Abersloth

The vocalist from The Fiddleheads. Georgia boy, gorgeous voice. Sexy.

Linux is the stuff of dreams. It's used almost exclusively in any kind of hard science. We've got about 11 computers in my lab, not including a cluster, all of which have at least one distro. My favorite is Mint with KDElite. In all reality, though, it's all about power and flexibility. It's so easy to SSH and work from home. So easy to pull a signal through fiber or firewire. So easy to customize and compile your own software.

Oh yeah, English accent all the way. Nothing sexier than a thick Somerset accent "Oh harrrr, fetch me a point of scrumpy!"

Well, for starters, I was joking about being a horrible little monster. I'm not the most pleasant person in the world (cynical, arrogant, blunt), but I'm far from being catastrophically screwed in the head. Moreover, I'd like to make a clarifying point. TEENAGERS=trainwreck. I'm currently working on a laser speckle research project, which is fundamentally an exercise in non-linear chaos. That being said, the chaos that teenagers imbue in their own lives, something I remember quite well, makes my multiple scattering problem look futile and small. Remember, the OPer is college aged. The nonsense of highschool disappears at that point. Vanishes. Poof. If I speak on my own experiences, you are in no position to question that. I explained very thoroughly the climate that I live in in Eugene, Oregon. Frankly, it sucks, and from what I hear, it goes with the age-territory. The need-to-breed, as it were, is a huge driving force at this age, and it seems somewhat enhanced among gay college students. I DARE you to look at the Eugene craigslist M4M section. Also, what do you mean when you say "He's always come across as off to me"? Dannsar, if you go back to the first page, you'll see what I consider to be a weighed, helpful response from me, which seems to have been largely ignored or forgotten in the chaos of what this thread has become.

I was joking. However, my point still stands. Depending on geography and social climate, gay men can be few and far between, and the good ones can be even more sparse. If you look at the gay community in Eugene, it's basically just a bunch of creeps who look for kinky hookups on craigslist, punctuated by vacuous waste-of-oxygen gossips on the prowl for a trophy boyfriend.

You can not fathom how untrue that can be at certain ages. Gay teenagers = trainwreck. Just look at me! I'm pretty much the worst thing that hell ever vomited on to the face of this planet.

Straight is generally an assumption. If someone has not declared either way, they are taken to be straight. And, if you have any faith in Alfred Kinsey's studies on human sexuality, you'll take in to consideration that the number of non-zeroes* in the population dwarfs the number of openly gay/bisexual/whatever men/women/whatevers (sorry for the abridgement, too many combinations thereof to list). The question, as I see it, is not whether or not a gay man can seduce a straight man, but whether or not the straight man is really straight. It follows, then, that it doesn't matter so much what you believe his orientation to be, or rather, what he wants you to believe is his orientation, but whether or not he has ever expressed any interest in you. There are limited outcomes, and I'll spell them out, in what I would consider to be descending order of probability: a) He isn't interested in men and never will be, in which case for his sake and your own, you should get over any infatuation and stick to "just friends," which sucks, but is the right thing to do. b] He is curious enough to fool around a few times, in which case you may find yourself becoming emotionally attached and will ultimately succumb to the bitter pangs of disappointment and lust-hurt. If you're only interested in a fling, that's not really such a horrible thing, but you do have to be very careful to not hurt him or hurt yourself. c) He is closeted gay/bisexual/whatever and isn't ready to share it with you or others at this point, in which case you should respect his choice to remain closeted until he is ready. See a). d) He is closeted gay/bisexual/whatever and is ready to share it with others, but isn't interested in you for other reasons, in which case you should, as before, try to be a good friend but nothing more, unless... e) He is closeted gay/bisexual/whatever and is ready to share it with others, but doesn't know that you're interested in him. Or perhaps, he isn't interested yet, but will be in the future, in which case all you can do is be his friend, and let time pass. Those are the options as I see it. Unfortunately, in real life there is no +2 potion of straight-man seduction. In any case, all you can do is be a good friend, try to move on, and see if your paths cross in the future. However, as far as I can tell, nobody has really answered the question posed in the opening post, so here's my response: Be a good friend and drop subtle hints, but don't be pushy or overly affectionate or you'll drive him away, ruining a good friendship. You have to be sensitive about it. If he really could have feelings for you and he has chosen to not express that notion, there's a reason. Sexuality is a complicated, sensitive issue with many facets. Think with your brain and your heart, not your penis. *The Kinsey scale ranks degrees of sexual preference from 0 to 6, with 0 being exclusively heterosexual and 6 being exclusively homosexual, with 1-5 being varying degrees of bisexuality. The degree "x" is used for asexuality.

You may find this useful, assuming you can read my reply: Hooked on Phonics Okay, snarkiness aside, it depends on how good the writing is. A really interesting scene, or a particularly sensual section (read: sensual, not erotic. Of or arousing gratification of the senses), generally warrants a slow, careful reading process. If the vernacular is colorful, and the rhythm of the script is pleasurable, further care is desirable. Boring subject areas, plain writing, plot dumps, and useless dialog often get skimmed. Now, another layer of complexity is given by the environment in which I'm reading. On my computer, I tend to read fast, but if I'm very comfortable and have absolutely nothing to do, I find myself relaxing and reading at a leisurely pace.

I have strong doubts about one-in-ten. Certainly one-in-ten aren't out and proud, but I'd even doubt one-in-ten including those who are in the closet. It would certainly make life easier if it were true, though. I'd like to append this: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/LGBT_demographics_of_the_United_States

Boobies. I'm fine with tits, jugs, breasts, and any other nicknames for them, but not boobies. It makes me think of beavis and butthead sitting around on the couch saying "Boobies. Hahahaehehehehe."

In the past, I have often used "mon chérie" when referring to a boyfriend in the third person, mostly for love of Creole and Cajun culture. I called my last boyfriend "pup", but not around other people.

I wanted to be a physicist. An astrophysicist to be more precise. Then when I finally got to get involved in astrophysics, I realized that most astrophysicists don't shower and don't groom, and ended up in optics

Love her hair! Great social commentary within.

I'm Perpetua Titling Light. More importantly, I shot the serif.

This show is a guilty pleasure for me. It reeks of Twilight, but the allure of Styles' charms is enough to make me drop my vampire/werewolf craze inhibitions. That being said, it's not a bad show. There are some moments that make me groan, but for the most part it's crafted well enough to keep the cynic in me at bay. I thought Scott was cute at first, but on second glance, something about his jawline and eyebrows freaks me out.

You'd think that to be the case, but half of my peers are published or working on a publication. My physics department is rather good at getting undergraduates in labs, and unlike chemistry, you don't end up doing something menial like washing glassware. I should also mention that I'm a year advanced for my age, so it's not like they stuck a freshman in a q-optics lab and said "go get 'em, tiger". That being said, I don't know any gay guys in the physics department (only about 300 people in the department), and I know most of them. It's very, very uncommon to find a gay physicist. As best I know, that's a recognized issue, the kind of thing that gets discussed at very boring equal-opportunity conferences. For reference, there is exactly one female on the faculty, and she's relatively new. Only 7 out of 41 grad students are women. Physics has historically been very purely a Man's Game. Thanks all for the warm welcome

I'm a tea drinker mainly. Having grown up around Englishmen, I drink a lot of Earl Grey, namely Steve Smith's Lord Bergamot. Steeped in situ with boiled water, and garnished with a slice (not a wedge) of lemon. Kind of a crazy thing, that. All of my friends hate tea and think I'm a whacko :wacko:

Hello all, My name is Nathan. Other than the basic information that you can garner from looking to the left of this post, you'll probably learn a lot about me from my unusual and awkward posts. I'm a physicist, which from what I've seen isn't terribly common among the ranks of the gay community. I'm a huge fan of several of the authors here, but I have barely begun to scratch the surface. I'm currently working on a pilot for a series I've been concocting for a few months now. I've had a few years of creative writing training, but for all I know it could turn out to be a trainwreck . With the exception of a couple of physics papers, I don't have any work published, certainly nothing like a gay romance. Anyway, I hope to meet lots of interesting folks here and indulge my creative side.

Kreepy Kat's author decided that it was time for the series to die, but it had a good long run. Ever had a cat that you thought was going to kill you in your sleep? This webcomic basically summarizes that feeling. Kreepy Kat