ok, you're probably not gonna believe this, but I don't actually have any gay friends.
I have ex-boyfriends (who I don't talk to), I have gay friends of friends that I've almost been set up with, but I don't have a person that I actually hang out with who's gay.
keeping that in mind...
Common interests, I guess.
I play sports, watch sports, enjoy live music and prefer pubs over clubs. Basically, I get labelled 'straight-acting', and I've yet to meet a gay guy (you know, an actual breathing one) who wants to watch a basketball game or hit the local for a couple of drinks on a Saturday night.
Alternately, if I want to hang out and talk about hot boys, I do it with my straight female friends. If I want to talk about my writing or a particular gay issue, I do it with my best friend. She's female (and an artist). We talk about everything, she gets it. I don't need to worry about putting on my game face for her.
Maybe I don't know what I'm missing, but I don't really think there's a gap in my life that would be filled by having a gay friend. Maybe there will be down the track, but as things stand, it's not something I'm really seeking at the moment.
I get FREEDOM.
I get to hang out and know that sex is never going to complicate our relationship. I don't have to read anybody's signals, I don't have to make any effort to be interesting and I don't have to worry about anybody's feelings.
I don't really want to get drawn into stereotypes, but there's a lot of gay guys out there who are superficial. I don't want to talk about my wardrobe, my boyfriend or my sex life. Obviously, there's a whole lot of straight people out there who are just as bad, but you know what? I'm not friends with them either.
No.
My friends are my friends, no matter who they find themselves attracted to.