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I might be able to forgive him, but I really don't see myself continuing with the relation anymore. Because where's the guarantee that he wouldn't do it again? Yes, I am aware that people do change and can redeem themselves, but once the trust (which is one of the most, if not the most important and integral part of any relation) is broken, it is difficult to regain in back, especially when you put all your trust and faith into one person and they shatter it to pieces. So yea, if my significant other ever cheats on me, I'm going to end it with him, but I will also try not to hold grudges against him as long as he can refrain himself from doing such a thing again with his future partner. As for what constitutes cheating - ah, that's the tricky part. Different people seem to have different level of rules and restrictions set for their relationship. As for me, any form of physical contact with another person (baring normal touching, hugging, etc) would constitute as cheating. However, this is not where it ends for me. Any kind of emotional attatchment towards another person that transcends the 'platonic bond' also falls under the category of cheating to me. Cheating is so common these days that I sort of dread getting into any relationship. But then again, to be fair, it isn't like it didn't exist in the past, just less reported than what it is now. I know I will be flamed for saying this, but why can't people be up front about what they want? Why would you get yourself into a monogamous relationship just to screw your partner behind his back? I understand that temptation is hard to resist - but then, it's not like we live in the 17th century where the option of divorce is not open either.

I'd love to have a loving, caring and faithful monogamous partner, but I also want to stay close to my family. but those two options seem to be mutually exclusive. I'd have to sacrifice one for the other. If I had those two, I could have been the happiest person in the world but well...

If I start getting chubbier then I might as well start taking regular exercises. Otherwise I am no fitness freak and do it only now and then. I like to maintain a healthy body but that's about it. I am not obsessed with getting mascular arms, pecks, and all that. But I'd like my man to have a sexy body only for and exclusive to me. Haha, j/k.

This is one of the reason why I don't like the concept of long-distant relationships. If I am in a relationship with someone, I wouldn't want to stay away from him. But meh, guess life ain't fair.

It depends from person to person. Not sure if everyone would see it the same way. I think it is easier to say ["look doesn't matter"] than follow it. Most of us want the package to be good even though we know that it is the product within that package that we seek. And frankly, there is nothing wrong or shallow about it. But yes, a long term relationship should be based on more than just physical attraction. But at the same time, there should be some sort of attraction between the couples too. Personally speaking - and I will be blunt here - look does matter to me, but it's not a huge deal. If I like a person, then I like him/her irrespective of how he/she is.

<br /><br /><br /> Same here.

What kind of?

Hm, now you got me interested. I want to read that story.

I do get weepy and occassionally shed tears at others works as long as it can managd to move me. I haven't really written anything, s6 can't answer on that.

I see whjat you mean. Even though I haven't been in a relationship ever, I guess I need a seperate space of my own, which includes my private moment to masturbate. Porn...not so much. I am already thinking of giving it away.

Not much. But whenever I am, I usually end up masturbating, so that doesn't give me the time to be wildly horny.Btw to those who are single, how often do you masterbate? Me - once a day on an average.

Jacob and Matt from Living in Surreality

Same here...my scars are not gone yet though...sighs...sometimes life sucks so much that it seems better to destroy it all.

Another topic here provoked me on making this thread. Early in my teens I used to have a lot of suicidal thoughts, and while I have never really attempted such a thing - I did a lot of self-harm to myself that I shouldn't have done. So here's my questions to GA members: Have you ever seriously attempted suicide? What were you thinking when you took such a strong step? How old were you then? Have you caused harm to yourself like cutting, slashing the skin etc? If you have stopped yourself from doing it - what stopped you? Someone or your own conscience?

My heart goes out to him. poor kid. But yeah, life is so cruel at times that you just don't feel like living. I'd a lot of suicidal thoughts during my primary school when my class-mates used to tease me, beat me up, called me sissy, etc, and I was having confusions with my sexuality. They destroyed all my confidence that I'd on me and this is one of the reason why I've such a low self-esteem, even now. Even now I feel like dying at times when I see that the future I dream of isn't there, isn't happening. What's the point of going on living your life if all you get back from life is pain and sufferings. And I have not even gone through half of what that kid did...I know suicide isn't the answer, but life can be so hard at times. When you loose all your self-respect and self-esteem and start considering yourself to be nothing but a worthless shit people think of commiting suicide.