So I just had to make an account now. Sheesh. (Chey_d from LJ btw).
I'm most definitely on team Jared. I've been around way too many friends that have been both in and out of the closet and I think people tend to forget (because things are a lot more open now), how really scary coming out is. Imagine right now looking at all your friends and family, just imagine them in your head and then imagine them turning their back on you forever. Or looking at you in disgust. Or being uncomfortable around you. Sure you can say "oh well they aren't my friend then" and that's really easy to say, but truly living with that? Truly having to face the fact that they will be out of your life? That's ridiculously hard. And Jared is surrounded by people a lot less understanding about the gay lifestyle than Connor's friends. Stereotypical? Sure. But completely true.
Whatever your feelings about Jared being right for Connor, the fact that he initiated a physical relationship at all was something of a miracle. I have great faith in him. I think once he comes to terms with himself that he'll be a great boyfriend. Right now he's terrified and I think he really loves Connor. After all, he's good looking. If all he wanted was a physical relationship, he could have found that outside of his social club and just done the dirty with some random guy. We all know how easy it is to get laid as a hot guy in the gay world. I think he genuinely loves Connor. And Connor loves him. And unfortunately Ray is a casualty of that, but neither Jared nor Connor is intentionally hurting Ray.
So I guess it's obvious that I"m most assuredly, unapologetically, totally a Team Jared! person. I vote for love basically and I think, though he's immature about it, that Jared loves Connor wholly. so GO JARED (get your head together boy!)
And to those Jared haters: Have you forgotten how good he's been to Connor? And yeah, what he did was terrible, but it came from a place of fear. And Connor is not blameless either in that. He pushed pretty hard, clinged a little too much. Neither are blameless in that relationship breaking up.
What we need now is Connor to stiffen his spine and Jared to relax his a little. Set your foot down, Connor, accept love on your terms not on his. Decide, Jared, out and with Connor, or in and without him!
And I wrote a novel size post. GDI I didn't mean to.