons that this board allows. Please reduce the number of emoticons you've added to the message

"

 

WOW! (I'd do a shocked smiley but clearly that wouldn't be helpful)

Mark_l

Posted

LOL just read your post in here about the smiles, you should try posting more, there is never enough of them :D i use them too much.

 

:) sounds like your having a difficult time sorting a job out, must be fruestrating when no one will give you any help. Cannot imagine trying to decide what to do, i'm glad i know what i want to do and have never had to think about it.

 

:(:hug: sorry to hear about your mums cat, is really horrible when they die like that, even if they are old.

 

Sounds like your friend has unreasonable parents, but she is old enough to make her own decisions and should talk to them about it, though i know with some parents that just isn't possible, they think they can run their kids lives till they are married and even then some try.

 

But i'm sorry dinner didn't cheer you up

 

:) Stacey sounds nice, :D maybe her boyfriends into guys too *has a naughty mind* but maybe she just flirts with people and wanted you to go out with her.

 

and for sushi i have no comment lol

Guest Rob Hawes

Posted

Hi Kevin,

 

Sounds like you've had an eventful few days. First point I need to make is about careers advisors. These are people who couldn't work out what they wanted to do with their lives and thus decided they would be perfect for advising others. Listen to their advice, then file it away in the shit-bin and think about what you want to do with your life. It doesn't have to be anything special right now, if you're thinking of going to grad school, but it should be something that interests you.

 

My advice would be to go onto the websites and have a look at the sort of jobs that are available at the moment. If one of them interests you then apply for it. There's no point in deciding you want to be this or that if there are no jobs available in that particular area, so see what's out there and then decide. Being realistic, you're more likely to find a job once you've actually moved, but have a look anyway and see what takes your fancy.

 

Sorry about your mother's cat - I hope your Mum will be ok. I love my cat and would hate it if anything ever happened to him. It really is like losing a member of the family, especially if it's one that's been with you for a long time.

 

This girl at work sounds interesting. By interesting, please read "crazy". There's nothing wrong with crazy though. She sounds like a natural flirt and probably doesn't mean anything by it when she flirts with you. As long as it doesn't make you uncomfortable then just play along (without crossing the line, of course). I developed a good friendship with a girl who used to flirt with me - drove her boyfriend crazy, which was also fun as he was a prize tit! I say go get sushi with her and her boyfriend if you can - you may not be able to form a lasting friendship with them, but at the very least it will be an interesting evening.

 

Rob :D

AFriendlyFace

Posted

Hey Mark :D

 

:) sounds like your having a difficult time sorting a job out, must be fruestrating when no one will give you any help. Cannot imagine trying to decide what to do, i'm glad i know what i want to do and have never had to think about it.

It's just really frustrating because I did know what I wanted to do. Right up until my final year...then it's suddenly like, "gee on second thought" :blink:

:(:hug: sorry to hear about your mums cat, is really horrible when they die like that, even if they are old.

Thanks, I talked to her today and I think she's doing okay for the most part, and I'm gonna go visit her tomorrow.

Sounds like your friend has unreasonable parents, but she is old enough to make her own decisions and should talk to them about it, though i know with some parents that just isn't possible, they think they can run their kids lives till they are married and even then some try.

Yep her situation is a mess alright! I spent the evening trying to cheer her up. I think she'll be okay though.

 

Anyway I hope you have a really great day! Take care :D

Kevin

AFriendlyFace

Posted

Hiya Rob! :D

 

Sounds like you've had an eventful few days. First point I need to make is about careers advisors. These are people who couldn't work out what they wanted to do with their lives and thus decided they would be perfect for advising others. Listen to their advice, then file it away in the shit-bin and think about what you want to do with your life. It doesn't have to be anything special right now, if you're thinking of going to grad school, but it should be something that interests you.

Thanks, I think you're right. Actually while I was sitting there listening I was thinking, "Ya know, I could probably do YOUR job" :P . I even subtly asked about the requirements. I'd have to get a degree in counseling....which was on my list as a possibility anyway, so ya never know lol.

 

My advice would be to go onto the websites and have a look at the sort of jobs that are available at the moment. If one of them interests you then apply for it. There's no point in deciding you want to be this or that if there are no jobs available in that particular area, so see what's out there and then decide. Being realistic, you're more likely to find a job once you've actually moved, but have a look anyway and see what takes your fancy.

I think that's definitely some good advice, thanks :) . I guess since I'm not too particular right now it does make more sense to look for what's available than to worry about figuring out something specific and looking for that. And I know it would be easier once I was already there...it's just I'd be more panicked then and freaking out.

 

Sorry about your mother's cat - I hope your Mum will be ok. I love my cat and would hate it if anything ever happened to him. It really is like losing a member of the family, especially if it's one that's been with you for a long time.

yeah :( , she found him when he was a very young kitten. Actually too young to really be on solid food , but he was a feisty little guy and just ate whatever was put in front of him (till he got old and finicky that is).

This girl at work sounds interesting. By interesting, please read "crazy". There's nothing wrong with crazy though. She sounds like a natural flirt and probably doesn't mean anything by it when she flirts with you. As long as it doesn't make you uncomfortable then just play along (without crossing the line, of course). I developed a good friendship with a girl who used to flirt with me - drove her boyfriend crazy, which was also fun as he was a prize tit! I say go get sushi with her and her boyfriend if you can - you may not be able to form a lasting friendship with them, but at the very least it will be an interesting evening.

LOL you're right! There's definitely nothing wrong with crazy :P:boy: I actually didn't end up going out with them, but I do plan on continuing/developing the friendship :)

 

Anyway, I hope you have a great day Rob! Take care :)

 

Kevin

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