Kevin, I think you would (you're going to) make a great dad someday. Just remember, a man's biological clock goes on forever, unlike a woman's. So there's no rush. You don't have to back into parenthood via an unplanned pregnancy with someone you can't fully commit to, either. You've got a whole wonderful lifetime ahead of you.

Kitty

Hey Kevin,

There's nothing wrong with wanting a "picket fence" life. I think deep down that's what the majority of people want. Stability, happiness, and someone to share that with. At least I know that's what I want. I know, to an extent, what you mean when you worry about not achieving that dream. I worry about never finding a guy who'll care for me as much as I care for him. And as much as I love and want kids, I know that I'll never be able to bring them into a single parent home, at least not intentionally . It's just not fair to them. I just keep telling myself that life will work out the way it's ment to work out...and if worse comes to worst...I'll buy a condo over in Europe somewhere, my GTO, and be the old maid that travels alot, drives insanely over the speed limit, and lives with 10 cats and 2 dogs. This is of course when I either become rich and famous or win the lottery. Sorry, I'm not entirely sure where I was meaning to go with this. But take care and have a great weekend!

- Kaiten

awww <comfort> Kevin

i want kids too. everytime i hold one of my nieces or my nephew my heart breaks a lil bit. but i know SOMEDAY im gonna have one of my very own, even if i have to go kidnapp one from an orphanage

I don't know why anyone would ever think that being gay means you can't have kids without leading some girl on. In this day and age there are countless ways to have kids - surrogacy and adoption being the two my fiance and I will be considering. The key is to find someone you want to be with for the rest of your life and then, if you want kids badly enough, find a way of making it happen. We will be having kids and there's no reason you can't either Kevin - breeding is the easy part, it's finding someone you want to raise your children that's complicated.

Rob

Kevin, I think you would (you're going to) make a great dad someday. Just remember, a man's biological clock goes on forever, unlike a woman's. So there's no rush. You don't have to back into parenthood via an unplanned pregnancy with someone you can't fully commit to, either. You've got a whole wonderful lifetime ahead of you.

 

Kitty

Thanks Kitty I know you're right about there not really being a rush, but I still feel like I should "get on with it", especially when I see my friends and former classmates starting to have families of their own. But you are right thanks

Hey Kevin,

 

There's nothing wrong with wanting a "picket fence" life. I think deep down that's what the majority of people want. Stability, happiness, and someone to share that with. At least I know that's what I want. I know, to an extent, what you mean when you worry about not achieving that dream. I worry about never finding a guy who'll care for me as much as I care for him. And as much as I love and want kids, I know that I'll never be able to bring them into a single parent home, at least not intentionally . It's just not fair to them. I just keep telling myself that life will work out the way it's ment to work out...and if worse comes to worst...I'll buy a condo over in Europe somewhere, my GTO, and be the old maid that travels alot, drives insanely over the speed limit, and lives with 10 cats and 2 dogs. This is of course when I either become rich and famous or win the lottery. Sorry, I'm not entirely sure where I was meaning to go with this. But take care and have a great weekend!

 

- Kaiten

Hey Kaiten!

LOL well it sounds like your back up plan is fun anyway! Don't worry I'm sure you will find someone great

You're probably right about it being best not to intentionally bring children into a single parent home...on the other hand the way I've more or less calmed myself down is by deciding that if I'm about 35 or so and don't have any "prospects" I might go ahead and start trying to work out the adoption process...I dunno maybe that is a mistake and of course it'll depend on my situation at the time, but I think I'd consider it at least.

awww <comfort> Kevin

i want kids too. everytime i hold one of my nieces or my nephew my heart breaks a lil bit. but i know SOMEDAY im gonna have one of my very own, even if i have to go kidnapp one from an orphanage

Aww thanks Tim

That's the spirit! In my more "confident about having kids someday" moments I say more or less the same thing!

By the way I love your signature

I don't know why anyone would ever think that being gay means you can't have kids without leading some girl on. In this day and age there are countless ways to have kids - surrogacy and adoption being the two my fiance and I will be considering. The key is to find someone you want to be with for the rest of your life and then, if you want kids badly enough, find a way of making it happen. We will be having kids and there's no reason you can't either Kevin - breeding is the easy part, it's finding someone you want to raise your children that's complicated.

 

Rob

Thanks Rob, I know you're right; I probably should be more concerned with finding that special someone right now anyway. I do of course know that being gay doesn't mean I won't be able to have kids...It just makes it more complicated. But then I do think it's worth the extra effort, and you're right if you want it badly enough it can definitely happen.

I'm so glad to hear that you and Robin are planning to have kids . I'm sure you guys will be great parents!