Thank you Drew,
This was based on my own relationship with the Persian guy I met last summer in a class. We are still happily together. He has made some progress towards not seeing me as his little wife to be protected, but then sometimes he slips back. But overall it is what works for us and even our biggest arguments don't last more than an hour.
I think going from Iran to Los Angeles, even though we have a ton of Iranian people here, just exploded his world and sometimes he gets pushed too far and runs back to his traditional mode. But he is always loving with it. He means well.