crazyfish

This is exactly the sort of sentiment that leads a guy, like the one in the article, getting worked over about losing his virginity. Sometimes older virgins are just virgins because they don't care enough to lose it, not to mention those who are religious about it.

yeah sad for the kid. Rejected twice and then will be shuffled through the foster care system till he's of age. He'll be damaged for a long, long time. Yeah I can't even say what's worse for the kid, the foster care system or staying with those hideous parents. I used to be pro-adoption, but not now I'm not so sure anymore. Unless you adopt a newborn, the lot of kids available for adoption are the harder sort to raise. Separating a child from their birth parents is trauma, even worse if the child has suffered years of rejection and neglect. It doesn't help that the culture promulgates such magical notions about parenting when the reality is much starker. The bonding between parent and child isn't as automatic as people assume. Bonding between parent and adoptive children is even less so automatic. Given how having children is basically a lifestyle choice, a lot of parents look to kids for these magical bonding experiences, instead of raising kids out of a sense of responsibility and sacrifice. Adoption can easily turn into a living nightmare to these parents who were looking for an easy child to love. I understand them wanting to give back the child. Some children are just that hard to love.

Correction. What gay NY city slickers think of other gay NY city slickers.

If it isn't her decision, what else would be it? No one is forcing her to lose it in front of 'art critics'. It's still her body, her decision. As for art ... I don't think the guy's stunt is art. I won't call her stunt art either.

Upon the sight of the seashells of red hair, a delightful shock broke through Dimov, but the delight quickly faded—perhaps triggered by his fever headache—with a sickening afterglow of déjà vu. Even the room’s staid faux-paneling walls and its circumambient thrum of a sluggish design reiterated his cramped sense of the week. In the space of five days he had seen Alex three times. And abandoning himself to the window—a panoptic of sea and sky undulating in viridian hues—he was, not unlike a man a

It's one thing to stay away from loose guys, but when you say too emotional, I do wonder if you might be too picky.

not a spanish speaker either, but I can tell mexican spanish from spanish spanish. Not much of a french speaker either, but i can tell francophone french from french french, even from quebecois french.

My problem isn't privacy. I don't care he wants to lose his virginity in front of people. People have their kinks, I allow them that. But I do care about the pseudo-intellectualist posturing about what is essentially his hangups. Virginity may not be his biggest worry, but the guy thinks about it a lot. So much that he decides to make an event of it, the equivalent of a"hell fuck it, we might as well make a show of it." Instead of being honest about it, he frames it with political art speak about "explorations ... questions ... heteronormativity ..." without concerns of luridness, or that people would cheapen it to get their rocks off. I'm asking myself, "Is this guy for real?" He manages to come off as naive and pretentious at the same time.

Yeah indeed. Really sad in fact. I hate to think that the biggest worry in his life is that he's a virgin. People are worried about getting a job or surviving cancer, he's so so depressed about being a virgin. First world problems indeed. I can't be too hard on him. The culture is sex-obsessed: women are under pressure to lose it and still look virginal, guys have to lose it as fast they can and proclaim themselves the biggest studs. Still sad, there's no sane, level-headed bloke around him to tell him to relax and take it easy. Instead, he's got his horrific echo chamber around him, "Yeah, cool idea, genius idea, way to stick it to heteronormativity ..." I'd hate to think of all the guys cheering him on and going out of their way to help just because they want to see a live porno.

HELL YEAH, free porno! Who wants to meet up? I have to paddle my canoe across the Atlantic first ... Seriously, what the hell is he on about? His level of cognitive dissonance is staggering.

Christ, you're 17. What are you getting depressed about? Go out there and live fearlessly. These sort of things tend to take care of themselves, when you focus on living to the fullest with an open kind heart. Pining/wishing/mooning for love is an impotent way to live. Yeah, yeah, I know I'm a wrinkled curmudgeon, but the concept of a soulmate staggers me ... I wish I had a dollar for every professed pair of soulmates that break up. http://what-if.xkcd.com/9/ that sums up my view perfectly sans the cynical groan.

Alex considered the all-too-rapid decay of his memory. Images did not come catalogued according to time or place, or even with the stirring rises of emotion, but as reflections in misted mirrors or as isosceles shards gleaming hues that repulsed further engagement. And cross-legged on the floor, waiting for the numerical analysis class to begin, he blinkered, straining for respite, from the offers of a wealthier and more rousing future posted over the walls. He sighed. This too would be forgott

Yeah so ... I'm assuming that he knows you're gay already. You know already what you need to do. Man up. That simple. Decide if the sharp sting of rejection is worse than months and months of impotent angst. Come clean or remove yourself from the situation. If your friendship is as deep as you say it is, it will recover. If not, then you have one less troublesome person in your life. The fact is when you come clean, the world won't end. Your heart won't stop beating. You won't crumble and die. I guarantee you that you'll feel a lot, lot better. And oh, don't touch people in their sleep. That's fucking assault.

The aim of satire isn't to be soft and understanding. It's to bite and cut deep. Sometimes friction is the best way to revelation. How does fairness come into this? We have the right to extremely narrow dating preferences, but we don't have the right to be exempt from the criticism. And really being psychologically blind is no excuse. Also the profile in the article isn't exactly the poster of a macho guy, but of someone with a strange warped sense of what it means. Ted Nugent waving a Kalashnikov is a macho image, making duck lips while holding your shirt up isn't my definition of macho. I didn't read the article as condemning macho guys for liking macho guys, but rather about the absurd lengths men would go to radiate masculinity and yet fall so damn short of the mark, all the while managing to make others feel ostracized.

Bravo! **throwing flowers at your feet** You definitely need to submit this to a gay interest magazine or something. I'm serious. You could even get paid.

Wow, I would never say fidelity or trust is old-fashioned. Wow. Try being untrustworthy with ordinary friends and family and see how far that goes. Sexual fidelity is very much dependent on gender dynamics. A average straight relationship will have certain dynamics that differ from a gay relationship, which will also differ from a lesbian relationship. We can say on average, women tend to nest, but guys tend to roam. Perhaps the bigger issue is that we assume sexual fidelity is part and parcel of a committed relationship. Should this be so? Is this a reasonable expectation? That's a question that you need to answer for yourself. But the important thing is for you and your prospective partner to be honest about what you want out of a relationship. If all they expect is regular sex and having a goto restaurant/movie buddy then the relationship is what it is. However if you want someone rock solid in times of good and bad, and then obviously that comes with heavier responsibilities. But the problem is people all too often self-servingly muddled about what they want. They want to screw around, but they want the luxury of calling someone theirs alone. They want maximum benefits with the least amount of input. They want to be the special one in the relationship. They aren't willing to give the other party the same roaming license they accord to themselves. Why is that? Why do people find it so hard to be up front roaming around? Because monogamy is a very very powerful idea. Many people are willing to cheat, kill, die to maintain the ideal of monogamy. Monogamy comes with the promise of certainty. In our modern age, if there's anything we crave is certainty. You can't trust God, or government, or your family, your networks, your ideas of heaven and hell to save you in times of trouble. Everything is up in the air. North is south, east is west. Liberating, isn't it? You owe nobody shit, and by the same token, no one owes you shit either, not even love. As you grow older, the thrill lessens and the need for certainty grows. And suddenly the idea of fidelity, sexual or emotional, isn't such a quaint old-fashioned idea anymore; it becomes an absolute need. But then again, being liberated moderns, we like to have our cake and eat it too. I suppose that's my longwinded notion of saying, sexuality fidelity is important for most people to keep a stable committed relationship. But it isn't necessary, neither is it sufficient. But honesty is absolutely necessary for trust and stability.

Takeshi Miike has some necrophilia scenes in Visitor Q, and it was hilarious. Ok Takeshi Miike makes some fucked-up movies.

yeah I'm cynical. I'm not pointing fingers at anyone at this site. Actually this site doesn't bother me in that regard. I'm thinking of my perusals of other sites like AO3 , in which every other story is about abusive situations. Or like the case of Fifty shades of grey, where you have a silly stupid hero, suddenly bursting out his child abuse backstory, like that is supposed to garner my sympathy. The problem for me is that these topics are very visceral, and they can easily overwhelm the narrative without leaving an inch for developing nuance. I want to be interested in your character, and not because I feel so so sorry that he's been raped or abused. Anyway we're veering off-topic. So censorship ... don't do that. Go out there and be your own rainbow butterfly.

yeah. I don't mind explicitness. I don't even mind reading transgressive fiction a la Palanuick or Burroughs even, but the problem is it is so easy for a lesser author to reach for the grab bag of fucked-up shit just to capture reader emotion. especially on a free fiction site, where capturing the flighty reader's attention is the mission. I know, I know, it's hard to craft a compelling story about ordinary people going through ordinary problems, as that would require a compelling voice and character insight. Much easier to burst out a rape or an abuse scene to garner reader sympathy. Sigh.

I hate the term censorship. I only consider government imposed censorship to be true censorship. Anyone is free to write their bizarre sex story on their blog. You know people will say shit whatever you write. Your gays are too nice. Your gays aren't having enough sex. Your gays are icky. Your gays are women with dicks. Your gays are too manly. yadda, yadda, yadda. I believe firmly you should go forth and write what you want with conviction and honesty. You shouldn't censor yourself just present a wholesome image of whatever group you identify with. HOWEVER, it would be damn well stupid and irresponsible of you to pretend as if your art exists in a moral or social vacuum. Every artist, no every human being, has a moral obligation to try to at least understand the moral and social context of the things they do or say. If you want to write about happy, lovely stories about gay men, hopped up on meth, having fuck parties, it's your right. I might enjoy one or two of those on occasion. I like me some Burroughs from time to time. But don't pretend ignorance or outrage if you get railed upon for promoting the nihilistic underbelly of the gay lifestyle Or if a homophobe points to your stories and say, "see, how debauched these homosexuals are." And despite what people might say, the truth in all its forms deserves to be told. Moreover, I don't like the reflexive belief that gay people have a monopoly on abnormal sexual fantasies. Last I checked the amazon erotica lists, it's straight people who are buying dino-porn, tentacle porn, stepdaddy/stepdaughter sexacapes, alien breeding sex stories and the like.

It's noon, and I really want some korean barbecue.

man I wish I can get some barbecue in my neck of the woods.

Where is the line? Who determines this line? Does this line change when you have a republican president or a democratic president? Your views on custom and order are rather strange. Custom and order is just whatever is the status quo. And well the status quo works for some people, and not so well for others. It took various challenges to authority to change views on racism, misogyny and homophobia. I'll agree with you that tea party are socialists in their own way. Either party doesn't mind the pork and the dough when they are the one in power. Every year the leviathian grows no matter who's power. I'm happy there's a fight over the government spending. Sure the fight is just a big show, and the government wins every time, but public needs to be aware than spending more than 100% of GDP just isn't sustainable. But really comparing the tea party to the Red Guard I found rather hyperbolic. The Cultural Revolution had the tacit of approval of the government to crush dissent. For all the terror of the tea party, the public gave Obama a second term. They voted in a democratic majority in the senate. Terror isn't working very well when the press and Jon Stewart cracks jokes at tea partiers everyday. Perhaps we should be talking about the real terror of government that would indict mere hackers on espionage charges or raid law-abiding marijuana dispensaries.

The guy's really old like in his late seventies. It's great to have a zest for life in your old age, but chasing after boys in your late seventies pushes it for me.

No you weren't overly critical. I like to hear what the readers think, good or bad. I do have certain tendencies with language. Sometimes it ends up great, other times it falls flat. And since I have a certain aesthetic, I can't not play with images, so it's always a matter of shaping and honing. As for the stalagmite teeth, it was meant to be a disturbing image of Chris's mouth, as I wanted to contrast his fairly benign words with something darker underneath. As for horns and trees, that's something I'll have to think about. Anyway it was good to hear your thoughts. If readers don't say anything, I won't know which of my experiments work and which don't. Thanks again.