BeysJoshersLepton V2

http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=UhwGlpgjAKg#!

I'm not sure how I felt about this chapter, I almost felt Will was slightly off/certainly not himself. I think hes over compensating for Tony not being able to break up with his girlfriend and it's manifesting with the change in tone.

Aside from reading forum drama at 1:00am it was a splendid chapter to get back into JP so thank you. That's the main thing I have always loved about this series for the years I've been reading it now, the ability to switch between characters seamlessly. Regarding Will I think he'd have every right to feel the way he felt, his needs, his position in the family superseded by violent individuals (which personally I have little to no time for). I doubt Marie will turn into another Bitty but her priorities need realigning; I'm surprised how short sighted Isidore and Claire are being though I think they'll work through it. I have always considered the bonds between the families to be portrayed as strong, naturally this is my assumption so it'll be refreshing to see how things are resolved.

Recent guilty pleasure.

That was bloody brilliant and it wasn't even a Friday such a nice surprise coming home, best procrastination work from the disso I could of hoped for!

JP was excellent as always, you really did touch on all the core issues. As for Robbie it takes alot to annoy me but he's just being vacuous for the sake of it now in regards to Will. How a man who manages a company can have such a massive blind spot on his radar is beyond me. Wills new found tolerance for him is nothing short of astounding.

I've got to agree with Tim whilst I think he'd be more then happy to kill him, the focus really has to be on JJ for long term positive outcomes not retribution. Child Sexual Abuse cases and there impact are highly dependant on the individual, whilst over-arching themes are found premature assumptions should be avoided to not distort survivor material. Recovery is often dependant on the childs other interpersonal relationships and if they are healthy and loving. At the moment this is my biggest fear for JJ, I worry he feels isolated in a very large family with a wide range of large, powerful personalities and people. This is why he clings to a single person in additon to this new informaton as an anchor to feel some security to counter-balance whats been happening. His whole self image is built around skating and this is going to shatter not only his world but his image, how he reflects on who he is. Issues around that, shame, sexuality would all have to be considered. It really wouldn't surprise me that as JJ looks up to Will (god forbd he'd ever admit it) and intially watching Will who is vastly more mature, thinking it was alright to emulate his behaviour with older guys. But its been manipulated and he has ended up a survivor because he can be made to toe the line and obey. He'd of had great turmoil over being aroused and being gay then taken advantage of also. What many people have to be taught is that gay, straight, bi, the bodies somatic nervous system has a way of responding to sexual advances which you can't control. Many abusers manipulate this with "well see you do wat it just as much", which is of course inaccurate, especially at that age. Ideally i'd like this to be a catalyst to get everyone to pull together because he'll need that to get through this. Robbie hopefully will see that despite him apparently looking out for JJ 24/7 and always being in his corner wasn't that at all. JJ's been used as a pawn between the infighting between Brad and himself. This is different between Brad and Will simply due to Will not being anyones pawn and being legally an adult. Thats how I see it, anyway blame isn't what counts moving forward if that happens then it'll just get a whole lot worse before it can get better.

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Just out of personal curiosity (as it isn't really key to whats going on currently). Everyone seems to be in therapy in these families & I wondered if J.P. ever has the odd conversation with Yalom who's been at Stanford since the early 60's. I only really made the connecion between the two in how hes written after i'd finished re-reading The gift of Therapy this morning. I doubt it was a concious attempt (sorry Mark no ones that good ) but just shows how the amazing backstories of these characters are & can continue to be woven into the the real world. I often like looking through these stories especially the newer ones (will have to re-read them all one day) through various theraputic orientations.

Hehe thank you Graeme, hopefully in the long run the research will bear fruit

Dear All Being a gay man who is the son of lesbian parents I very much wanted to dedicate my undergraduate thesis to them. As such I am conducting research into the lived experiences of lesbian or gay parents, exploring the ontology behind parental identity in planned parents. For some of the public, being gay or lesbian remains synonymous with childlessness and this should no longer be the case. An ever growing number of gay and lesbian couples are becoming parents through adoption, surrogacy or sperm dononation. This is not a new phenomenon as I was part of the 'lesbian baby boom' of the late 1980's early 1990's. It is however becoming more of a focus in the public eye in the previous few years and i'm sure this subsequent decade. Due to being based in London, I am actively looking for voulnteers in or near the London area. It is specifically looking at gay or lesbian planned parents. The research would take the form of an hour long based interview exploring the topics of family, partnerships, lgbt community and lastly parenthood. If you would like to know more or have any questions about myself or the research please do not hesitate to ask, I'd be glad to answer any questions here or through the pm system. As a bit of background about myself I am a 3rd year undergraduate student studying psychology & counselling, I also hope this to be one of my future areas of research in my post-graduate work.

I loved the thanksgiving dinner scene. ^^

So come on raise two hands if you've ever been guilty, clap clap clap it if you've ever walked with me.

http://youtu.be/CLBVvEoW20Q

I can't believe how close we are to the end! I realised today its been around a year since I've been looking forward to each tuesday/wednesday to read another chapter , imagine every chapter from here will be an absolute cliff free rollercoaster ride im sure! (a small small part of me still wants bridget to live, I just can't see how unless the other heads turn on her she'd end up being killed.)

If Vygotsky is right and we become who we're meant to be through others, wheres our free will? The control I have over, at bear in mind nearly 5am still listening to Pink speaks volumes!

I'd be very surprised if she was diagnosed with paranoid schizophrenia. While we don't know her internal thought processes, speech patterns seem normal. Her behaviour isn't consistent with the paranoid archatype either, no visual clues of hypervigilence. The Will aspect is more control then knowing what hes up to sedate paranoia, I think that was highlighted with her manipulation of Brad. The grandiose sense of self-worth however may show a skewing of reality, but at the time was it justified? I also thought she was "normal" till Tiffany and her started to develop problems. I'm also going to throw in and defend ECT, it isn't 'One flew over the Cuckoo's Nest' anymore when used.

The only good thing about the series, is it allowed this women to write these reviews. http://www.goodreads.../show/340987215 I was in tears. Edit - It occured to me that the review may not be safe for work and i'm not sure as to linking policies in the lounge. I must stress if you're old enough for the book you're old enough for the review is still better.

You don't have a bar on campus? We've got multiple ones . I don't see any years being best years, each decade brings with it unique challenges and joys. If you want real Dr. Phil pop psych it says alot more that people perceive there best years behind them or long for the future.

Small point just to play devils advocate, how is Wills manipulating everyone agaisnt Darius any different then JJ running to mum? I remember Will getting really annoyed at JJ over that, really indignant yet its just a different tactic really to what Will was doing. The point being hes still game playing and Mark you still manage to keep me undecided on him don't stop lol. To bad JJ picked the wrong team while Will picked the big guns. A small part of me at the same time feels sorry for Will because he does actually think hes so hard done by. He really does think hes treated unfairly, he really does think hes getting the raw end of the deal, he actually thinks Brad and Robbie are bad parents. Personally I am more annoyed at Robbie for being such a doormat, if my partners child (our child) treated me with as much disdain and disinterest as Will i'd be alot more hurt. Remember they are raising _there_ children together this isn't Brad's Son its there son. I think it touches a nerve considering how close I am to my non-bio mum. Personally I think this is the problem and I'm not sure if I've touched on it before but the last part of the previous chapter highlights it again. I fear Will is deeply deeply lonely, he had this relationship with his dad which he now sees as ruined till he can be in his own right "a man" again. He thinks emancipation will make him free, give him equal ground. Thing is you're never on equal ground with parents, its always some dynamic. We can reach a freindship in adulthood, but they are still our parents a role we can try to see as biology but means so much at an intrapersonal level be it in love or hate. I've been trying to finish writing this for ages now, its been sitting on an open tab whilst I read/write/listen to other stuff so i'm forgetting loads.

The ultimate creeper song just made creepier.