Andrew Q Gordon

HAPPY BIRTHDAY TJ!!! Not sure what you do for fun up thar in the frozen north, but hope you have fun and make it memorable! Of course if you get naked and run wild through town, I hope you post pictures.

Greetings Throbby - interesting name choice - says the man who's screen name is hard to pronounce. Hey Yanks glad to see you decided to say hello Andy

Welcome Daniel and Mike - Never Michael - always nice to 'see' new 'faces' Andy

Sharon, Cia, thanks for the photo advice, will look into both. I'm terrible at taking pictures so we'll see if I improve any

haha, are you saving them and hoping they'll come back in style??

Happy Birthday Dargon - sorry no snappy posts with bling and pictures and the like - that's for you to do yourself

@ Maria - sleep? I told my mom, I'm getting up every couple hours to practice for when she gets here @ JC : I fully intend to be in another room when it happens. Sorry ladies, yes I'm that squeamish. @Lugh: OMG I freaking love the idea. I'm gonna get them made for us and wear them whenever we take her out in public JK about the last part but I do like the idea a ton

So It's about two weeks before the baby is due. In some ways it feels like it's taken an eternity, in others it seems like it flew by. I remember the first entry -which is gone from the site sadly - my fault, no comments please - where I was discussing how the fertility clinic staff kept asking me, you're done already? when I turned in my little swimmers. That still strikes me as quite funny that they think I wanted to take my time and enjoy it. Yeah, so much fun being in the little jerk off room with their collections of straight and lesbian porn. I have picture of it if anyone is interested in what they look like. Then the issues with getting pregnant, having to shell out almost double than we planned, the insurance issues, the money issues with the surrogate - Interestingly enough they seem like someone else's life now. At the last ultra sound they told us her due date - what a misnomer if ever there was one - is now September 28. That was the original date the fertility clinic gave us so big shock that the OBGYN has decided that is now the new due date. The problem is we relied on the Oct 3 date for setting leave from work etc. Yeah I hear all the snickering going on about how a due date is anything but, but still. We needed some estimate and they could at least stick to one. Not that it will change when she - the baby - decides it's time, but it does make it a tad easier for us to be in denial. So, nursery painted - if you want to know the color, Benjamin Moore Country Green, color #540. Or you can go to Pottery Barn Kids and look at the Hayley nursery for an idea. The green was a big improvement over the yellow we had in there. It was kinda gold and it made the room darker. For those who don't know, my brother and his wife gave us a set of baby furniture that is really nice. Very heavy, real wood, not press board, sturdy. Very very generous and nice of them. My brother also lost the hardware for the crib and the instructions for both. We ordered the hardware and instructions and they sent us hardware only. Fortunately I am rather good with puzzles. Cradle and Crib are both assembled and set in place. Nothing broken, marriage intact. Woo Hoo The list of things we still have to do is HUGE. I can't even begin to list them. But I think come Thursday we will have finished the last of the super important necessary things - we are meeting with her pediatrician. Against my wishes, my office is having a shower for me on Wednesday. Yes I know I am not being very gracious, but one of the reasons I didn't want one is going to sound counter intuitive. We have some very nice, generous woman who work in the support staff I have been friends with since I started. They are already starting to buy things. Yes I know they want to do it and not feel like they have to, but I still feel a bit guilty that they are spending money on me. I am supposed to be the one who buys things for them because they don't make squat. My mother has been schooling me on just saying thank you and being better about letting others give me things. IDK, it's just not in my nature I guess. I noted that the Baby registry at Babies-r-us [won't do you any good to know where I'm registered if you don't have my last name - so I'm not giving anything away ] has seen a precipitous drop in the number of things left to buy. That's a good thing I suppose because there is so much else we didn't include we still need to get. So how many baby out fits are enough? I don't know but we already have 25 0-3 month old outfits and the shower isn't until Wed. We are already more than half way there in 3-6 month outfits now as well. One of our mothers bought us a burp towel that says 'mommy's little girl.' I've also told people, no clothes with the word princess on it. His mother gave us one that said, 'Daddy's little Princess." There are already two queens in this house, last thing we need is another one who has aspiration to royalty. Am hoping to create a website where I can put baby pictures. Not so keen on Face book, but I might have to go there if the website gallery doesn't work. I'll let everyone know when it's up and you can let me know if you want the address. Okay so last, tomorrow is another Dr. visit for the surrogate. We might know a bit more if she's looking like she's going to be early or we may not. Hopefully she'll make it to the 28th but I'm not counting on it. Too many people are already dreaming she's going to be early. Stay tuned - more to follow soon. Andy

Thanks for the comments - but I think you meant Jason not josh . Defense and Prosecution have very different approaches. As a prosecutor it's hammer home with everything you have - you have the burden and it is a high one. For the defense you are just trying to poke holes in the government case for the most part. It is that rare case where the defense has a lot to offer in their case by way of evidence. From a defense perspective, the best case you have is the one where you need to present the least amount of evidence. i.e. you've poked so many holes in the gov't's case you don't need to present any evidence of your own. Now let's see if I can pull it all together in the last two chapters.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY CONNER!!!!! A bit early for you left coasters but still, hope it's a great day my friends. You should 'hook up' with a friend or two. I've been waiting for a chance to slip that is some how.

Thanks for that Dark - The comments after the video are funny - some one asked if they were chanting "Balls Deep" when they were chanting "Long Beach" too funny.

Oh crap, I've broken ALOT of those rules, THEIR gonna have an EFFECT on my RIGHTING if ITS not changed soon. THAN I be more betterer. Thanks Vic, I've seen things by Oatmeal before and always get a laugh from them. This was funny too, but I agree with Nephy - Buy Dolphin Free Writing! Andy

HAPPY BIRTHDAY TREBS!!! Enjoy your day, have fun, go nuts, but don't show your nuts well not unless they're truck nuts, but even then I'd suggest you not show em.

**Gulp** Between you and Louis, I've got some big expectations to live up to with the coming chapters. This story is much easier to 'visualize' for me as I have lived a bit or most of it in various ways. One thing I will say, some of what the judge says during their conferences is probably not realistic. Essentially he's telling the prosecutor what he sees the defense trying to do. That's probably a bit of an abuse. I'm doing it here to help 'explain' what's going on without having Martin 'think' about. But on the other hand, I have had more than a couple argument given to me at bench conferences by the judge 'talking' through the defense objection - so maybe it's not so far fetch. Thanks for reading and for taking the time to comment. -- -- Andy

Good choices for things to read Welcome and enjoy Welcome Shalvia glad to hear your planning to be active. Hope you enjoy you're time here. Hey Caleb, rather wordy introduction you left us. Welcome and enjoy Okay, I just realized that combined you three just add up to my age - lord that makes me feel old.

Hate has a terrible way of warping people. I guess with this I wanted to show how letting go of the assholes will free you vs. staying made and missing out. Sarah is basically my sister - she's always been the one to have my back, especially after I came out. So yeah, I agree, she's a smart lady Thanks for taking the time to leave me a note.

So unwittingly our pair has unleashed upon themselves and the world a curse to end all curses. I don't have much else to say except I can't wait to see what lies ahead. Bloody big ass scorpions with stingers the size of swords, archers with disappearing language on their asses. What's next ??

Curious and curious. Has that feel of King Tut's tomb and it's curse. So many questions, so few answers, you are a wicked evil man Louis. I'd ask my questions but you won't answer them now will you? I wonder what the professor was thinking trying to open the container. He sensed it was holding back evil and still he insisted on blasting it open. What evil did he unleash upon the world. Oh Oh Oh I know he unleashed Louis Harris - master of evil writing upon us J/k of course. Good job.

So what have you weaved for us now Mr. Harris? Are you trying to give us learning too with all those footnotes?? Sorry I'm not able to give you as detailed feed back as you provide me, but accept this pale imitation as a thank you for you generous help since we 'met.' Interesting start, stuff to lure us in but not enough for us to figure out what is next. You do this very well, and it's hard. So onward. Definitely not what I expected from the title. But that's a good thing.

So by fine you mean 'fine' as in he's so fine! Nicely done, though I have to say, I've been going to all the wrong libraries my entire life. Ain't never seen nor had an experience like this. Not that I was looking for such a thing, but it I was, I never saw it.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY PHOENIX!!!! Have some fun, take some pictures and prove to everyone it's more fun north of the border

Holy Crap, I actually saw a truck with 'truck nuts' yesterday. It had this big silver/chrome scrotum with two nuts - one lower than the other - hanging from the trailer hitch. I was trying to get my iPhone out to take a picture to pass around ' asking WTF is this??' but they drove off before I could snap the shot. The - insert derogatory name for person driving the truck with truck nuts - had a hell of a time backing out of the park space and all I could do was scratchy my head and wonder WTF made them think that was cool? Oh well, best laugh I had yesterday.

I think sequel is a bit strong, it's more a companion. BUt glad to have you aboard. This one will be fairly short, maybe 6 chapter and an epilogue but it will resolve, tie up a lose end from Second Shot - what happened to Jordan. As for a sequel? Who knows, maybe? I just got a few things I'm working on and a baby on the way so nothing imminent but definitely something I've thought a bit about. -- -- Thanks again. -- -- Andy

Wow you really go for broke on your first post don't you Couple things come to mind: If you are married with a child, you have a few other responsibilities to factor that complicate this some what. "Finding out" requires experimenting with someone other than your wife. Will she mind? Probably impossible to tell. If you've never been with a guy, you probably never told her about your desire for men. Or then again maybe you know her feeling on extra marital affairs already. There are so many different ways to answer this but this might be the best I can come up with. I had a friend - died of cancer recently - who spent twenty some years married, raised two kids before admitting he was gay. Told his wife - who was almost 50 at the time - and kids and ended up - in his words - ruining her life. She was bitter that at age 50 she had to start over again. They'd married in college, kids, house etc. For him there was this enormous sense of guilt and regret - guilt because despite like me and 'dick' as he put it - he still had feeling for her after all those years. Regret because he felt he missed out on being 'young and cute' [not that I think he was ever cute, but we let him have his fantasy]. If you think you really prefer men to women, are you going to 'stray' and hook up on the side? That's dangerous for her - health wise, for you -depending on your career - it can be an issue if you meet someone you like who likes you back but doesn't want to be the 'other woman' so to speak. Will they out you publicly? Will they stalk you? Will they tell your family? Or will they just not be willing to put up with seeing you only when you have time? If you prefer men but are married will you be truly happy? My suggestion is try to figure out what you really want. Yes it will suck to tell the wife, 'honey, I'm sorry but I'm really gay' but it would be better to do it sooner than later. The longer you two build a life together, raise the child(ren) together etc, the harder it will be for her to accept and to move on. Just as my friend regretted the missed opportunities of youth, so too did his wife. If however, you feel you want to be with your wife and be faithful and satisfied, then I suggest you just focus on that and try to ignore the other. Finding men attractive could be no different that finding other people attractive besides your spouse. Just because they get you excited doesn't mean you have to sleep with them. Good luck whatever you decide, you have some difficult choices to make. Andy

Relevance is the first answer followed closely by Probative vs Prejudicial. First one has to ask, is the evidence relevant? If so to what? In this case, it doesn't go to Jordan's state of mind on Oct 7th, and the argument could be made it doesn't go to his state of mind on Aug 28th. It goes to Jason's state of mind, but that isn't relevant to the charges. But assume there is a slight relevance - i.e. he has a history of gay bashing, next you need to ask how probative is it on an element of the crime vs. how prejudicial is it. A better/easier example is the gory photograph evidence. Would maggot covered pictures of the deceased be so probative in a homicide that they out weight the prejudice to the defendant. If the charge was shooting someone, then no, because it doesn't help establish the gun shot wound. Same here. Sure it shows that Jason thinks Jordan is capable of fag bashing, but it's not overly probative for the charges and it is inflammatory. So no, Jason's opinion is NOT relevant UNLESS the assault was against him. and even then it would be iffy. Glad to see I got your blood boiling Trevor