Mr. Arbour,
With regard to the two key factors you mentioned:
Whether one finds anal sex or endorsement of George Bush or racial purity or any other thing decent is a completely different issue from whether one treats other people decently.
There's no imposition of views nor any mind control. One can hold and express whatever opinions one wants. It's how those opinions are expressed that is restricted.
With regard to the larger picture, two other things are worth remembering:
This site is not a democracy. No site is. Indignation over civil rights and individual freedoms is just wasted energy, since, to be blunt, the expectation of any freedoms or rights is delusional. The reality is that this is Myr's site, with his vision of what it's to be and his rules for how it's to run. Any freedoms or rights we have are privileges, granted by Myr, not inherent to us. This is generally true of any site: the creator(s)'s way or the highway. Like it or leave it. By and large, I myself like this site and find the rules quite reasonable. For me, the benefits of fun reading and good company clearly outweigh the costs of having to hold my tongue on occasion. But if that balance were different, nothing forces me to stay with this site. Which leads to the most important point,
This is just an internet site! Not worth the disgruntlement and unnecessary elevations in blood pressure.