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  1. viv
    Well, I haven't heard back from Danielle's mom yet, and I'm really not sure I want to because I'm pretty certain that she's so far gone that nothing even my great words *insert proper amount of humility here* can repair. That said... Tony did get a reply.
     
    Dear Tony,
     
    I realize that it has been several days since I received your letter and it is only now that I am taking the time to respond. I have read your words carefully and realize that you are very passionate about your beliefs. I have thought long and hard before responding because I too am very passionate about my beliefs. The difference between us though, is that you believe in the concept of God and I believe in the "Personage" of God. You believe that a person has the right to establish their own "moral" code, while I believe that God through the Bible establishes what that "code" MUST be. I truly thought about answering all of your religious opinions with the Bible, but then I concluded that I should not. I am only answering your letter because you made a mockery of all that I believe in. You even put me and the family of God on the same level as Hitler and the Nazi's. It is for these reasons that I am giving this "one time" response to your claims. However, what you believe is certainly up to you. If you choose not to believe in The God of Heaven, you are certainly entitled to do so. If you choose not to believe that Jesus Christ is God's Son, and that he died to be the Savior of the world, be my guest. God did not create us and then make us serve Him. He created us with free will, wanting us to have the desire to serve Him. Tony, I have that desire! I believe that the Bible is true! I believe that the Bible is the inspired Word of God! I believe that because the Bible says that of itself. I believe that the Bible is all sufficient because 2 Timothy 3: 16-17 says so. You see Tony, when you give an answer as to why you believe the way that you do, you respond with your personal "feelings". That's not good enough for me! When I give someone a reason as to why I believe the way that I do, I quote book, chapter and verse. If you are truly interested in the things that I believe in, I would gladly talk to you using God's Word. However, if the common denominator cannot be the Bible, than we have nothing further to say.
     
    I will just say this in closing. The Bible is not for private interpretation and God is not the author of confusion. The Bible says what it means, and means what it says. And it doesn't matter to me how many Philosophers have tried to disprove the Bible either. For as the Bible says, "Let God be true, but every man a liar." (Romans 3:4).
     
    Sincerely,
    [Danielle's Mom]
     
     
    Yikes, right? Anyway, on the plus side, I heard from my beautiful pal and that's fanfreakintastic cause I miss him something awful sometimes. Some people you just get, you know? You just WANT to love them cause they're a great person... I mean typically that's the ideal, but a lot of times you end up loving people because you're 'supposed to' which is cool, but when you find someone you WANT to love... that's just icing on the cake.
     
    Matty called me his girl today! I won't lie... I LOVED it!
     
    OH! And... I feel like I have to share this, but at the same time I want to be greedy and keep it all to myself cause it's SOOOOOOO good, but I found a new (not new to writing, but new to me) author I'm absolutely loving, and I won't even embarass myself by telling you the depths I'm going to to prove that. Anyway, totally check him out, he's f**king awesome! Matthew Haldeman-Time If you click on his short stories section down a ways, I can definitely recommend 'Two Bodies' and 'Third and Madison' and 'Who Knew' but I can tell you I've read every one and none of them will let you down! Happy Reading!
     
    Hugs,
    Viv
  2. viv
    Sometimes I wonder, okay that's a lie... I wonder a LOT, how some people got to be parents... and I don't mean HOW, I get that part... I mean why, I guess. If you don't want to be a parent, don't have kids... seems simple enough to me, right? And, (I can't believe I just started a sentence with 'and') if you do have kids, for goodness sake, f**king take care of them and be responsible! That said... you know, I think anyway, that Tony's girlfriend Danielle came to stay with us for the summer because her Mom lost her mind. Well no, what actually happened is that she was only allowed to go home on the condition that she attend church weekly with her crazy mom, and she didnt want to, so I said she could come live here in sin with us kewl kids.
     
    So she did! And, (see above) I totally love her! Anway, about a week back, her mom sent her an email...
     
    Danielle,
     
    I am very hurt and frustrated with you right now. I am so hurt because I thought that finally our relationship was moving to a little better place. It has been extremely strained since the move. And let's not beat around the bush. Let's just say it how it is. I am frustrated because since your move nothing I say is right. But if Tony says it then it must be true. I tell you things and you talk to me like i am a child or an idiot. I am not the one that made the decision for things to be the way they are. You made that decision all by yourself. I have tried to keep the lines of communication open - but for what. So you could tell me that "every time" we talk you get "stressed". Thanks a lot.
     
    Danielle, I don't feel that you are treating me with any respect. I am your mother. I did raise you to have respect for me. If you are so angry at me then just say it and we can both just walk away from each other. You are living in a way that is sinful. I don't agree with it and I don't approve. God doesn't either. You are stressed because you are so torn with knowing the truth and rejecting it. You know everything you should be doing and you just choose not too. Don't blame me. I didn't do anything wrong.
     
    I have been paying your bills for two months now. Your dad and I have given you some money for groceries. I planned to give you more money. Why should I do any of this when all I do is stress you out. Do you tell Tony that he is stressing you out - no. It is just me.
     
    I didn't ask for this. You made this college decision and lifestyle decision and now you have to live with it and the consequences. You made some poor decisions with money. We all do. I have. But Danielle, don't think for one second that I am going to take the blame for this. You are a grown up now. We don't have real talks - we just talk around stuff because you life and my life are so different with respect to God. I won't change who I am.
     
    You have hurt me so bad. I really was fooled into thinking that we were moving forward with our relationship. You having a bad day and I get the brunt of it. We all have bills. We all have no money. That is called life.
     
    Danielle, I am not going to lie - I don't like Tony. I think he is a bad influence and has taken you away from God and your family for the lusts of this world. This world is a fleeting moment. Eternal life is forever!!!!!!! Tony doesn't believe in God so all of a sudden you don't believe in God.
     
    You found our family and help put it back together and then just walked away. Everyone misses you and wants a relationship with you. How can you just pick one guy over all this. They are ready to be there for you and your needs. They are ready to worship together with you to the true and living God.
     
    I have been holding all this in since you left. I have tried and thought that I shouldn't say anything bad about Tony. But you know Danielle i am really mad at him. He took my baby girl away. She is gone and I want her back. I long for the day when she will come home and will accept the Lord and her family. I long for the day when we can talk openly once again with no barriers. To listen to your dreams and the aspirations that you have in your life. To hear you speak of your God. The God that you loved so much and worshiped so proudly. Satan has got you now. He is so happy and that is why you have all the stress in your life. He is the author of confusion and destruction. He wants us to be torn apart.
     
    Danielle I have to draw the line in the sand and say that if this relationship is going to go on you have to make some changes. The huge chip on your shoulder has to be dropped. The anger towards me has to go. And most of all you need to accept God back into your life. I will not serve two masters. I only serve the true and living God from above. He is my master. I love you so much and prayer for your soul often. I don't want to cut you off but I won't be abused by you.
     
    I will pay the bills this month. Which includes the car insurance due this month and then one more cell phone bill at the beginning of Oct. After that I won't pay anymore. You have to stand up and take charge of your life. Be an adult that you seem to so desperately want.
     
    Things don't have to stay this way. My door is always open to you but you have to come back the right way. God's way. I could accept Tony if he changed his ways and beliefs. I won't accept either of you if you are still living together in sin.
     
    I will contact you one more time regarding the bill arrangement and then it is up to you. You will have to seek me out for a relationship. You will have to want a relationship with me. I am done being your hurt. Danielle the day you claimed to not believe in God anymore was the worst day of your life as well as my life. The sadness is still fresh on my heart. I am sure that when you are alone with your thoughts you know it was a sad day for you too. That is if you are really being honest with yourself.
     
    The bible says:
    Seek first the things of righteousness and all these things will be added unto you.
     
    When you seek God first he will take care of "everything". Not just some things but all things. We have no worry. No fears. Only peace that comes from above.
     
    Now my door is open to you any time of the day to study this with you ... to study the scripture, to pray with you and for you. This also includes Tony as well. My door will always be open to you where ever I live and where ever you live. I love you very very much and that will never change. That is why this is so hard because I do love you and care for your soul. Please think on these things.
     
    Love in Christ,
    Mom
     
    Needless to say Tony was ugh, and Danielle was a mess, and I was like... grrr!
     
    So Tony writes Danielle's mom a reply....
     
    Dear [Danielle's Mom],
     
    I have now read through the email you sent Danielle for the second time. Please excuse any errors you may find in this response. As I type these first words, it is already past 2:00 AM. You see, I was up late tonight working on an essay that is due in 10 hours. I would have finished earlier had I not been comforting your daughter.
     
    I have held true to my own beliefs until this point, but I, like you, feel that I must express myself now. Let me first start by saying that the thing I hate most in this world is ignorance. I am a firm believer that you should accept and respect other people
  3. viv
    So, you always read those stories... the ones that end in 'and that's how I knew I was gay'.
     
    Forgive me for what I'm about to do... but it's 2 am and Rich is STILL at work, for the second time tonight, and I'm hanging out with Steve and his boys and feeling... giggly.
     
    I remember being 12 and seeing this and just losing my mind. I'm pretty sure I would have had no idea what to do with one of these... but I knew I wanted it and so... this is my 'and that's how I knew I was straight' story.
     
    How I knew I was straight
     
    Strange things happened in 1989... what can I say? We wore huge hoop earrings, stirrup pants, had huge bangs, wore a ton of jelly bracelets, and... loved these guys. Odd phenomena...
     
    Hugs,
    Viv
  4. viv
    It's not often that the people in Hollywood use their accelerated public status for good and not evil, nor do we frequently hear about their campaigns to help people instead of who they had an affair with this month, but I saw this today, and thank God, I'm not the only one thinking these things.
     

     
    I'm not often super political and I'm very 'live and let live' but when it comes to the country we live in and the future we're creating for ourselves and our kids and their kids... but holy crap! I won't vote for her just cause she's a woman, just as I hope no one else will, nor will I vote for someone purely based on their political party or race. That's not the type of country I want to live in, one founded on discrimination and prejudices.
     
    Anyway, that's it...
    Viv
  5. viv
    I don't even know where to start... hence the dizziness. It's like when they say... I have good news and bad news, which would you like first? I always say bad... is that weird?
     
    Anyway, so there is this amazing lady I used to work with, Sydney. She was always so nice and friendly, and had worked in my store for, God, thirty years maybe? Anyway, a few years back, she found out she had Stage 4 breast cancer, the same thing her mom died from. She immediately started chemo and the mass amounts of medications. She had her breast removed and a piece of plastic put under her skin to stretch her skin to make room for an implant. She wore wigs every day to work, sucked on mints all the time because her mouth was so dry even though she couldn't actually taste them, wondered when her fingernails would be anything but brittle bits clinging to her skin. She made it through chemo, and came back to work, and then her cancer came back again. She went back into chemo, trying to hang on until her youngest son graduates high school, and was basically forced into retiring because she was missing so much work. Over this Labor Day weekend, her oldest son was killed in a motorcycle accident while she battles to survive.
     
    I'm not sure how much one family needs, but Jesus! I always feel like I've been through so much, lost so much, that I've worked and pushed and survived to be what and who I am today, and then I hear something like this and it just reminds me that life is short and not to be taken for granted. Be honest, love people for the short amount of time you have to love them, help people to be happy, lift them up instead of pushing them down. So, Gregg Scott... may you find happiness on the other side.
     
    Besides that, I've edited three amazing pieces of writing in the last two weeks and not really written anything myself, but hey... a contribution is a contribution. One is up for you to read now, Dreams & Clipped Wings: Chapter 8 by Shadowgod, and the other two are anthology entries which should be up soon. One by a surprise newcomer!!
     
    Also, a new chapter of this amazing story I've been hooked on forever is up! The Good Doctor by Terry Audette THINK OF ENGLAND!!!
     
    Also, at work the other day, I was in the checkstand, and I had all this money to put in the safe, but I couldn't get out cause it was craziness with the customers and the holiday, so I called Maria over to take it for me. She was standing there to my left waiting while I finished with the customer I was helping and talking to the bag boy to her left, while I was talking to the customer on my right. We both turned to give each other something at the same time and ended up face to face, and I said, "Oh, wow, sorry," and she said, "Oh, oops," and then the bag boy says, "Awwwww man, that would have been AWESOME!" I'm pretty sure Maria didn't understand what he meant, she's pretty naive when it comes to things like that, but I went back to talking to the customer and then the bag boy tells her, "I'm gonna be thinking about that later." OMFG did he really just say that to his boss?!
     
    Later when I was telling Rich what happened, he said, "What?! The closest you're ever gonna get to that, and I missed it?!!"
     
    Oh, so I made a Viv's Stories group on Facebook... whee!
     
    Anyway, I'm off to lose myself in some story.
     
    Hugs,
    Viv
  6. viv
    So I saw this the other day, and several of these are actally quite accutate, anyway it was amusing in some ways and horrifying in others... check it out, dude!
     
    I am a "CALIFORNIAN." That means that.........
     
    -Texting while driving is becoming a Major issue... YES!
     
    -We can Surf, Skate, Dirt Bike Ride, and Snow Board, then hit up mexico, LA, and OC all in the same day, and then go to Disneyland... We can, but since we're so close to everything, there's no rush. No actual Californian would do any more than three of these in a single day.
     
    -It takes 45 minutes to go 11 miles, during most of the day... Definitely when I'm trying to get to work by 6pm...
     
    -We have perfect weather, all year long baby... MMhmm, and yet, it's the thing we all whine about the most, that is, until the price of gas went up.
     
    -We smoke the best weed, and that shit you smoke isnt really marijuana, trust me... NO IDEA.
     
    -I hate cops... I don't, actually. I just hate that they're never there when you do need them, and always there when you don't want them to be. Also, they slow traffic down!
     
    -We are the plastic surgery capital of the world... SO FAKE! Probably the biggest thing I hate about California, for the record.
     
    -I live next door to Mexicans... It's true! I do... this one 3 bedroom house has 2 families, with about 6 kids, living in it.
     
    -Our chicks are WAYYYY hotter than yours... DUH!
     
    - I say "like" and "for sure" and "right on" and "dude" and "totally" and "peace" and "chill" and "tight" and "bro" and "hell of" and "hella"(Nor Cal only) and "faded" and "stoked" and "fo sho" and I say them often... I like totally say right on and like to chill when I've had a hell of a day, and I'm stoked when I find faded jeans on sale, but the only time I use bro is when I'm too lazy to type 'ther' after it. I certainly don't say fo sho, and peace and chill are so last decade!
     
    - I know what real cheese & avocados taste like... OMG YES! and I eat them often! YUMM!
     
    -All the porn you watch is made here, cause we f**K better and thats how it is... HAH!
     
    - I don't get snowdays off because theres only snow in Mammoth, Tahoe, Shasta, and Big Bear... Uhh no snow days, no rain days, but we do, on occasion, take 'it's waaaaaaaaaaay too pretty to be stuck inside at work all day, so I think I might be feeling a little cough coming on' days.
     
    - I can wear sandals all year long... and I do! And I whine about the rain cause then they get wet, and I have a tan line from my sandals!
     
    - I go to the Beach - not "down to the shore"... right?!
     
    - I know 65 mph really means 80 mph... At least! But not when going 11 miles takes 45 minutes... do the math folks.
     
    - When someone cuts me off, they get the horn and the finger and high speed chase cuz we dont f**K around on the road... If Rich is driving, yeah. If I'm driving and someone cuts me off, somehow *I* get the horn and the finger!
     
    - The drinking age is 21 but everyone starts at 14 (legally 18 if you live close enough to the border)... Guilty.
     
    - My governor can kick your governors ass... HAHA and he'll be back!
     
    -You judge people based on what area code they live in... I try not to judge anyone, but I'll admit I have been known to raise an eyebrow or two based on this.
     
    - When I'm on vacation in their state, and they find out I'm from California I turn into a Greek GODDESS... OMG YES! HAHA!
     
    - We don't stop at stop signs... we do a "california roll" No cop no stop baby!... I actually do stop, amazingly. I already speed daily, no need to add any more risk to getting a ticket from the cop who is always where I don't want him.
     
    - I can get fresh and REAL Mexican food 24 hours a day... Mmhmm! And this does not include Del Taco or Taco Bell for the record.
     
    - All the TV shows you "other" states watch get filmed here... And Rich makes ice sculptures to be in them.
     
    -We're the Golden State. Not the Cheese State. Not the Garden State.....GOLDEN!!! Yeah baby...
     
    - I have the most representation in the House of Representatives, which means MY opinion means more than yours, which means I'm better than you... HAHA! If only. That would be awesome, cause at least I have a brain and could use that power for good and not evil.
     
    - The best athletes come from here... MAYBE?
     
    -Our monthly house payments exceed your annual income... Quite possibly.
     
    -We drive next to a Rolls Royce and don't notice... Mostly true.
     
    -We don't know anyone's phone number unless you check your cell phone... For most people I encounter, this is true... I, on the other hand, have a knack for remembering numbers so I can probably tell you the address and phone number for anyone in my phone book.
     
    -We begin to "lie" to our friends about how close we are when you know damn well that it'll take you at least an hour to get there... I don't, cause I HATE being late... but yeah, I've seen it happen.
     
    -We drive to your neighborhood block party... LAME! And who has block parties anymore anyway?
     
    -In the "winter", we can go to the beach and ski at Big Bear on the same day... Again, we *could* but who would?
     
    -We eat a different ethnic food for every meal... Usually.
     
    -If our destination is more than 5 minutes away on foot, you're definitely driving... Not me, usually. I actually LIKE walking, but... typically, this is true of Californians.
     
    -Calling our neighbors requires knowing their area code... MMhmm, yay for MORE numbers to remember.
     
    -We know what In N Out is and feel bad for all the other states because they don't have any... Okay, I totally have a story for this. I've lived here my ENTIRE life, and the first time I had In N Out was like... two years ago... and it's not that great. It's like homemade burgers.
     
    -We really can never be too rich or too thin or too tan... Uhh, I could probably stand to be more of all of those, but I don't have a complex about any of them.
     
    -We've partied in Tijuana at least 3 times... You don't remember at least 1 of them... Actually, I've never been! Sort of afraid to go!
     
    -We go to a tanning salon before going to the beach... Also, never been and afraid to go!
     
    -We eat pineapple on pizza... YES! Unless I'm with Steve and then NOOOOOOOOOO!
     
    -Our cell phones have left a permanent impression on the side of your head... Used to, but with the new hands free driving law... we're back to normal now.
     
    -We think that Venice is a beach... Well, those of us that spend too much time in tanning booths and have replaced much of our body mass with fake plastic, maybe... but I'm definitely looking forward to seeing Venice, Italy someday.
     
    -The waitress asks if we'd like "carbs" in your meal... They do not
     
    -We call 911 and they put us on hold... It's happened to me before! Or it's been busy when I call!
     
    -The gym is packed at 3pm ... on a workday... I suppose if I went to a gym, then I wouldn't have to worry about being thinner.
     
    -We know that if you drive two miles in any direction we will find a McDonald's or a Starbucks... I actually know of a few places where you could be at a Starbucks and drive 1,000 feet and be at another, and only a Callifornian would actually drive those 1,000 feet!
     
    -We know what "sigalert", "PCH", and "the five" mean... I do! And having the first with either of the other two is a BAD DAY!
     
    -It's barely sprinkling rain and there's a report on every news station: "STORM WATCH"... HAHA! OMG TOTALLY!
     
    -And best of all.......... our beaches are polluted, our air is full of smog, crime rates are up, school grades are down, we are over populated, we are living on a major fault line, and the best part is......no one gives a f**K, LETS PARTY... which may be part of the reason I'm considering moving east!
     
    Hugs, Viv
  7. viv
    So, I'm sitting here this morning and my Sweetie messages me from his snazzy new cell phone. He's away on a business trip and when he travels we resort to any means necessary to communicate, even if it means getting himself invited over to an employees house for a beer and stealing their internet
     
    So he messgaes to say hello and to tell me his tinyplane landed safely, but not before plunging 500 feet and giving him a severe headache Anyway, we're talking and then all of a sudden my cell phone rings and it's him So he's like... are you near your computer? OF COURSE! SO he tells me he needs directions, some of his collegues are apparently lost in Glasgow somewhere and can't get to him. So we look it up, thank you Google Maps, but it was more amusing to me that he was like.. gee, I need directions, let me call AMERICA and ask the one girl who is ALWAYS getitng lost.
     
    Anyway, it was good to hear his voice, and the 'I love you' at the end always makes it worthwhile
     
    A while later I was sitting here and had just told Steve the above story and we were giggling and Dave messages me again to say goodnight, and I said that makes me the luckiest girl in America!
     
    So, safe flight back home Sweetie! I love you, too!
     
    Hugs,
    Viv
     
    PS. It would be EXTREMELY nice if certain people quit pissing off people I love which in turn pisses me off... that is all
  8. viv
    UGH! I had a HELLUVA week at work... I may have mostly recovered now. Although, I'm still trying to figure out if dealing with crappy people is part of what I get paid for, and if those crappy people should include my coworkers. Luckily, most of the people I work with don't suck too bad, and I have some great friends there.
     
    Let's see if I can sum up my week... Someone dumped several live catfish in our parking lot and all the stray cats in the area came to feast on their flopping around bodies, a customer who claimed she didn't get all her items last time she shopped gave me her receipt and when I reviewed the video tape of her transaction at the self-sheckout, she took all her items and left, so I had to go out and nicely call her a liar, and then she said that she stood over at our customer service booth next to her basket for forty minutes and apparently someone came by and stole a bag right out from under her nose, got proposed to again by the drunk guy, and as usual, I said I couldn't marry him since I already have a husband who wouldn't likely be too pleased about that idea, and then he suggested that I might just need to consider what it could be like with two of them and all I could think to say was... Goodbye. One of my pals from work got suspended for taking an extended break, some woman called to say she bought a rotisserie chicken and it wasn't cooked all the way through, turns out her daughter works for the health department and is friends with the food safety regional manager of our company, and then there was the lady we had to call mall security and the sherrif's department to have removed from the premises for soliciting money, but only after she accused me of discriminating against her based on color. Sitting in the manager's meeting for the week, I go over the safety items I am responsible for, and my boss is saying that the quarter is ending in two weeks and basically we need every dollar we can get, so everyone please maximize the sales while using minimal labor, and let's all be careful with the needless accidents and things breaking (basically his bonus is rapidly disappearing). He starts to cover the Labor Day ad, and then someone calls me out of the meeting because someone cut her hand with a box cutter...
     
     
    So I saw this move, Shelter, it was awesome. A really good story... the whole thing is on youtube too! That makes it easy to watch. Shelter
     
    Also, I decided that Ryan Lochte is the hottest US swimmer these olympics. Then I confirmed that with a few boys I know... Trevor at work tried to go the Michael Phelps route, but not even close... I don't care how many gold medals you have, they don't make you good looking. Picture
     
     
    I saw this on myspace and found it rather... accurate, I guess, but then I suppose it's true also for any couple.
     
    We don't care if you talk to other guys.
     
    We don't care if you're friends with other guys.
     
    But when you're sitting next to us, and some random guy walks into the room and you jump up and tackle him, without even introducing us, yeah, it pisses us off. (I've done this, tis true) *blush*
     
    It doesn't help if you sit there and talk to him for ten minutes without even acknowledging the fact that we're still there.
     
    We don't care if a guy calls >OR TEXTS< you, but at 2 in the morning we do get a little concerned.
     
    Nothing is that important at 2 a.m. that it can't wait till the morning.
     
     
    Also, when we tell you you're pretty/ beautiful/ gorgeous/cute/ stunning, we freaking mean it.
     
    Don't tell us we're wrong.
     
    We'll stop trying to convince you.
     
    The sexiest thing about a girl is confidence.
     
    Yeah, you can quote me.
     
     
    Don't be mad when we hold the door open. Take advantage of the mood I'm in.
     
    Let us pay for you! Dont "feel bad".
     
    We enjoy doing it.
     
    It's expected.
     
    Smile and say "thank you".
     
    Kiss us when no one's watching.
     
    If you kiss us when you know somebody's looking, we'll be more impressed.
     
     
     
    You don't have to get dressed up for us.
     
    If we're going out with you in the first place, you don't have to feel the need to wear the shortest skirt you have or put on every kind of makeup you own.
     
    We like you for who you are and not what you are.
     
    Honestly, I think a girl looks more beautiful when she's just in her pj's, or myt-shirt and boxers, not all dolled up. (Makes me the most beautiful girl in the world! )
     
     
    Don't take everything we say seriously.
     
    Sarcasm is a beautiful thing. See the beauty in it.
     
    Don't get angry easily.
     
     
    Stop using magazines/media as your bible.
     
    Don't talk about how hott Chris Brown, Brad Pitt, or Jesse McCartney is in front of us.
     
    It's boring, and we don't care. You have girlfriends for that.
     
     
    Whatever happened to the word "handsome"/"beautiful"?
     
    I'd be utterly stunned by a girl who greeted me with "Hey handsome!" instead of "Hey baby/ stud/ cutie/ sexy" or whatever else you can think of.
     
    On the other hand I'm not saying I wouldn't like it ether.
     
     
    Girls, I cannot stress this enough: if you aren't being treated right by a guy, dont wait for him to change.
     
    Ditch his sorry butt, disgrace to the male population and find someone who will treat you with utter respect.
     
    Someone who will honor your morals.
     
    Someone who will make you smile when you're at your lowest.
     
    Someone who will care for you even when you make mistakes.
     
    Someone who will love you, no matter how bad you make them feel.
     
    Someone who will stop what they're doing just to look you in the eyes....and say "I love you" ..and actually mean it.
     
    Give the nice guys a chance.
     
     
    *Holding Hands*
    Girls :If you want to hold his hand, gently bump into it a couple of times.
    Guys : Grab it if it happens more than once.
     
    *Cuddling*
    Girls : When you want to cuddle with him, tell him you're cold.
    Guys : Automatically move closer to her.
     
     
    *Movies*
    Girls : During a movie, if he puts his arm around you, tilt your head on his shoulder.
    Guys : Lift her chin up and kiss her.
     
     
    *Loving each other*
    Guys : When she tells you she loves you, look deep into her eyes, give her a peck on the lips, and tell her you love her
    too... And mean it.
     
     
    *Lying below the stars*
    Girls : When you're both lying under the stars, put your head on his chest and close your eyes as you listen to his steady heart beat
    Guys : Whisper in her ear and link your hands with hers.
     
    Hugs,
    Viv
  9. viv
    Vivian says:
    omg did i tell you about the HUGE moth in the house?
    Friend:
    are you scared of moths?
    Vivian says:
    well, not scared in the sense of real fear, just ewwwwwwwwwwww
    Vivian says:
    but i'm not even exagerrating when i tell you it is the size of a bird
    Friend:
    jesus tapdancing christ
    Vivian says:
    HAHA! wait, it gets sooo much better
    Vivian says:
    so years ago one was in the house one night and rich wasn't here
    Vivian says:
    and i had to catch it in a cup and put it outside and i'm still not over it
    Vivian says:
    and this morning i went out to the kitchen with matty to get him some cereal and i see this thing sitting on the curtain in the dining room and i'm like holy ahhhhhhhhhh!
    Vivian says:
    and danielle walks up at the same time and the two of us are like ahhhhhhhhh! TONY!!!!!
    Vivian says:
    but he totally doesn't come get rid of it
    Friend:
    haha like "omg it's back after all these years"
    Vivian says:
    and then hours later i go out there and annemarie has caught it in a GIANT glass and is taking it outside cause zoey found it!
    Vivian says:
    and i think she's like trying to hunt it or something!
    Friend:
    how rude
    Vivian says:
    so she sort of flings it out of the cup hoping it will fly away and it sort of just falls to the ground like it can't fly well anymore cause the kitten hurt its wings
    Vivian says:
    so then rich is talking to me from work
    Vivian says:
    and i'm like OMFG
    Vivian says:
    HUGE BIRD MOTH MAN!!!
    Vivian says:
    and he's like LOL i saw that this morning
    Vivian says:
    and i'm like
    Vivian says:

    Vivian says:

    Vivian says:
    and you just LEFT IT THERE!?
    Vivian says:
    and he's like LOL i didn't have time to move it
    Vivian says:
    so he comes home for lunch and i sit with my back to the door annemarie went out to put it outside
    Friend:
    haha lol omg
    Vivian says:
    and jokingly i tell rich he has to watch my back cause i can just imagine the thing with a cast and crutches like pawing it's way back inside!
    Vivian says:
    and he laughs at me and then a while later, i look over and there it is on the floor! half a wing and sort of wiggling around!
    Friend:
    omg
    Vivian says:
    so i'm like AHHHHHHHHHHHH!
    Friend:
    maybe it just likes you very much
    Vivian says:
    and so rich gets a paper towel and goes to pick it up and take it to the trash can (but only after he does some lame trick like the thing is trying to fly away and he has to hold on to it while it spins him around)
    Vivian says:
    and i'm like RICHARD!!!! and my blood pressure is out of control now
    Vivian says:
    and then i ask him if he killed it and he says no
    Friend:
    omg
    Vivian says:
    and i'm like
    Vivian says:
    i can just imagine it climbing out of the trash can all darth vader style with a celery helmet!!!!!!!
    Friend:
    omfg i loled so f**king loud
    Vivian says:
    haha i know but ahhhhhhhhh!
    Vivian says:
    it's funnier if you imagine the breathing too!
    Friend:
    yeah... like you hear that scary breathing before it crawls out the can and you wonder what the hell is that?
    Vivian says:
    FUUUUUUUUCK that
     
    Like I said... SCARINESS!! Also, I was rereading this as I was posting it and laughing hysterically and Rich was looking at me like I was full of CRAZINESS!! He totally rolled his eyes at me... pfft! Bug leaver-there-er!
     
    So yeah, we had quite a big earth shake yesterday here. 5.8 on the Richter scale they say. I was at work when it happened and holy crap, the store was a mad disaster, but at least no one got hurt. Anyway, we're totally fine, house is fine, we just got jumbled around a bit. Thanks for all the messages hoping I was fine... love you guys!
     
    Hugs,
    Viv
     
    PS. I totally just found out that PATD will be back in Southern California in October!!!
  10. viv
    Rich showed me this earlier and I was totally crying... it was SO... ugh, amazing and touching. The Lion Story
     
    Also, the other day he showed me this and I was hysterical... you should totally be allowed to sort things by penis... just saying! IT Guy vs. Dumb Employee In honor of my favorite IT Angel and Darlin!
     
    Hugs,
    Viv
  11. viv
    HAVE A PENIS! HOLY EFF!
     
    So, it's Rich's birthday today! Funny story... I brought home stuff to make him a birthday cake, German Chocolate, cause I have mad skills like that, and he totally didn't know, so after I got home from work, I baked it and while it was cooling, I took a shower and chatted some with my Angel, and then I went to put the icing on it. I'm working away furiously with my spatula and some coconut pecan icing and of course my cell phone rings, so I tell my daughter to answer it, and it's Rich. I hear her very carefully omit where I am or what I'm doing and just say, "Yeah, hang on, I'll get Mom." All fine, UNTIL... she hands the phone to Matty who I hear say, "Oh hey Dad, yeah, Mom's in the kitchen making your SUPER SECRET BIRTHDAY CAAAAAAAAKE!"
     
    UGH, REALLY?
     
    So, I get on the phone and we are laughing at him but totally avoid the obvious cat-that-has-been-let-out-of-the-bag and he says instead that he is on his way home from work. So when he walks in the door, Matty says, "Oh hi Dad, ready to see your SECRET BIRTHDAY CAKE IN THE KITCHEN?" :wacko:
     
    In other news, now that same-sex couples are getting married here in California, Rich has made several ice bars and luges for some weddings, and this weekend is apparently Pride weekend in San Diego and so Rich has 2 four foot penises... peni?? to make for that. He said he's gonna model them after himself...
     
    So I promised to help a brother (in-law) out... literally. Any D&D, RPG players out there? Oh come on, I know you're out there... Mad amounts of you guys spend hours playing this stuff just like Rich does. Anyway, they have a site up now where you can find play-by-post games, a functional 3.5 and 4.0 D&D character sheet, podcasts of their game they play every weekend, discussion forums, articles, guys to chat with, Rich is there daily, etc... My DnD Game Anyhoodle, totally go check it out, chat around with the nerdy boys there that I love, listen to Rich and his friends be huge gigantic geeks, and I say that with all the love I posess, seriously.
     
    OMG in still other news!!! I wrote a whole page of UTBOS tonight... we'll see how that goes, but I've been utterly distracted with the kids home for the summer and what not... Anyway, thanks for being patient with me I love you guys for sticking by me.
     
    Hugs and birthday spankings for Rich
    Viv
  12. viv
    Are you tan?
    I have more tan lines in different places and shapes... I even have a flip-flop tan line...
     
    Do you use proactive?
    Nope, thankfully I have fairly nice skin and always have.
     
    Do you own chanel perfume?
    NO! I own Romance by Ralph Lauren which I rarely wear, and a bunch of Victoria Secret stuff, but the one I wear most is called Pure Seduction.
     
    Do you shower daily?
    Mmhmm, sometimes twice.
     
    Do you go to the tanning bed?
    NEVER! I think that's like scary and totally pitiful if you live where I do.
     
    Do you wear nail polish?
    Clear, cause my nails suck! They break all the time so I only wear that for strength. My nails are totally un-buff.
     
    Do you use MAC make-up?
    Hell NO!
     
    Do you straighten your hair everyday?
    Nope, once a year for a large sum of money that makes it so I don't have to do it daily.
     
    FRIENDS
     
    Name all your best friends:
    Ugh, no? You know if you are...
     
    Is the term Best Friends a label or promise?
    I think it's a relationship and a commitment. I try not to label anything...
     
    Do you have more than 1 TRUE best friend?
    Yeah... Best implies a higher stature than others I guess... but I think it's pluralistic. (I made that up...)
     
    Do you hang out with your friends every day?
    I try to, one way or another.
     
    What is the longest you have been in a fight with your bff?
    Umm, well we don't fight. Sometimes we get bitchy or snarky, but we don't fight. It's not like we can have make-up sex so really, what's the point?
     
    Is it easier to talk to your girl friends or guy friends?
    GUYS! Always has been that way for me.
     
    Would you ever date one of your close guy friends?
    You mean, if I was single and able to date? Sure! I have great friends!
     
    FASHION/STYLE
     
    Do you have style and originality?
    Umm... you tell me? I'm all about comfort usually.
     
    Do you own a designer handbag?
    Uh, no. I have one, and I don't switch it depending on what I'm wearing... (unless I'm getting totally dressed up for something and I have to.)
     
    Do you own something from Lacoste?
    Err... no.
     
    Do or did you wear leggings?
    Come on, I grew up in the '80's... requirement, hello?
     
    Is the color you'll never wear yellow?
    Uhh, no. The color I like to wear the least is red... just cause my skin ends up looking a weird color when I do. We like yellow, but mostly I wear black, gray, white, etc...
     
    Do you get fashion tips from magazines?
    If by tips you mean what not to do... sure.
     
    Do you shop at Abercrombie and Hollister?
    Not usually, but it's fun to walk by.
     
    Do you wear sweats a lot?
    Negative... but I do wear jammies and boxers often.
     
    TV/MOVIE
     
    Are you a movie freak?
    Umm, I like them, but freak? I think I don't qualify for that title.
     
    Have you seen over 10 movies in the past month?
    Not likely.
     
     
    Do you have a show that you must watch?
    Umm, not really. I usually only watch TV when we go to bed cause Rich HAS to have it on or something weird. And then it's like... something silly. The Soup or America's Best Dance Crew or some silly dating show on MTV or something.
     
    Do you watch The Hills on MTV?
    HELL NO!
     
    Have you ever seen an episode of Grey's Anatomy?
    No, I totally can't keep the McSteamy Dreamy thing straight.
     
    What is your favorite G Rated movie?
    Hmmmm, well, I love Finding Nemo and Beauty and the Beast the best I guess.
     
    Do you like classic movies?
    Some... Like, The Sound of Music. Grease. I suppose it depends who you ask and what makes a movie a classic.
     
    Do you watch 30 or more hours of tv a week?
    NO! I prefer to spend my time in bed doing other things.
     
    Do you own over 100 dvds?
    Nope, I don't think so anyway.
     
    Is Law And Order awesome?
    Usually, I especially like the one with the dad from Dirty Dancing as a detective. Jerry something-or-other.
     
    SPORTS
     
    Do you watch baseball on tv?
    On ocassion.
     
    Who's your favorite baseball player?
    Hmm, JT Snow or Troy Glaus. (No skill involved here... sad, I know)
     
    Do you play basketball?
    If you mean regularly, no. I have, I was on the team in the 8th grade until everyone else grew tall and I stayed the same height. Now I stick to HORSE... lame.
     
    Do you watch it on tv?
    On ocassion.
     
    Do you swim?
    Not as much as I'd like... I LOVE TO SWIM!
     
    Last time you were in a pool?
    Waaaaaaaaaay too long ago
     
    Are you good at volleyball?
    Sometimes... again, it's a height challenged thing.
     
    Is soccer cool?
    Uh, yes?
     
    Do you like to run?
    Umm, danger! Probably not the best choice of sport for someone who's... uhh... built like me.
     
    Are you in shape?
    I definitely have shape...
     
    Favorite sports team?
    So, I just asked Rich..."Do I have a favorite sports team?" and the answer is... "I don't think so."
     
    Last sporting event you attended?
    Tony's high school Varsity Football Games?
     
    MUSIC
     
    Do you like all types of music?
    Not really...
     
    What about rap?
    Nope.
     
    Have you been to more than 5 concerts?
    *counts* Paula Abdul and Color Me Badd... Beach Boys with John Stamos and Wilson Phillips showed up for a song... Bon Jovi and Extreme... Lynard Skynard... NOPE only four.
     
    Do you like Panic at the Disco?
    I swear I didn't change this, and HELL YES! SO much!
     
    Are you constantly downloading music?
    In between constantly listening to it and singing it, yep.
     
    Favorite Rock band?
    Panic at the Disco currently.
     
    Favorite local band?
    Hmm, if Vegas counts as local, then see above.
     
    What is the current song on your myspace page?
    I don't have any music on there... as it is I had to beg Joey to help me get it working right. (Thanks P-fat!~)
     
    FAMILY
     
    Do you have more than 1 sibling?
    Yep, 3 actually.
     
    Are you closer to your mom or dad?
    They are both equally the same distance from me...
     
    Do you like your living arangements?
    Mostly?
     
    Do you wish you could move?
    Lately, totally. We probably will.
     
    Do your grandparents spoil you?
    That's a nope... all deceased for years now.
     
    Do you have any step parents or siblings?
    No.
     
    How many cousins do you have?
    2
     
    Which of your relatives lives the farthest away, and where?
    All of them are on the east coast or rigth next to me...
     
     
     
    So that's it. Additionally, I have a question to include.
     
    When it's your birthday and you blow out the candles... do you actually make a wish? I totally do!
     
    Hugs, Viv
     
    OH!
     
    PS!! There is a certain someone I know and love that has been thrust into some total shit recently thanks to an uproarish type disturbance that took place here not too long ago, and I just want to tell you all that whatever misconceptions or opinions you might have... please don't judge people based on second-hand information that other people throw out there as their last line of self-defense when they're drowning in their own cesspool of crap. This man is one of the best people I know, and between all he gives of himself DAILY and the amount of emotion he drudges up and mucks through just so he can share it with us all, because he's that kind of guy and wants to help people, make them understand that they aren't alone and that they will always have someone to talk to, who will listen to them and understand, not judge them, and hug them... All I'm saying is... let's show him some support, even a fraction of what he shows us each and every day... he totally deserves it! Thanks for everything you do, Love... I happen to know you're amazing, and I love ya, babe! Just be yourself, okay? That's the person I know this world needs.
  13. viv
    but I was spending the week with an angel...
     
    Monday: I ran around like crazy, grocery shopping and recycling, doing more laundry than any one person should ever have to do, and then I showered and went to work where I was thankful I had something to occupy my time because I knew Jeff was on a plane flying west and I'd be hugging him in just a few hours. I had to work until 11 that night so the plan was that he would come from the airport to my store and then follow me home. Needless to say, the front end of my store saw MUCH HUGGING somewhere around 11:15 pm. He followed me home, I used my turn signals and everything! We hung out a little, but by then it was already like three a.m. his time and after the mad amount of chores I'd done that morning we all agreed on bed.
     
    Tuesday: We had Apple Jacks with Matty who was all nonchalant, walking into the kitchen and finding a strange man hanging out with his mom. "Oh, hey Jeff." I took a shower, he took a shower, persuaded the children to get dressed. Rich came home for lunch and I managed to lure Tony out of bed with the promise of spaghetti for lunch. We ate, Rich went back to work, and then we piled in the convertible and drove to The Block. First stop: Jamba Juice! Ron Jon's Surfshop, Tilly's, Vans skatepark and a quest for some shoes... apparently Jeff has a very popular foot size because every style he wanted, they didn't have in his size. They closed the pet store, and when I suggested the book store, Annemarie was adament when she declared, "NO!" Instead, we procured a dozen glazed Krispy Kreme donuts and dropped in on Rich to surprise him and give Jeff a tour of the Ice Carving business. Drove home, thankful for a break from the heat in the freezers, and hung out till dinner time. Chicken Enchiladas and rice and seven of us fitting amazingly around a table made for six. I got a slight sunburn in our thirty minutes of top-down travel, and I'm the native... what's that about? Shared some ridiculously yummy frozen yogurt Danielle brought home for us from work! Tenacious D and the Pick of Destiny! I forgot that I promised myself that if I ever sat through that movie again, that I would count how many times they use the word 'f**K', until it was too late.
     
    Wednesday: We headed out about 8:30 a.m. for Encinitas and some family togetherness with his West Coast relatives. We were cruising along, wind in our hair, and then we got closer to the coast and pulled over for food, hot drinks, sweatshirts, and to put the top up. WIMPS! We arrived, there was hugging, a GINORMOUS pumpkin his uncle is growing that weighs more than Jeff currently, along with a vast array of other yummy, edible type things being grown. We met his uncle and cousin in La Jolla for lunch and had sandwiches on the beach before asking some poor, unsuspecting student to forget his homework and take our picture. His aunt drove us around sightseeing and we found out our families have a ridiculous amount in common, small world. We went back to his aunt's house and played with her snazzy Mac, talked his aunt into trading in her mini-van for a ride with the top down and went in search of some crazy-good hot cocoa mix from two different chocolatier's and tasted some amazing gelatto. Cruised home, made some dinner, and pretended we were chilling... except it was hot.
     
    Thursday: We drove to Orange to acquire some bushings and a new VW symbol for Rich's bus, and I stayed in the car to lecture the crazy people in the back seat who took over my children's bodies... Drove on to Corona to a snazzy bike shop where Jeff didn't even buy anything, but I did, go figure. Then on to see Steve and have Jamba Juice, except Annemarie who thinks she is being an individual by having Starbucks instead. We headed for the mall there after Steve had to go back to work, and ate lunch, second attempt at shoe shopping, FAIL! Hung out in the music store instead playing gutars and keyboards and drums and things and then drove home. Rich and Jeff rolled around under his car for a while and got greasy together while I made dinner, and then some more after dinner, test drove the now operational again bus. Jeff cleaned up and we headed to my store to meet Garren and a few other people Jeff hears a lot about on our phone calls during my breaks, and to buy stuff to make salsa for the next day. Played around with Garren a bit, shopped, turned down repeated proposals to clock in and stay and work, and got the hell out of there Came home and made salsa, and spicy fingers. YUMM!
     
    Friday: Jeff and I got up early and went walking, like five or six miles, showed him around town, the kids schools, where I went to high school, etc. Went to another grocery store, and Jamba Juice for Rich who had, up until this point, missed out on all previous Jamba-ing and was pouting, and took one grumpy teenager to Starbucks as a form of bribery and mood lifting. Came home, cooked like crazy, family showed up for Fourth of July. Ate too much, my nephew totally attacked me with a water gun. I had the hose, and I think I still lost... Took the kids and went to the park, and while they played, we played Taboo! Tried to watch a few fireworks from the surrounding amusement parks and headed home.
     
    Saturday: Slept in, cleaned up my kitchen from the disaster that was the day before. Will picked up a hungover Steve at noon and they arrived here about one as expected. We piled into two cars to head for the beach which turned out to be an awful idea as far as beach going, but great for sights. Gave up after two parking lots were closed and went for pizza instead. Came back to my place and changed, went mini golfing, Rich won with Jeff a very close second. I think it was Matty's first time, but he did great! Annemarie was miserable and doing her very best to make everyone else miserable too since we 'murdered some love'. We went bowling, which was fun, sort of cosmic, dark with flashing lights and music, and I actually won! Will was right there behind me... YAY WILL! Then Will drove Steve home and we ate leftovers and talked with Tony while Rich took a turn 'murdering some love' which was interesting since Jeff always hears about all the meltdowns, so he had been waiting to see one, and she delivered.
     
    Sunday: Slept in again! Baked a chocolate birthday cake for a certain birthday boy, and then baked some chocolate-chip toffee cookies for him to take home, went out to some crazy mexican place and had HUGE burritos for lunch, and then to Shoe City for round three of shoe shopping, but we were successful this time. On to Downtown Disney for MORE Jamba Juice and some souvenier shopping for a certain boy. Jeff called some cute emo/punk guy a dummy and a mannequin-American We came back here and I slathered some chocolatey goodness on the previously mentioned cake, and then put some chocolate cake crumbs around the edge before Matty put some sprinkles all over the top. Took a nap, made some dinner, digested under the guise of a showering six year old, lit a LOT of candles and then there was wishing and blowing and singing and all kinds of chocolate lips and laughing and far too much sugar and hamster dancing and then lots of passing out. Jeff packed, I laced new shoes, and forced baked goods into his luggage for J2. We hugged, he slept, I tried, but was only slightly successful.
     
    Monday: Got up at four a.m. to hug him goodbye again and then went back to bed where I tried to sleep some more. Eh... Steve texted to check on me like every morning Jeff just texted to say he landed safely back at home and Rich showed up for lunch and decided I miss Jeff.
     
    Thanks for coming to visit and for EVERYTHING! I love you, Angel!
    Viv
  14. viv
    I have the same birthday as Lily... I finally like Kathleen. Almost done!
     
    I'd finish now, but I'm asleep already... Tomorrow.
     
    Hugs,
    Viv
     
    PS... Someone do me a favor and tell the sunshine to chill a little... over 100 degrees for too many days than I can count now. :wacko:
     
    PS2... (Not the gaming system, but another addition) 9 days until I have my angel next to me
  15. viv
    So Rich wanted to take the kids to see Kung-Fu Panda. We all pile in the car, he whines that I'm driving with his usual, "Whoa, whoa, whoa... I'll drive," and I just giggle cause I'm already getting in the car and he's too late. Mwahahahahaha!
     
    We drive to The Block, and since it's Friday night... there's officially zero parking in this GINORMOUS place which leads to me faithfully driving up and down every aisle looking for an empty space we can occupy and getitng frustrated TWICE by some motorcycle rider who takes up a whole space by himself while Rich grumbles about how they are almost forcing people into valet parking by sectioning off half the parking lot for that. Anyway, at some point I wise up and find some people who are leaving and go into stalker mode as I inch my car along behind them as they walk to theirs so I can take their soon-to-be-evicted parking space. I've got my turn signal on, and by this time the ladies we're stalking have figured out what we're doing and then I see it... another car coming the other direction and they also want the spot and put their turn signal on.
     
    It was like a showdown! I even heard the eerie music that always plays as you stare each other down. Well, the ladies get in their car and start to back out and have seen what's happening so they even back out and then stop in front of the other car to let me pull inot the space since I was there first and Rich is yelling at me, "GO! GO!" and then the other car pulls around the first car and halfway into the space as I'm going to pull in. Rich about had a coronary, and the kids are yelling, and I'm irritated, but I just drive away as Rich is flipping these other people off and I'm grabbing his hand like STOP THAT! Just cause they are assholes doesn't mean we need to be. So we drive around about three or four more minutes till I see someone backing out and we FINALLY park.
     
    Now, obviously these other people were TOTAL JERKS, and Rich is MAD and he's saying things that are beyond irrational and would never even consider doing as people do when they are upset...
     
    Anyway, there were a couple great lines in the movie....
     
    'There are no mistakes'
     
    'Wanna get something to eat?'
     
    Nighty!
    Viv
     
    PS. I got a few messages abotu how come UTBOS - Part 6 wasn't in the anthology that was just released... The answer is that the theme didn't fit the story. Hopefully I'll have it done soon and thanks for being patient with me.
  16. viv
    Mom and Dad were watching TV when Mom said, 'I'm tired, and it's getting late. I think I'll go to bed.'
     
    She went to the kitchen to make sandwiches for the next day's lunches.
     
    Rinsed out the popcorn bowls, took meat out of the freezer for supper the following evening, put spoons and bowls on the table and started the coffee pot for brewing the next morning.
     
    She then put some wet clothes in the dryer, put a load of clothes into the washer, ironed a shirt and secured a loose button.
     
    She picked up the game pieces left on the table, put the phone back on the charger, and put the telephone book into the drawer.
     
    She watered the plants, emptied a wastebasket, and hung up a towel to dry.
     
    She yawned and stretched and headed for the bedroom. She stopped by the desk and wrote a note to the teacher, counted out some cash for the field trip, and pulled a text book out from hiding under the chair.
     
    She signed a birthday card for a friend, addressed and stamped the envelope and wrote a quick note for the grocery store. She put both near her purse.
     
    Mom then washed her face, put on her age fighting moisturizer, brushed and flossed her teeth and filed her nails.
     
    Dad called out, 'I thought you were going to bed.'
     
    'I'm on my way,' she said.
     
    She put some water into the dog's dish and put the cat outside, then made sure the doors were locked and the patio light was on.
     
    She looked in on each of the kids and turned out their bedside lamps and TV's, hung up a shirt, threw some dirty socks into the hamper, and had a brief conversation with the one up still doing homework.
     
    In her own room, she set the alarm, laid out clothing for the next day, straightened up the shoe rack. She added three things to her 6 most important things to do list. She said her prayers, and visualized the accomplishment of her goals.
     
    About that time, Dad turned off the TV and announced to no one in particular, 'I'm going to bed.'
     
    And he did...without another thought.
     
    Night everyone!
    Viv
  17. viv
    ... how many questions he can come up with in a day. And sometimes they're random, and sometimes observant. Sometimes inquisitive and curious, and sometimes silly and sometimes asked with the intention of annoying me, but no matter the type or the cause, it seems he has an endless supply.
     
    Some of the more recent have been...
     
    Q: Why do chips come in a bag?
    A: To keep them fresh.
     
    Q: How do you make water?
    A: Uhh, I don't.
     
    Q: How is your beautiful-ness?
    A: My beautiful-ness?
     
    Q: What happens if I squeeze this ball inside here?
    A: It will hurt, now go put your pajamas on, please.
     
    Q: How come it's raining?
    A: I guess the clouds got too heavy carrying all that water around.
     
    Q: Which one is our car?
    A: Cause you forgot which one ours was in the few hours since I dropped you off at school?
     
    Q: Why is it called a jaw breaker?
    A: Because the candy is really hard and if you try and chew it, you could break your jaw...
     
    I love that he wants to know EVERYTHING... how things work, why things are the way they are, what will happen if. I wonder if, as he gets older, if the questsions will become more complicated, or just stop since he'll know the ways to find the answers himself.
     
     
    So, Mother's Day came and went, and one of the most entertaining parts, for me anyway, was that my son made a plan... written directions with illustrations to follow. He clearly got his dad's artistic ability... since I have none.

     
    The book Billy sent me arrived today! I read a little already, and it reminds me very much of something he wrote... should be an interesting read... thanks, Billy! If anyone is interested in reading along with us, the book is called Fall on your Knees, by Ann-Marie Macdonald.
     
    I went and saw Steve earlier today... it's FREAKING RAINING!!! at the end of May... in California! My flip-flops got wet, we Jamba'd, and I made sad faces at him since he's broken and won't let me fix him. Plus side... totally didn't get lost going there or coming back... and getting to snuggle him
     
    Rich is whining cause we're waiting to go see Indiana Jones on Saturday with Steve and he wants to go toniiiiiiiiiiiiiight! I told him repeatedly he could go with his friends tonight, but he's refusing... and to me that means he isn't allowed to whine since he chose it.
     
    So, I ended up in a store today looking for a present for someone, and looking like a complete girl and walking out again. It's gonna have to wait until I can consult someone with a penis... that's all there is to it.
     
    Hugs,
    Viv
  18. viv
    Alright, I suppose it's time for such a blog... After all, the running jokes are 'It's always about size with you guys' and 'I thought you said it was a good size'.
     
    Rich and I were just driving home and this commercial came on the radio that started out...
     
    "Does size matter? OF COURSE IT DOES!!! I lived with four girls in college and listened to them talking about men and their experiences, so I know, IT DOES MATTER! But it's not length they want, it's width and thickness, and now you can have that with new SCIENCE SHATTERING *name of drug here*"
     
    UGH! Can I just say... SO many things to say here...
     
    First of all... in case you all don't know, though I'm sure you do since you have your very own... dicks are cylindrical... or round... so wider and thicker means THE EXACT SAME THING!!! And... who is this guy to think he can go around SHATTERING science after hundreds of years of unmedicated penises... peni? And sheesh... if he's so great with SHATTERING science... please, use it for something that affects people in a way that I can support, like the cure for cancer, or HIV, or something.
     
    Also, stop making men who are perfectly equipped feel self concious about their bodies so that you can sell them some drug they don't need to screw up their bodies while you're already f**king with their minds... and as my angel pointed out... if you're a gay man, you have two orafices, orafi? that you can use to satisfy this penis... and at some point, enough is enough... and as a girl, I can tell you that we aren't bottomless pits so enough is DEFINITELY enough. Nuff said.
     
     
    So, I got SO MANY comments from you guys about the thing Tony wrote that I posted last blog, and first of all, thank you. I posted it so that maybe some people would understand a little more about me and what I find important in people and in life, and also to remember that life is short, and it's what you make it... That said, Tony and I had a conversation afterward that I thought I'd share with you since I mentioned that reading his version was pretty weird for me since I was there.
     
    Viv: psst...
     
    Tony: ?
     
    Viv: thanks for that
     
    Tony: oh, no problem
     
    Viv: it's pretty... interesting? reading what you remember when i was there
     
    Tony: yeah, ill be the first to tell you my memory isn
  19. viv
    So, the following is something that is intimately personal. Tony, my baby brother who isn't such a baby anymore at 21, wrote this for a writing class in college and I asked him if I could post it here because it was so special and means a lot to me.
     
    It's interesting reading his version of what happened when I was there living it too, and how much his memories are only a tiny sliver of everything that was actually happening. I'm glad I could protect him from remembering those things, cause trust me when I tell you, they weigh a lot, but I'm carrying his weight too, as it should be.
     

    What Family Really Means


     
    My sister, Vivian, has been many things in my life. She has been my sibling, my guardian, and my guidance. She took on the roles of sister, mother, and mentor without complaint or protest. I should have expected as much considering the type of person Vivian is. Throughout my life, my definition of family has always been variable. It changed over and over again as I got older and I would not be surprised if it continued to transform.
     
    We begin this story as a child. When I was five years old, my parents separated. My mother decided, for whatever reason, she didn
  20. viv
    Could you forgive your best friend for sleeping with your partner?
    I don't think Rich swings that way...
     
    How old will you be on your next birthday?
    29 plus 2... check out my math skills baby!
     
    Have you ever seen a live bat?
    I'm sure I have in some zoo or another.
     
    Is there anything/anyone you hate?
    It's hard for me to hate anyone, but lemme tell ya, there are plenty of things I hate.
     
    Are you single?
    Nope
     
    Do you like the color orange?
    On an orange, sure, and on my son... he looks good in orange.
     
    Do you find it in your heart to forgive?
    Yeah, I have to... it's too much to hold inside for me if I don't.
     
    Would you rather not drink or not sleep?
    Not drink... I *like* bed!
     
    Have you ever seen a real redneck?
    You mean like those guys on TV?
     
    Do tattoos and piercings excite you?
    Umm... I think certain piercings are pretty sexy, and some tattoos are cool, but it's not a requirement or anything...
     
    What's the meaning of life?
    I guess I'll find out when I'm done with it.
     
    What size shoes do you wear?
    Nine and a half...
     
    What's your favorite season?
    Hmm, I'm gonna go with fall... still warm out but a cool breeze.
     
    Do you care if people talk smack about you?
    What are we? In Jr. High again... Rich says... now it's defamation of character and I sue their asses!
     
    How long are you on the phone daily?
    Does this count texting? Cause then... carry the 2... A LOT!
     
    Sorry, I forgot to ask your name?
    Umm, thanks? Pay attention this time... Vivian.
     
    Are you in a good mood?
    I'm in a tired, I had to work on Saturday night, and now it's after 2 a.m. mood.
     
    Do you believe in luck?
    Eh... no?
     
    Everything happens for a reason, right?
    So I keep saying...
     
    Would you rather skydive or bungee jump?
    Uhh... sorta anti-death myself, but if I *have* to pick one... Skydiving.
     
    Do you like snakes?
    Sure, I like them just fine in their glass boxes they live in.
     
    Where is one place that you'd like to visit?
    Crap, I only get one? Hmmm.
     
    Do you like waffles?
    Heck yes, I do, with strawberries and whipped cream on top, please.
     
    Anything your looking forward to?
    My next day off...
     
    Do you have more or less than five best friends?
    Hmm, best implies nothing better so I guess by definition, I have to say no, but I really do have several really amazing friends. <3
     
    What would you do if the friend you talk to most stopped talking to you?
    Umm, get a passport?
     
    Does the number 23 have any significance to you?
    Err, nope.
     
    Be honest, do you like people in general?
    Usually... but there are always exceptions... read: IDIOTS!
     
    Big or small dogs?
    Uhh, the only small dog I like is a dachsund with long, hangy-down, furry ears, otherwise big dogs that don't slobber all over everything are okay.
     
    Do you like Big Macs?
    Negative... I have issues with anything called 'secret sauce'... just saying.
     
    Did someone bother you today?
    Eh, it was an okay day on the bothersome scale... plus I was told banana man came into work last night and it was my day off so I didn't have to talk to him! SO YAY!
     
    Sometimes, do you wish you were someone else?
    No way... different circumstances, sure... but who doesn't?
     
    Does someone love you?
    Mmhmm! <3 Lots of people, and I love them right back... PS. I love you, Lisa, so you need to change your answer!
     
    Do you know anyone named Dave?
    HAHAHAHAHA! Absolutely! <3333333333
     
    Recently kissed anyone with the name starting with a R?
    Again, YES! <33333333333
     
    Has anyone ever mistaken you for a family member?
    Not that I know of, but my family is pretty limited so...
     
    Have you ever tried Gatorade?
    Ugh, yes, and only the red, fruit punch flavor will do in HUGE cases of emergency!
     
    Do you think that Starbucks is expensive?
    For coffee, yeah, but in comparison to gas...
     
    Are you named after a family member?
    Nope.
     
    Say you were given a drug test right now. Would you pass or fail?
    Perfect score... PASS!
     
    Are you taller than 5'6"?
    No, and thanks for bringing that up again...
     
    Ever see a dead body?
    Far too many times already.
     
    Do you like the color blue?
    Depends on the shade, I suppose.
     
    How are you?
    Okay, thanks...
     
    Who was the last person to send you a text message?
    Steve...
     
    Last restaurant you went to?
    Uhh, TOGO's... and oh my golly, the RUDEST girl was working there, too!
     
    What is the weather like today?
    HOT! 97 during the day, and when I was driving home at 10:30 p.m., it was 82 still.
     
    Last voicemail you received?
    JOEY!!! With Brendon Urie singing to me, live from the concert in Dallas! <333333333333 Thanks Joey!
     
    What did you do yesterday?
    As little as possible, and murder some more love... after all, I have a reputation to uphold.
     
    What's the first thing you would do with five million dollars?
    Hmm, start a controlled burn of my house and then rebuild it with one that isn't about to fall down.
     
    What nationalities are you?
    Italian, Romanian, Spanish, English, Irish, and German.
     
    How many hours did you sleep last night?
    Umm, well, it was really early this morning, and about 7.
     
    Any upcoming concerts you want to attend?
    Oh, yes! Panic at the Disco in Anaheim on June 14th!
     
    Who's the last person that you felt was stalking you?
    Umm, see that guy over there? *points* Nah, thankfully, no one.
     
    Have you ever been on your school's track team?
    *Answers the question with a question* Have you seen the size of my boobs?
     
    What clothes are you wearing?
    Pajama pants and a shirt... but not for long cause I'm going to bed as soon as I finish this thing.
     
    If all of your friends were going on a road trip, would you?
    Is this a trick question? Like, if all your friends were jumping off a bridge...?
     
    How much money do you have, in cash?
    I have $6.20 in my apron pocket currently, and I know that without having to go check... One $5 bill, one $1 bill, and two dimes. I know, I have issues.
     
    Do you swear at your parents?
    Like it would matter?
     
    Is your phone right beside you?
    Yep, cell and house.
     
    Have you cried today?
    Not today.
     
    Do you think that someone is thinking about you right now?
    Yeah, Rich is probably lying in bed grumbling that I'm still in here typing this thing. I'm almost done, babe!
     
    Do you untie your shoes every time you take them off?
    If they have laces, then yeah.
     
    What are the color of your bedsheets?
    Off-white.
     
    Have you ever crawled through a window?
    Mmmhmm.
     
    Are you photogenic?
    On occasion.
     
    What's your sign?
    Gemini, what's yours?
     
    Where do you spend most of your money?
    Umm, paying my mortgage.
     
    What was the last thing you did?
    Weird question... it keeps changing.
     
    Do you have a tattoo?
    Nah...
     
    Do you still watch cartoons on Saturday mornings?
    No, I sleep in.
     
    Is there a secret you've never told any of your friends?
    I doubt it.
     
    Have you ever changed your clothes while in a vehicle?
    Yeah.
     
    What are you doing in 2008?
    Wondering how it got to be 2008 already.
     
    What is your ringtone?
    Depends who's calling.
     
    What were you doing at 2 a.m. last night?
    Hah... having sex.
     
    Are your parents married/divorced/separated?
    D. None of the above.
     
    What are you doing tonight?
    Working.
     
    What are you doing tomorrow?
    Umm, grocery shopping, and working.
     
    Who did you last message on Myspace?
    My pal, Steve, from work.
     
    What did you dress up as for your first Halloween?
    Not a clue, c'mon, that was like... 29 years ago.
     
    What is the wallpaper on your cell?
    Uhh, the blue windows screen thingy.
     
    Who last made you smile?
    Zoey, my kitten.
     
    The "chosen one" whats his name?
    Depends who's doing the choosing, I suppose.
     
    What's something you MUST do before you die?
    Sheesh, how much time do you have?
     
    Are you single? Do you want to be?
    No, but if I was, then, still no.
     
    What's one thing you will not eat?
    Hmm, lots of things some people find to be delicacies.
     
    What color is your underwear?
    Tonight, gray... Also know that without having to check.
     
    What's your birthstone?
    Pearl or Alexandrite, depending on the chart.
     
    Can you hula hoop?
    Hehe, yep!
     
    Who's on speed dial ?
    I don't speed dial. What's the hurry?
     
    Do you use smiley faces on the computer a lot?
    *nods*
     
    Do you have any friends with benefits?
    Not the sexual kind...
     
    Have you ever enjoyed listening to Jack Johnson?
    A time or two.
     
    Do you have a song by Ozzy Osborne in your library?
    Yep, courtesy of Jeff.
     
    Do you watch Family Guy regularly?
    No.
     
    What is your favorite Disney movie?
    Hmm, not sure... a lot to choose from.
     
    What sport do you dislike most?
    Ugh, honestly... probably boxing.
     
    Have you ever gone scuba diving?
    No, but I snorkeled a couple times.
     
    What's your favorite smell?
    Mmmm, Rich... and peaches.
     
    Do you care what others think about you?
    Not more than I care what I think about me.
     
    Do you follow college football?
    Not unless you count Tony's games.
     
    Where was the last place you went shopping?
    Albertsons
     
    Last time you drank alcohol?
    With Rich, Steve, and Snowy at Anchos. BEST margaritas EVER!!!
     
    Favorite football team?
    *shrug*
     
    Do you watch the Olympics?
    Parts of it.
     
    Were you an outcast in middle school?
    I don't think I've ever been an outcast, thankfully.
     
    Are you multitasking right now?
    No, it's my downtime.
     
    Could you handle being in the military?
    Negative.
     
    Do you believe in Karma?
    Possibly.
     
    What is your school mascot?
    Well, let's see, I know I was a Spartan for 2 years, and then a Rebel for 4 years.
     
    Hugs,
    Viv
  21. viv
    Well, so a very Happy Birthday to Vance today!
     
    And another just as Happy Birthday to Toby... where he lives it's already his birthday, even if it's not quite yet here...
     
    *** Warning - Semi-computer challenged individual speaking beyond this point***
     
    So, last night I installed some new Windows Live software thingy that allowed me to import all my MSN contacts to my email list along with combining all my email accounts into the one Outlook Express thing I use and it seems pretty cool, but I managed to sort of lose all my personal email contacts I had, but then Rich came home and I whined as usual about it and we exported the list from the one and then imported the list to the other and so far so good, I think. I did hear from someone though saying that they had been dropped off my mailing list and that was so what I'm gonna do is... if you don't currently get email updates for my stories, then please send me an email at Viv's Email and I'll add you to the list, okay?
     
    I'm pretty excited about all the changes happening here at GA. It's been such a great place and I've met so many amazing people, some of the most important people in my life today actually, and so I'm so glad to be a part of it and to see it grow into all the things it has become so far. I think congratulations are in order for the newest change or growth, and that is GA becoming a corporation. It's really fantastic to see something you imagined and worked to grow and build, and then have spent so much time making it become what you want, become something even bigger. I just want to say thanks to all the people who spend so much time making GA what it is. There are so many I can think of right off the top of my head, Dan and Robert, CJ, Kevin, Steve, Grame, Joey, and then there's Myr. When I read today that you left work early and spent four hours getting this place back up and running, I was really very glad you did, but also, it reminded me of the sacrifices you make daily to make GA a place for everyone to enjoy, so thank you. You and Joey spend an obscene amount of time doing all the stuff it takes to make GA run and be what it is, so thank you. I hope that if I can ever do anything to help, that you'll not hesitate to ask me.
     
    So, that's about it really... Happy Earth Day!
     
    Hugs,
    Viv
     
    PS. dkstories, I totally pimped you out to a friend who was looking for something sci-fi and good to read...
  22. viv
    Friday counts as part of the weekend, right? It does? Good... cause then I can include how I am now the mother of a fertile, almost-teenage girl... nuff said.
     
    Then, Saturday I had a day that I think I'd like to never repeat again if possible, and it was pretty weird for a lot of reasons. First, a guy I know and love, who's pretty young, asked me when the right time was to tell someone you love them. Then I took my kids to buy some books and a birthday present formy daughter's friend, and then to get their hair cut. My daughter has been wanting to get bangs cut into her hair since her friend has them, and so I told her next time we went, we would look at some pictures, and so we did. Now, instead of looking fourteen instead of twelve, she looks EVEN OLDER! I went to take Rich some lunch and managed to convince him to keep our son with him at work while I took our daughter to her friend's birthday party. It was a pool party, and she wasn't sure she wanted to go because she couldn't go swimming since the day before, her body decided it was time for her to become a woman for the first time, but we went anyway and dropped off a gift. Then we came home and I came inside, and then found my dog lying on the floor obviously sick, so I set the mail down to help her. She could barely stand up and when she did, she walked to the back yard and lay down by a tree and I was crying because I knew something was really wrong, and more because I knew that my daughter would come in the door at any minute from showing her friend her new haircut and then what am I going to do?
     
    Of course, she comes in, and sees me crying and freaks out and is crying too, so I tell her to sit with Ocean and pet her and talk to her while I call Rich, and then I call the vet and I have to carry Ocean to the car since she can't walk, and we drive over, and the whole time Annemarie is being so great! She was telling Ocean that she was going to be just fine, and that she's such a great friend, and that she's a big girl, and that's what Mom and Dad always tell her and they're right, and then I'd cry because I knew that she probably wouldn't be alright, and then she would see me and cry too, until she'd stop herself and say that we need to think positive. She was unvbelievable, really. So I get to the vet and carry Ocean inside and they look at her and tell us she needs some more tests and that they can't do them there and we need to go to the emergency animal hospital so back in the car again and I stop and get Rich and my son since it's on the way and I don't want to have to make these decisions by myself, and then we get to the animal hospital and Rich carries Ocean inside.
     
    So, the vet was looked at her and then came back and said she was very sick, and it seemed that she had an infection in her uterus, which happens sometimes to dogs when you don't spay them, and that it had burst and was infecting her blood and that he wanted to do some tests and left us to think about it, and then as we were discussing it, her heart stopped and she died. Lots of crying and sadness since we have had her as long as we've had our daughter. It's losing a member of your family, you know? We drove home, and my daughter wanted to be with her friends so I let her, and then my son was trying to figure things out and how he should feel and asked me if Ocean was never coming home again and I told him that she wasn't, so then he cried and I held him until he calmed down.
     
    On top of it, and feeling like an ambulance driver, we were only at the emergency animal hospital no more than ten minutes when she died, and all I can think is thank goodness it didn't happen in the back seat of the car with my daughter. And I think I hurt my shoulder/neck lifting and carrying her. She was a sixty-five pound Husky... and while anyone I've actually met will tell you that I'm ridiculously strong for someone my size... I dunno, I guess in my adrenalin-rushed freak out, I probably didn't lift her well and hurt myself. I'll be fine though.
     

     
    I'm not sure I say this very often, but thank golly the weekend is over and I can start over.
    Hugs,
    Viv
  23. viv
    Ryan Ross writes some amazingly kick-ass lyrics... just saying. Besides, Steve thinks he's cuter
     
    So, anthology's up! YAY! I do hope you all enjoy all the reading there is to do this weekend. So far, I've read Faust, Lesfeuxdemoncoeur, DWrites, Libby Drew, Wrath of Magneto, and mine (repeatedly... have I mentioned what it takes to self edit??) All of you have done amazingly! I'll try to go and leave individual comments in your forums tomorrow, but I just wanted to say so.
     
    Take a chance, take your shoes off, dance in the rain. And I was flashing around, and the news spread all over town. I
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