i agree with so much of what has been said.
The problem i find is that the bit of my universe where i'm from, just outside of the middle-of-nowhere i choose to live is Brighton, arguably one of the biggest gay-mecca's in england. In Brighton, we seem to have come full circle, through openess and acceptance and gone back to putting people into shoe boxes. in Brighton, if you are gay this means particular certain things. if you don't do those certain things (like madonna, drink cheap flavoured vodka shots, go to Revenge (it's a bar) every week and shop on St Charles Street) then you get very quickly sidelined. especially as a student, which is what i was when i was in brighton as an adult.
it's a very strange situation to find ourselves in in the modern day where people intentionally define themselves as one or another. i understand what Cia says about the herd mentality. i was once asked at a job interview for my hobbies and interest and about four items into this list, the interviewer stopped me and went "pick one". i told him i didn't want the job there and then.
Why do we (as humans rather than we as individuals) choose to pigeon hole ourselves? the obsession with defining and labeling everything seems to be modern, and has not been helped by the advent of social networks such as FaceBook which actively encourage people to define their relationships, friendships and everything else in their lives.