I'm pretty much the same way. I would read stories on Nifty and not really face what that was saying about me (any thoughts straying in the general direction of being gay were quickly suppressed). Even though the internet offers some anonymity (less than you think ), they're still your words and thoughts when you choose to discuss and you can't avoid the implications of that. I was so scared about coming here, I used to use Tor/I2P (anonymising networks) until I figured out people don't really care.
Me too. Reading stories that had relationships in them instead of just a haphazard collection of erotic scenes definitely has helped me feel a bit more comfortable with myself.
So a lot of people here may still be uncomfortable with themselves. After lurking for a some time, they may eventually post. That would be great since this forum offers a place for people to be comfortable without the hookup element (like mogenic or one of those sites where you'd constantly be asked for pics/asl).
Also, random tech question. What kind of bandwidth does this site consume and how are you funded (unless that's some sort of top secret piece of info)?