You're bothering because it's something you need to do. You have bills to pay and things to save for - but none of it will be worth a damn if your health suffers.

Offer to kick in $20 for gas and have someone take you away for an afternoon. Just sit in the sun and veg. It'll do wonders for you and it's really not that much.

>I can't win. So why am I even bothering.

Right now, life is giving you lemons...so make lemonade.

Just do the best you can....things will and do get better--trust me. Someday not only will you be done "making lemonade", but you'll be selling the lemons to others and making a pretty penny for yourself.

This is just another trip up another of life's mountains...it is not, however, insurmountable.

Sounds rough, Eric

I'll make a few suggestions. Try taking on less. Accept that you can't (or just don't want) to do everything and say no sometimes. Do it in a nice way, but don't take on more than you can handle or everyone and everything suffers, especially you yourself.

I would suggest making a list of what your main priorities are and focusing on those. Put the others on the back burner and get to them once you've stabilized the others. I don't know what is the most important, but let's say it's continuing to find time for Matt and getting your license restored. Realistically maybe that means less time for friends, not taking any extra family commitments, and maybe not even managing to get the school stuff sorted out this semester, and making moving otu a long-term goal instead of a near-future one. Or maybe moving out is a high priority and so is being there for your family. In that case maybe you should put school and the license on hold, and take things more casually with Matt. I obviously don't know what your top priorities actually are, but I would encourage you to figure them out and accept that in order to attain them you may have to take things much more slowly on the other fronts. I suppose one other option would be to continue to try to do them all, but if that's the case, then accept that that means you're taking them all slowly and don't let any one of them demand too much, nor be disappointed by slow progress.

But perhaps I'm completely wrong, and only you can really know for sure what you need and want

Good luck and take care,

Kevin

Thanks for the advice everyone and taking the time to post it... it was a bright spot in an otherwise moody day. It's just been rough lately and i'm starting to work things out in my head and set my priorities straight (or gaily forward as Matt would say) and I really appreciate the advice.

You have my support and you know it.