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I'm not sure where to start with this. Firstly, I'll say the reason why I'm posting this topic here is because reading some of the other topics, I've been impressed with the advice given. GA members seem to be a caring, intelligent group of people who take questions seriously and offer great insights. I'll outline my situation briefly followed by my questions... I'm married, mid-twenties, with one child. I love my husband, and (I believe) he loves me. He's been traveling for work quite a bit lately, and for the last month he's been away. He gets on really well with some guys. One of his colleagues he seems to get on really well with, I sometimes wonder if I see admiration in his eyes when he talks about him. Anyway, they travel together. I may have had occasional fleeting (in my mind ridiculous) thoughts that he's maybe interested in him--but I dismiss these as me reading into things wrongly. However, this week he came back, we were in bed and maybe 30mins-1hr into him sleeping, he starts to come on to me. Sexually and actively. Thing is I'm still awake, I can't sleep. Without getting into physical details, I'll get to the point of my concern. He's talking. And he says, and I quote (word for word (I wrote it down immediately, and couldn't sleep the rest of the night, either): "I just want your dick. I love to suck it." I budged him off, saying I was not interested (uh, not after that), and he just fell back to sleep. The first thing that went through my mind, along with a bit of shock was: Has he been doing this in his hotel room when he's away on business? So, to my questions: How do I delicately approach asking him about this? Should I ask him about this, or am I being overly worried?--Is this normal to happen for a straight guy? Are there any gay guys here who have been in a relationship with a woman and had a similar situation--how would you have wanted to be asked about it? Should I even ask? We have a child together--perhaps I should ignore it? And my confession: I'm scared to ask. Maybe I just don't want to know. If he's bi, I can live with that--I really do believe he loves me. But then, on the other hand, I give my trust way too freely, I could never believe he'd cheat on me, but I can't help but wonder when he said/did this. Am I overthinking this all and I don't have anything to worry about? Additionally, if it's not clear, I'm very pro gay rights and believe you love who you love. This doesn't change the fact that I'm concerned. I'd appreciate only serious answers, please.