I'm putting this in a spoiler because it's going to piss some people off. If you want to skip it, fine. You've been warned. Wear a helmet.
There are people who will never like us. We're different. Adopting their norms and social behaviors isn't going to make them like us any more. Judging anyone for their scorecard is mental masturbation, sort of like Stockholm Syndrome. If you don't know what that is, it is adopting the norms and mores of your oppressors.
We are judged for our sexuality. It self-defeating to judge each other for our sexuality.