Yeah, I don't blame you

Me either. It's really sad and frustrating to find bigotry in your own family. My parents are both relatively "enlightened", but in my extended family, there are some bigots, although they're careful not to show it around me. I won't put up with it.

I have one aunt who, when talking about African Americans, will say "he's black" but in a near whisper, as if it's a horrible thing. I usually glare at her and she stops doing it, until I see her next time. Then again, she's old and forgets that it pisses me off.

MY step father is racist at times. He never exactly admitted it, but I can see it. Especially when my mom talks about my dad and his wife and my sister (my step mother is african american). It really makes me sad for him.