I do believe Ross has managed to give us realism in this pained chapter, Ryan's pain is not being sugar coated as he faces himself. I doubt he will have an easy time coming to terms with his turmoil, it is almost liking for him to find out Santa Clause is not real. Obviously Ryan needs more time to deal with it, a lot more than I would have thought, but he is not giving up either. Somehow Jake sense's this and although not happy, he is relieved to know Ryan just needs time. It is kinda of funny in a way that it is Ryan's problem now, and not Jake's!!