He told me that it didn’t, because while those other guys had Stef’s body, he had his soul.”
I know people, meaning gay people, just don't get Tim and me. We seem anachronistic to the gay community and there are all sorts of unkind ways they describe us. We believe in monogamy, we are libertarians, which in my grandparents day were called "Goldwater Republicans". The two of us and a small cadre of like minded friends wonder what the fight for gay marriage was about since so many of our not like minded friends do not honor the vows they took.
"I promise to love and cherish you, in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health, for richer for poorer, for better for worse, and forsaking all others, keep myself only unto you, for so long as we both shall live."
JP said he had "Stef's soul", but Tim and I think that sex is like a horcrux. Every time you have sex with someone not your partner a detached fragment of your soul is left behind.
I also don't understand Will's, "There was absolutely no way I could shower next to him and not get an erection." I knew from the age of 12 or so on that guys floated my boat more than girls did and I was terrified that first day of showers in middle school PE I was going to pop a boner because I was about to see 10 to 15 guys I had the hots for naked. To my surprise, I did not pop a boner, but my mind worked like a Leica camera, taking snapshots of each penis and butt to be reviewed at a later date for nefarious purposes. In the 35 years I've showered with the hottest water polo players, swimmers, beach volleyball players, the quintessential So Cal beach boys and more, I've never been close to an erection and I've only seen one guy get an involuntary erection and that was a guy in high school "on the spectrum" as we politely say these days.