Ummmm, I was 17 when I came out, & it was forced. Someone had seen my then boyfriend & I making out in the staff canteen where I worked while I was in college. Ok, I was young, stupid & horny!
Needless to say it got back to my parents who weren't best pleased. My Dad went ballistic & beat the crap outta me, until my Ma managed to pull him away. You know the usual routine, no son of mine etc etc.
Anyway, he leaves the house & my Ma was a lot calmer about it. She was still crying, but at least asked if it was true. Of course I didn't see any point in denying it. Then she said the words I'll never forget, "so no grandchildren for me then". Don't know why that's stuck with me, I have never forgotten the look in her face as she said it either. I really don't think I have felt lower in my life than I did at that moment
Now, my Dad & I are civil to each other, period, that's it. I've tried to talk, but he just walks away, so now I just don't bother. You just get tired of trying, & as far as I'm concerned I did nothing wrong.
My Ma & I are great now. I still don't think she's 100% happy with it, but she at least tries. It took a while, but coming from an Irish family I think she's done just fine. Most importantly she gets on great with my guy, which is most important to me.