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Oh my, Oh my, Oh my, Stress!


So last night my Mum came over. She had Chris's bro Jon with her since he was bored at home and wanted to see us.

 

he came in the flat and said no more than 4 words in the hour they were here. At the time I put this down to the stress of dealing with his Mum and dad's break up, and maybe a bit down to the fact he knows his Mum's a total bi*ch.

 

So last night I texted him the following...

 

11:30 PM Me: Jon, you ok bro you seemed down tonite.

 

I waited for like 2 hours with no reply so i went to bed.

my phone has the text alert set to high, for work purposes i.e emergency calls etc.

 

So...

 

2:30AM BEEP BEEP! Jon: dave you still up

 

I woke up when I heard it, grabbed the handset and read the message..

 

Me: yeah bro, its pretty late why you still up?

Jon: Can't sleep got stuff on my mind

Me: you wanna talk about it? i can call u or we can txt

Jon: Dunno if I can talk about it, things are just messed up right now!

Me: maybe it will help if you tell someone, like me...

Jon: yeah your Mum said to talk to you or chris cause I seemed down

Me: Im gonna call you bro, youve got me worried.

 

So I get up and go into the living room (dont wanna wake sleeping beauty up ;) )

Grab the phone and dial jon's mobile. He answered on the first ring.

I dunno what I expected but it sure as hell wasnt him in tears. I asked him if he could tell me whats up, he said he'd try but that its hard to get out.

So for like the next 10 mins I sat with Jon telling me how stressed he's feeling with his Mum gone, and his dad's a mess and stuff. So im telling him its not his fault, His Mum's just got issues she has to deal with, maybe her going away will help her get her self together.

Then he said 'Im scared' so i said yeah of course you are but your dad's looking out for you and were here anytime you want us to be bro. So he said thanks for being there for him, and I told him anytime. So he hung up.

2 minutes later he texted me this

 

Jon: Dave I need to tell someone this all the stuff we talked about isnt the issue. see I met someone at school an i cant get him outta my head. guess chris isnt the only gay brother

 

I grabbed the phone and called him again as soon as I'd read it.

Serious tears now. I told him how its ok, he asked me some stuff about how I knew I was gay in the first place. (I refrained from telling him that his brother making me hard was a big clue:) ) and just said i felt an attraction to guys that wasnt there with girls.

So I spent a good 40 minutes talking to him, He said he wants me to get Chris to call him today so he can tell him too. On ending the call I reminded him that we love him And not to worry because he will have his Dad's support when he's ready as well.

 

Well Chris called him this morning. All he's said to me is how upset he feel's that Jon didn't feel he could call us sooner.

 

*sigh Im really feeling for him just now, I'd forgotten the feelings he's got right now :(

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Conner

Posted

All I can say is that Jon couldn't have better support than he has in you and Chris as he sorts out his feelings. It saddens me that he has so much to deal with right now.

 

Hugs,

Conner

Rocketcnj

Posted

Dave and Chris, I agree with Connor....I wish I had a Gay brother (well I only have sisters) to come out to when I told my family. It helps tremendously and Jon has two Gay brothers (in all sense of the word, Dave is a brother to Jon)

 

you can both be there for him and help him through the teen angst, coupled with Gay teen angst and parents divorcing (which he seems to be dealing with fine)

 

Hugs sent your way and to Jon

 

I feel we know him and send him Hugs from all of us....(well you can just add in an extra hug so we don't embarass him..) hey as he gets comfortable with being Gay, maybe he can join the Group here..not to mention, I am sure there are all sorts of GLBTI centers where he lives and Gay teen groups.

 

Best of all he has the two best Gay brothers there are....(umm, sorry Auntie Viv..they may be your lil bros but Jon is blessed to have them too:)

 

good luck and let us know how it goes....I am smiling big time since Jon has you two to serve as his Mentors..I can see you meeting his BFs and making sure the BF is good enough for your brother:) and the "you better treat our Bro like Gold speech or else" of course with the proverbial growl, maybe standing near the fireplace equipment or some such heavy object...hee hee....

 

You are both great parent figures for Jon and great brothers and friends...he is very lucky:)

 

Michael

viv

Posted

Well, what else can Auntie Viv say? Looks like Jon is as lucky as me, even luckier really since he gets you in person. It also seems that I have inhereted another littler brother, YAY! You are stuck with me now Jon!

 

Hugs to my brothers from another mother, lol

Viv :wub:

JSmith

Posted

And you're their sister from another Mister, right? :D Tell Jon that he's lucky to have to great bothers like you and Chris! Anyways you and I already talked about it, so I hope all goes well! (and be nice to the boy he has a crush on!)

reapersharvest

Posted

oh, wow. That's... that's a lot of stress.

sumbloke

Posted

I tell ya, having someone in your family you know you can tell safely is one of the best things you can have when that time comes. You're a start mate for taking that call in the middle of the night and for being such a good bro. Mega props mate.

libbonobo

Posted

Jon's lucky to have you & Chris!

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