Stag do or Hen party

[Kitt]

I quite enjoy going out and enjoying an evening in a pub etc. Much more so now than when i was young, skinny and being hit on regularly. Now I can kick back and relax with my spouse and our friends without needing to worry about all the things that can come with being hit on in a bar.

[TetRefine]

Other married people - please help me in proving this stereotype totally wrong.

 

I was actually talking to a very good friend of mine about this issue the other day. We were saying that, by and large, all of us and our other stable relationship coupled friends can now think of few things worse than going out clubbing all night. My friend Tim said that once you have tested your social currency and found a mate, that generally, people stop having to test their social currency by going out and getting hit on by drunk people. generally, the love of a person you adore is more than enough to make up for blokes trying to give you their numbers.

 

I didn't mean the fun all stops with marriage. I was thinking more along the lines of the wild, crazy, uninhibited fun that you have in your youth before marriage usually comes to an end with marriage. Fun in marriage simply takes on a different, and (usually) tamer form. 

[Graeme]

Where I live, it's a Buck's Night or Hen's Party.

 

I've been to a few and most have been tame affairs. That is, a night out with the boys, just to have a good time. There was only adult entertainment at one, and that was a porno tape showing on the TV, which most of us ignored and played poker instead. I've heard of raunchier ones, but I haven't been to any of those. Humiliating the groom has only occurred at one of the buck's nights I've been too, and that was still pretty low key (a ball-and-chain shackles on the groom's legs so he couldn't move very fast or easily).

 

Of course, most of the buck's nights I've been to were for older guys getting married. The porno tape one was the only one where it was a younger guy getting married. I suspect the activities will often depend on the ages of the guys in question, with raunchier parties being for the younger guys.

Edited January 18, 2014 by Graeme

[Thorn Wilde]

Other married people - please help me in proving this stereotype totally wrong.

 

I was actually talking to a very good friend of mine about this issue the other day. We were saying that, by and large, all of us and our other stable relationship coupled friends can now think of few things worse than going out clubbing all night. My friend Tim said that once you have tested your social currency and found a mate, that generally, people stop having to test their social currency by going out and getting hit on by drunk people. generally, the love of a person you adore is more than enough to make up for blokes trying to give you their numbers.

 

See, I've never been one for clubbing, even when I was single. I have always been, and will remain, one for a quiet drink with friends in a pub. Magpie and I have been together for nearly 5 years already, and I doubt much will change on this front if we do get married. We like pubs, and we like drinks with friends at home. Last night we played cards and got pissed until 5 in the morning with a few close friends and it was a great night. That's always been my idea of a good time.

[Rndmrunner]

To support Sasha here, with a kid just in double digits and closer to the ave age of the posters in this form than i am, i can honestly say that clubbing is not a big draw but after 20 odd years, I do know that on the very rare occasion when my partner or myself is out of town, we sleep really poorly. A good party can be great fun but nothing outweighs the simple everyday pleasures. But maybe our relationship feels fresh because " we're not "married", we just act that way (sounds like a pop tune). The fun starts with finding someone that you can be yourself with. A friend told me that i light up when i hear my mate's laughter at a party and i took that for a great compliment. So get laughing and have some fun and if you embarrass your friends, they can deal with it.

[Sasha Distan]

To support Sasha here, with a kid just in double digits and closer to the ave age of the posters in this form than i am, i can honestly say that clubbing is not a big draw but after 20 odd years, I do know that on the very rare occasion when my partner or myself is out of town, we sleep really poorly. A good party can be great fun but nothing outweighs the simple everyday pleasures. But maybe our relationship feels fresh because " we're not "married", we just act that way (sounds like a pop tune). The fun starts with finding someone that you can be yourself with. A friend told me that i light up when i hear my mate's laughter at a party and i took that for a great compliment. So get laughing and have some fun and if you embarrass your friends, they can deal with it.

 

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