I'm sorry things have turned out this way. I used to also have trouble connecting with my dad, especially when he was being condescending and unable to calm down and listen to me when I made mistakes. Our turmoil peaked one night when we actually wrestled on the ground, and not in a good way, and ended up ignoring each for a month. However, we've both made great efforts to change this in recent years and now have a great relationship.

So give your dad a chance. He may seem irrational and irritating right now, but I'm sure he has your best interest at heart. And I know it's easy to say "I'm right, and he's wrong", but don't be so hasty to shed all blame. If you and your dad want to have a better relationship, there must be understanding and compromise.

Hope this helped

I have no idea what going on.

Let's see if I follow:

Somehow you screwed the pooch (made a mistake). You are a kid and I guarantee that it will happen again- probably not with the same pooch. We all screw that pooch sooner or later.

Your Dad is angry about the pooch getting screwed. He should get over it. That pooch is a real slut.

The rest of your family knows that you screwed the pooch and supports you. Apparently they know about the slutty pooch.

Life is stressful and difficult because you screwed the slutty pooch that everyone else has screwed.

My conclusions:

Screwing the pooch happens to the best of us. I've even bought that bitch a ring.

Your Dad has certainly screwed a few pooches in his time. Everybody has. Maybe he's suffering from selective amnesia. Nobody likes to remember screwing the pooch. Chances are that he'll remember his own pooch screwings and come around

Remember well your family's support during your pooch screwing low and be there when one of them eventually screws the pooch.

Life is always stressful and difficult so don't make it harder on yourself by hanging out with slutty pooches. Just know that there's all kind of pooch sluts out there just waiting. You'll want to think twice before you do something that's going to give you fleas next time.

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James you are awesome. You're right... we've all screwed the pooch... not the same one obviously but hey...

Family relationships are hard. Maybe you should ease up on your father and accept him for what he is, even if that is a complete asshole, instead of beating youself up wishing he was someone, or something else.

The fact that you have accepted you made a mistake at all is awesome and majot cudos to you. Too many of us spend too much time trying to convince others and themselves that they were right, and not accepting the consequences at all. That makes you special. It seems that there are people around you who see that. Turn to them and take what you need to recover, turn away from those who are simply adding to your pain until you are strong enough to face them again and THEN tell them how they failed you.

As has been said before... someday they are going to be in the same position and you will be the strong one.