Menzoberranzen

Mmm, I couldn't tell you which colour jacks to use, but are you sure that the speakers you've had for several years are compatibe with a brand new computer? Menzo (who really isn't that tech-savvy, sorry)

Jeff Buckley's version is incredible. It's one of the few songs that I think demands a male voice.

Educating them? "So, in case you've been living in a hole for the past 14 years, killing people is illegal. And, because you are obviously an utter invalid, the primary consequence of taking a gun, loading it, and shooting it at someone's head is their imminent demise. Now that's our lesson for today kids, tomorrow we'll talk about what you're feeling when you decide this is a good idea." The kid should go to prison, and there they can try to rehabilitate. What kind of message does that send to people - to the victim's family - if this kid gets off scott free so that he can be educated on something he should have known years ago? I'm sure there are things worth saving in most people, but that doesn't change the fact that the primary response to crime is punishment, not salvation. Menzo An eye for an eye leaves the whole world disciplined.

For me, when I said there are certain things I would only do for someone I was serious with, I didn't mean that in the sense that I was 'reserving' it for them. I meant that these are things I don't particularly care for, but would be willing to do if I really cared for the other guy. Sex sucks the first time, plain and simple. It's awkward and it's messy and if you bottom, then it hurts. I don't see why that experience should be any more 'sacred' with a significant other. The first guy I slept with was quite a bit older and ended up being the most serious relationship I've had, but I think he found my virginity more of an annoyance than something he should cherish. Menzo

And just as I don't care what heterosexist evangelicals think of me, I don't particularly care whether the murderers agree with me about their value to society, although I would argue that there is a big difference between a lifestyle 'choice' and the act of murder. I remember myself when I was fourteen, and the 'emotions' argument doesn't cut it. Lots of people are emotional/feel isolated/are depressed and yet somehow don't come to school one day and blow people away. A line has to be drawn after which we hold people responsible for their actions. A kid who calls another kid is a fag because he's insecure is forgivable, even understandable, but a kid who murders because of his 'emotions'? I think we need to call a spade and spade and hold him accountable, just as we would hold an adult accountable. 18 is an arbitrary number, it does not confer sudden wisdom or rationality. Menzo

I'm loyal to the team, Ieshwar, so don't worry. Besides, the other team has weird equipment... Menzo So boys and ladies, who's up for a manni/petti?!

Everything is about choice. I defend the right to choose, so I don't consider it unacceptable to throw everything away if that's your choice. My sympathy goes to many different people; school-shooters are not among them. Society is better off without them. I also don't see how not killing yourself makes you somehow so stupid as to not recognize the ramifications of going on a shooting spree. There is no subtelty; the consequences are plainly visible. Menzo

It's a little sad. Embrace being single, even if you don't like it!

People need to take responsibility for their own actions - it is the shooters fault, even if the parents were contributing facts. It's a pity more of the younger ones don't off themselves at the same time, like the college-aged ones do. Then we'd all be spared the ridiculous claims that it's 'society's' fault, or the media's. You find me a mentally average fourteen year old in the United States who is too stupid to know the consequences of shooting someone, and then I will agree that he shouldn't be tried as an adult. Menzo

God no....I meant cat. Cat's are warm and fuzzy and cars are large, metal and make me feel like straight when I talk about them (no offense Robbie dear.) Menzo (who loves his cats, but not his cars)

It wasn't the first time though that Aiden said 'I love you.' I <3 that scene anyway.

I don't want kids. It's hard to pinpoint a reason, I just like life without them. I'd be much more inclined to get a dog or another car if I was ever lonely, and I like my life being all my own. I put the option 'Yes, if my partner pushes for it.' I do like kids (well, sometimes...) and I think I'd make a good father, and I could see myself having them if the guy meant a lot to me and kids meant a lot to him. I'd have to be really, really sure that we weren't going to break up in a year, though. If I did, I'd adopt an infant or very young toddler. Menzo PS Kevin, no relationship is ever permanent, not even the parent/child one. It's stronger, sure, but not permanent.

Then he is, simply put, an idiot. There is a time and a place for everything, and sex is not the place to tell someone you love them for the first time. There's waaay to much room for awkwardness. I would probably do what I mentioned above (and possibly add in a little...extra seeing as we were already naked) but I would be more than a little miffed. Nothing ruins sex like un-reciprocated declarations of love. Please tell me this didn't happen to you... Menzo

Not to be trite, but guns don't kill people; people do. Like James said, if you want to kill someone, a machete works just as well as a gun.

After a certain point, I think there's too much baggage to ever go back to being friends. They've seen you naked, they've been your confidante, they've been there for you in such a different way than a friend. It's feasible after casual relationships, but getting out of something serious and then staying friends, doesn't work in my experience. Menzo

"We feel that since you're both clearly not up to our standards, you'll make each other happy. One should try to reach above one's station."

Yeah, living in London has severley curbed my shopping tendencies. But, um, you know, gay friends and all that on-topic jazz... Menzo

I usually leave them in hefty bags at the bottom of a river... No, in general I avoid exes. I have had a couple of...complicated relationships and I realised after a while that the best thing was to put the past behind and move on. There's one 'ex' I still talk to, but we were never really serious. We started as friends and when the dating thing didn't work, it wasn't that hard to go back to friends. My advice is to not go, unless you see this actually developing into a friendship. Menzo

It stands for University College London....Hence the reason I live in London and not LA.

Come visit me at UCL

My day is finally effing over (stupid students...) and I get to turn up my music, let the wine flow and call in sick to work tomorrow. And maybe write; I haven't written anything in ages. Menzo (who forgot to mention there will be lots of heart-shaped chocolate)

Oh yeah, he's a homo.

Smile warmly, then lean in and kiss them. It's happened to me in two relationships, one in which I eventually said it back. It's painfully obvious when you try and divert the attention, and a 'talk' is also fairly awkward. I guess this falls into a similar category to Krista; let them interpret your signals how they want and even if the relationship fails soon after, at least you are spared an extremely awkward situation. Menzo

I live in a very urban, cosmopolitan area and the straight guys are still weird. Some of them are fun to be around but most of them get excited by the most peculiar things. Straight women rock though Menzo

It might take more than two months to take it all out. And the cleanup....