Graeme, I don't know what I can add to this but since I suspect your motivation in posting this thread, I feel compelled to say something. First you're so right. I'm learning the hard way as you know. I am following your wonderful advice and so far, you have been absolutely correct. I'm also learning something else. As important as compromise obviously is, communication is equally as critical. But that also HAS to be a two way street.
Graeme, you asked me what I was feeling, well someone else asked me the same thing later today. Well, as best as I can define it, it's somewhere between relief and sheer terror. (for those of you who are clueless as to what I'm talking about, see my blog) Anyway, we're struggling through this. Fear and Hurt seem to be the dominant emotions, but I think compromise AND communication will be the only way to get through them. Time and working through it will be the test.
Hugs,
Rick